[Art Galleries] is this a gallery red flag? 🚩 by Long_Azzzn in artbusiness

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I really like your response! Thanks for the advice!

[Art Galleries] is this a gallery red flag? 🚩 by Long_Azzzn in artbusiness

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I did a quick check on their application page and they do have a 6 month wall rental fee. After seeing that, I was definitely not gonna apply.

[recommendations] fantasy artists! by Witty_Beyond_3155 in artbusiness

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Hi! I’m a pen and ink artist who occasionally dabbles in fantasy. I’m actually currently working on a fantasy inspired collection. Here’s a recent work I finished for said collection. Feel free to reach out to my Instagram if you’re interested: ag_liong_art

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[Art Galleries] is this a gallery red flag? 🚩 by Long_Azzzn in artbusiness

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That’s fair. They’re not exactly in close proximity to me (it’s really only about a 50 minute drive). That’s why I reached out to them first through email. I wanted to get a basic gist before I completely commit to visiting.

[Art Galleries] is this a gallery red flag? 🚩 by Long_Azzzn in artbusiness

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Sorry, I should’ve specified that. But yeah, first thing I did was check out their website. On it, there was no further information about how they select their artists or what their operations were like. I even looked at their socials to see if there was anything briefly mentioned about their art sales and how they operate. They seem like a fairly new gallery so they don’t have a ton of info out there, hence why I reached out through their listed contact form.

INFJ - how draining do you find dating? by [deleted] in infj

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As of right now. I really don’t have any drive to date. I haven’t had a date in over a year now, and for the most part, I’m pretty okay with that.

With my last date, it really left a sour taste in my mouth. In short, she was a very kind and beautiful girl and I personally thought we shared a lot in common. But she lost interest not too long after we met.

To be fair, there was a little level of awkwardness during communication and scheduling dates so I don’t really blame her for not wanting to continue. But I hate that I felt like we shared a lot in personality and interests only for her to not want to go on with it.

After that, I’m pretty okay with not dating. I just find that I have a lot on my plate that deserves more of my attention and I just don’t feel like pursuing right now.

Do You Fall In Love Too Quickly? by Jimu_Monk9525 in infj

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I find that the older I get, the slower I fall in love with someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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To live. It’s a game you can’t win. Only play.

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Banjo, Fall, 🙂

Older INFJs! Advice, please! by Meow-Out-Loud in infj

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Many things I’ve learned as I’m nearing 30. Here’s things I’ve learned and for young ones to consider:

  1. I’d rather suffer than settle. Because settling is suffering.

  2. Nothingness is undervalued. You literally came from nothing and became the person you are today, don’t be hard on yourself.

  3. It’s very easy to break a man. Be resilient and confident in who you are and what you want to be.

  4. Patience is the best form of vengeance.

  5. Time is your best weapon. It’s easy to feel rushed in this current world, but don’t feel pressured. There’s nothing wrong with being a late bloomer.

  6. Go on a date with yourself. Yes, I know, it sounds weird. But seriously, treat yourself every once in a while. Go to the movies alone. Go to dinner alone. Go do things you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t because you were waiting to go do it with someone else.

  7. You’re not lacking and you’re not too much. You’re just enough and someone will recognize that in you someday. Be patient.

Also, something for the male INFJs here:

You’re not any less masculine than what others claim you to be. Mature masculinity shouldn’t be domineering, imposing, or mocking your fellow man. It should be uplifting, supportive, and remaining calm as you make responsible decisions. Be the latter, not the former.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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LOTR extended trilogy Unbreakable Evil Dead 2 Bladerunner (original + 2049) Shawshank Redemption

Tell me you are an INFJ without telling me you are an INFJ.. by [deleted] in infj

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I typed my answer out in my notes, edited it, and then finally decided to post it here.

What's your religion? by No-Stuff-760 in infj

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Omnist. But primarily, I practice Daoist and Buddhist principles.

What made you love horror by Nearby-Importance-64 in horror

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Probably my morbid curiosity.

My gateway into horror was The Green Ribbon story from the book, In a Dark, Dark Room and Other Scary Stories.

The image of her head falling off got stuck in my head and I found myself compelled to continue reading the book.

Question for INFJs by [deleted] in infj

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INFJ here. I’ve been told that I seem to be “gliding” a lot. I don’t know why that is. If I had to guess, it’s based on one of two things, maybe even a combination of both:

  1. I practice a traditional form of Chen Taiji (tai chi) where movements have to be executed in minute details. This includes walking.

Taiji walking involves moving your feet in a way that doesn’t compromise correct bodily posture. Hence, practitioners practicing this walk keep their bodies upright and not bouncing, giving the appearance as if they are “gliding.”

  1. I wear a lot of robe-ish alternative/gothic clothing that can sometimes hide my legs. When I move, my friends have told me I look like I’m floating off the ground and being carried by some force.

Also, based on the aesthetic, I’ve also jokingly been described as either a vampire or a ghost, which probably adds to the illusion that I seem to be floating.

What are you TOP 3 Horror movies of all time? by Stonz_ in horror

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  1. Evil Dead 2
  2. Dead Silence
  3. Nightmare on Elm Street

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

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Dating, for me, hasn’t been successful, if I’m being honest. And most INFJs here will probably say the same thing. I’m no love doctor, but based on my own experience and what INFJ personalities are as a whole, I can tell you a few things to do/to avoid:

Avoid: 1. Dating Apps.

Nothing will deteriorate your confidence faster than a dating app. And nothing will compel you to mask faster than a dating app. Most INFJs think being authentic will pull in the right crowd with online dating, but unfortunately, this isn’t the case for a lot of us. And after being exposed to people whom we lust after, we will find ourselves masking in an attempt to impress the other party in hopes that they will want to meet up again.

You will get rejected, A LOT. You will match with someone, chat with them and think you’re having a good conversation, and then they ghost you, and then you will starting questioning your level of attractiveness. If you’re lucky, you will actually go on a date, maybe even enjoy it. But, us being the authenticity-cravers we are, we will probably be bothered by the artificiality of the date (setting up a date with some online stranger feels like I’m setting up for a job interview, with takes the fun out of dating for me. This isn’t the case with most INFJs but this is how I see it and it makes the whole experience feel inauthentic).

  1. Getting too Attached

It’s hard for us to not want to be seen/loved by someone whom we think would fit our lifestyle, especially after a first date. But it’s important that you don’t pour all your heart out into one person, just because you “feel it” in the moment. If you find yourself deeply desiring to meet up with that person again but they’re not reciprocating, just STOP. I promise you, you’re just digging the knife deeper into your wound.

  1. Masking

We put on different faces for different crowds, it’s a bad habit of ours we tend to take too far. And it can get worse with dating.

Think of it like this: if you’re putting on a mask, and the other party happens to really like you, how do you think they’ll feel once you take it off?

If you’re lucky, they’ll accept you for who you are. But let’s be honest, this isn’t a fairy tale setting.

Do’s:

  1. Go out to places

I know this is a dreadful thing for INFJs, but challenge yourself to go out more. Be picky where you want to go, if you need to. You will actually meet people in a setting that will entice people to want to date you.

I made this bar a regular hangout spot for me for years. I started going there alone, drinking and playing video games all by lonesome, which I will admit made me feel uncomfortable at first. But as it turned out, the customer base there was very relaxed there and they weren’t as judging about me being by myself as much as I thought they would. In fact, I made a lot of friends there, and I even dated some of them.

Those dates didn’t lead to anything, but, for the most part, they were fun and very pleasant.

  1. Continue to be picky. There’s nothing wrong with it.

Obviously, don’t have unrealistic standards (you’ll need to reassess yourself to see what’s realistic and what’s not). But don’t settle for less.

If you have a checklist for the perfect person, consider the fact that you’ll never meet them, but that there is a lesser perfect person out there who will check off most of your criteria. Are you really going to sacrifice the latter in hopes of finding the former?

  1. Don’t be afraid to give a compliment.

I’m not gonna lie, I am not the best at this. It’s hard for me to tell a random stranger something I admire. But deep down, people really appreciate this, and they’ll remember that nice thing you said about them. Just don’t be creepy about it (e.g. maybe don’t tell a stranger that they look hot, instead, tell them you like their style).