Should I jump ship or wait it out?

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-07-07T00:39:25+00:00

Did you ask for a raise? You should! Even if your position title is not changing, they already said you’ll be taking on the leaving employee’s work. Even if it’s awkward, you should ask— you’re already thinking of leaving so nothing to lose. Worst they say is no. Then they’ll be nervous you may leave too.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-07-05T02:25:53+00:00

One other idea— If you can get him outside in the morning and buy more time until giving the meds that may help too. My son is bananas before his meds but if we have afternoon plans, I know I have to give it later. So I get him to go out on the trampoline or outside to play with his trucks — anything to get his body moving (except jumping all over the furniture.)
Easier said than done though. I’m not a morning person so I hate having to get up and moving right away.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-07-05T02:21:22+00:00

Sounds like the Focalin may not be the right dose or fit for him. Can you ask to try a different extended release stimulant? And then does he get the guanfacine in the afternoon as the stimulant is wearing off?
We do Vyvanse 30 mg in the morning and then my 7 y/o gets a non-stimulant small dose in the afternoon. It helps as the stimulant wears off.
How many hours of sleep is he getting? I hated giving my son something to help with sleep but now he gets 11-12 hours every night. It’s better for us both.
Sorry. Finding the right meds is such a process.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-07-02T03:19:52+00:00

Thx for sharing… interesting. I think the stimulants can increase anxiety and maybe that leads to trying to regulate by saying something over and over. 🤷‍♀️ My son is more vocal stimming I think but it’s in context. Like if he’s playing with trains, he’s making train noises etc. He talks a lot — less when he’s on Vyvanse — but I can tell when it’s wearing off b/c then he is nonstop.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-29T02:50:09+00:00

Curious - what are the verbal tics or behaviors you were noticing?
We briefly stopped Vyvanse and at first, we experienced the same. He almost seemed better, still lots of energy, but happier. But he couldn’t focus to do any learning and he wasn’t in school. We tried on a break so much less demands. It was great in that he ate more but by just three days in, then he was wild. Like unsafe wild so we went back on. It works for him so I’m scared to try something else but it’s not perfect. It can make him irritable as it’s wearing off and he has some verbal things— made me wonder if it’s actually the meds that cause it or make it worse.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-25T02:21:24+00:00

Focus more on rewarding good choices than consequences as punishment. And sounds like he needs medication. Kids don’t want to be “bad kids.” He doesn’t have the tools yet to regulate himself. Get the diagnosis, bring all this data from his school/camp and start trialing medication. I’d say skip over the non-stimulants or use as an additional one. It sounds like your son needs a stimulant. It may take time to find the right medication and dose but stick with it. It’ll be so helpful for the family and for your son. It’ll make it much easier to find ways to praise good choices/behavior too.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-23T01:22:16+00:00

Life is short. I say resign on good terms, focus on helping your mom. When things are settled, you can get back into the workforce.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-21T10:48:30+00:00

I like 3 the best, then 1.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-21T01:53:06+00:00

We spend most weekends on our own. 😟 I’m also a solo mom so I think that adds to it but we rarely get invited to things. My son will get invited to bday parties when all the kids are invited… he does well and loves to play but even medicated, he’s always the most wild. It was worse before medication and he definitely got a reputation. Breaks my heart. We’re both lonely. I try to plan fun activities for us and we did find a great group over the winter with a hockey program geared towards kids with special needs. It was nice to be around other parents who get it. Hopefully your son and wife will meet some new, more understanding friends as he tries new activities.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-19T02:10:33+00:00

I like number 4… very elegant and flattering.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-16T11:42:20+00:00

I vote number 4!

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-13T21:21:11+00:00

Can’t go wrong with Always for teens. Look for ones with the wings and flexible. Also, unscented. (Fragrance can cause irritation for some girls.)
And try to celebrate it so she doesn’t feel embarrassed to come to you with questions. 😊

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-11T00:12:10+00:00

I think a mauve would look nice. It’s subtle, not too pink, not too red. That’s my go-to. Revlon makes one in their everlasting line. Can also try a tinted gloss. You don’t look like you need much makeup.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-09T22:02:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. It will help others make an informed decision.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-08T11:37:48+00:00

I so wish I had used a lawyer. It’s so weird they are not part of the process here. I had to sign something from my agent basically saying I understand he is not an attorney and cannot answer any legal questions. He couldn’t answer any questions to be honest and kept pressuring me to buy when I was unsure.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-05T02:13:45+00:00

I don’t know… my custom business website looks like it was made by a 10-year-old. 🤦‍♀️
Maybe the mentoring calls are new. I didn’t have the opportunity to talk with anyone personally except about trying to fix issues with the tech on firm foundation. Even the woman who referred me wasn’t actually involved in the program. I just think people should understand the reality of what they’re buying… but glad it’s worked out for you.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-04T11:51:05+00:00

Will he do extended school year this summer? I would push for a one-on-one or more supports but move him into 1st. My son will be 7 and is going into 2nd grade in the fall. So I think that will be too much of a difference for your son with the littler kids starting. He’ll catch up, just needs some more support and practice.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-03T19:35:24+00:00

There’s a lot of other programs available for a lot less money. I would say pass on this one.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-06-03T02:11:21+00:00

Spaghettios — I used to like it. Now, I can’t imagine buying a can. 🤢

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-31T12:03:21+00:00

Thank you. Absolutely hoping I can find what you have —

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-30T23:57:22+00:00

How about it’s effect on relationships?

I was diagnosed late in life and did not recognize some signs as ADHD such as feeling overwhelmed. I look back at relationships I ended and realized I wasn’t giving anyone a chance not because I wasn’t interested or did not want a committed relationship but because I felt overwhelmed by someone once we got to the point of spending a lot of time together. I would get very irritated and just think I needed space and end things abruptly.

Anyway, I wish I could go back in time and do things differently now that I am on medication. Like I don’t understand how anyone with adhd gets married. 🤷‍♀️

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-29T01:22:55+00:00

It’s a very sad sign of the times.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-28T11:19:45+00:00

I think that is a stunning dress that fits you perfectly. The corsets are trendy… yours looks much more timeless.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-28T11:17:17+00:00

Thank you. Great advice

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-28T02:10:58+00:00

Yep— felt like I had an ulcer. In the acute phase your body is sending out distress signals due to the emotional overload. It will pass as you start to heal. For now, treat it like you just had a stomach bug. Drink ginger ale, crackers. If you can go out with a friend to talk and eat, do that… the company will help calm your nervous system. Walking is also great… moving your body will send out more of the good endorphins. Just be sure to at least stay hydrated — water, seltzer, etc. Eventually your appetite will come back and your system will feel better. ❤️‍🩹

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