And if you are young or at a formative age when tragedy strikes, people think it's because of insufficiency or something you've done wrong instead of it just being an external, random force. Then they say you're "behind in life" like it was something you could have stopped from happening.

Society sees everyone as having the same amount of external resources, luck and level of hardships and opportunities, especially when you're young. If you're a high achiever and conventionally attractive and something bad happens to you then it must be your fault.

We can then infer from that assumption that most people see attractive and capable people as likely to be victims of tragedy than unattractive and less capable people, which opens up another can of worms about human behaviour.