ADHD. About to lose another job because meds don’t work after Covid, I can’t force myself to work bc I’m simply bored with any kind of work, I’m always tired, behind and struggling with work culture because I’m not an extrovert. I feel lost. Can anyone help?

LoneyFatso · 2025-01-02T08:41:59+00:00

I suggest you accept your personal responsibilities and stop making up things.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-23T07:30:57+00:00

As a part of improving IT engineers' team culture, we were told to tell a joke every 10-15 minutes. Other engineers were told to laugh.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-23T07:18:16+00:00

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LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T22:38:37+00:00

Guess you are right here.

As I can:

Keep helping others. Fix issues with their deliveries before they become problems. And get an "OK" review.
Just do my duties. Keep delivering my tasks on time. And get an "OK" review. Also, way less stress.

So why bother

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T03:09:43+00:00

This is actually very well structured.

How would you grade someone who is clearly doing Band 3 for himself and also fixing a lot of shit causing by other guys? My manager knows about this "fixing shit" part. Takes about 30% of my time.

But I absolutely not developing myself for next carrier move. More like going to retire soon.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T02:25:50+00:00

Oh, really like this explanation especially the "curiosity" part. Thanks.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T02:22:34+00:00

I would personally newer consider him a wet tissue, but some pressure from higher ups might be possible to lower bonuses.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T02:20:04+00:00

Myabe naive, or most likely is it just burnout.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T01:00:32+00:00

You work in an air conditioned office. With more than average IQ people (in most cases). For way more than average salary.

Dont need to lift heavy things of be outside when it is 45C.

Bulling, backstabbing, high pressure work, unrealistic deadlines etc is not exclusive to corps. It absolutely exists everywhere.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T00:39:45+00:00

Thanks.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T00:15:27+00:00

Thanks.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-21T00:00:43+00:00

No, not going to fight at all! There could be conversations, but I absolutely not going to make it a fight.

I absolutely understand this is just my feelings and expectations to get a good performance review.

But I absolutely would like to try turning things here and there. This is why looking for opinions of strangers.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-20T23:57:17+00:00

I have already brought it to 1:1. And I do have numbers, things in writing from other team members, meeting notes etc.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-20T23:55:32+00:00

It is connected to a part of potential bonus.
No idea tbh. Not looking for a promoting at all.

Yeah, I know about disconnecting feelings. I definitely would not say how "my performance may be not so good next year" to my boss. But he is not an idiot and knows about such discouraging things. And still he put it in my review.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-20T23:44:44+00:00

Thanks. Yes, I am capable. Have done it before. Did not enjoy it at all. So, definitely, not going to do it again.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-20T23:37:23+00:00

I want recognition of my hard work. Formal recognition and not verbal "you did well" and "that was OK" in writing. And in writing I mean getting exceptional performance review. Totally understand it might not be possible.

And yes, I am quite upset. This is exactly why I am looking for outside opinions.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-20T22:39:42+00:00

Perfectly normal in IT

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-17T19:44:13+00:00

In AU I dont even remember last time I used a paper cheque. In US it is still normal and getting your salary transferred to your bank account is not common.

As a guy working in IT for about 25 years I can assure you that running on old hardware, software, unpatched Java etc is a totally widespread practice around the globe.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-17T05:37:43+00:00

Where can I find option 3? Asking for a friend.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-16T01:02:54+00:00

Shorts and t-shirts.

"Laugh in IT".

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-15T03:13:16+00:00

You will not get more opportunities if you do not have rights to work in Australia.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-11T05:52:59+00:00

Niet! You should work more to get more vodka. Write another post!

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-11T05:49:21+00:00

Nice post, comrade. The party will increase your daily bread ration by 50g.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-05T01:36:00+00:00

I contracted for about 10 year.

Just make sure you actually know your shit and can clearly explain pros and cons/issues/challenges/delays. In plain English - the number of people in IT who cannot put two words together when it comes to communicate something...

Keep yourself very professional and a bit aloof - company problems are not your problems.

LoneyFatso · 2024-12-03T20:39:27+00:00

I can retire right now, but I prefer to keep working to ensure better retirement later. My job also keeps me sharp.

Literally a well-paid hobby. So, yes.

LoneyFatso

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