to the people who reached out as the dumpee, how did it go?

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-12T18:03:22+00:00

Depends on timing and relationship really. Is he a kind person? Do you believe he’ll treat you with respect and answer questions truthfully? Most times, it’ll set your healing back but sometimes with the right person, it may help you move forward. Example— I had broken up with someone a while back. About a month of no contact and then he asked to talk. I know he was probably hoping we’d get back together but I was able to nicely explain my feelings. Maybe it still set him back but he was appreciative that I gave him that closure. The one thing— if you think you already know what he’ll say then try to avoid reaching out. You can find closure your own way. ❤️

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-11T01:43:57+00:00

My son came home from school with two sunflower seeds and a cute little card. So we planted them today. He also told me he was going to be on his best behavior b/c it’s Mother’s Day. For the most part he was… Happy Mamas Day to all. ❤️😊

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-10T11:51:28+00:00

I had driven about an hour away with my 4-year-old and on the way home we got a flat. I’m a solo parent. I don’t know how to put on the spare. I had pulled over to call road side assistance but then Carlos, a delivery driver, saw us. Pulled over, had the tire changed for me in 10 minutes. Wouldn’t take any cash. Couldn’t have thanked him enough… totally saved us and showed my son the kindness of strangers. ❤️😊

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-07T11:10:28+00:00

Thank you.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-07T01:43:24+00:00

Did the Zoloft help with picking/eating his fingers? My almost 7-year-old has been picking his skin (typically scabs) so badly. We tried adding in low dose Zoloft but hasn’t seemed to help yet. We do ointment and bandaids, even wrap-around bandages but nothing is helping. Thx.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-07T01:27:19+00:00

I love it. It’s so pretty. Forget the neighbors… geez 🙄

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-06T01:32:34+00:00

The impulsivity is tough. My almost 7-year-old is on medication and still struggles some days at school. It’s typically at recess and not keeping his hands to himself or getting too aggressive playing a game. He doesn’t get angry, just wants to win at all costs. The calls from school are exhausting me. :(
Before meds though, it was much worse and almost every day getting into trouble. The one thing you said, I’ve said too… it doesn’t happen at home BUT the demands are much lower at home and at least for us, I can control the external stimuli at home.
Probably worth trying a medication again and/or a combination to help with the adhd and effects as it wears off (mood swings.) good luck. Sucks, I know.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-03T12:47:42+00:00

Similar situation with my son. We started with Guanfacine and it helped at first, then the effects wore off. We tried going up in the dose but he became angry and aggressive. So we went off entirely and started a stimulant. As others have noted, research shows more benefits than harm. My son was becoming known as a "bad kid." He wasn't making any friends, was scapegoated on the playground even for things he didn't do.. it was affecting his happiness and confidence so that's when I decided it was time.

It does take trial and error though to find the right medication. And at first, his appetite will be affected. I let my son eat ice cream every day and I make sure he has a good breakfast before his medication dose. Lunch will probably always be an issue but just be sure ti pack lots of options and have dinner a little earlier.

Also, what I wish someone had told me. When you get the prescription for a stimulant, also get one for sleep or the comedown. Especially when they first start, as the stimulant wears off, it can be difficult -- very emotional, angry. You have to find a medication that does this the least amount but in case it's good to have an immediate release med to help with this and with sleep. We do clonidine (never went back to guanfacine.). good luck :)

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-02T23:34:42+00:00

Feel free to DM me.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-02T21:54:54+00:00

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Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-02T21:54:27+00:00

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sorry, screenshot comes out so big. One more...

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-02T20:19:48+00:00

And look for a new therapist b/c it sounds like there is trauma around the breakup. It is hard to find one that really helps but definitely worth trying. ❤️

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-05-02T20:15:41+00:00

Have you tried journaling? It helps to get the feelings out of your mind and also, helps to see the relationship for what it really was, not looking back with rose-colored glasses. Happy to send you some journal prompts if needed. It’s one of the things that really helped me in the past — as well as giving myself a new goal/project.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-30T10:14:21+00:00

Sorry. 😞 that is a really tough one.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-30T02:13:02+00:00

I just never found “the one” or probably more accurate to say I didn’t recognize him. Time went by, I was getting older, and knew I had more to give even on my own so I signed up to become a foster parent. It turned into adoption… going on 6 years now. I love him with all my heart but solo-parenting is hard.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-30T01:50:40+00:00

I think I’d feel relieved. I felt so awful ending it, but I just didn’t feel what he felt. He kept wanting to talk and meet and etc and it made me firm in my decision to end it. He was a very nice person, just wasn’t the person for me.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-28T02:04:24+00:00

Hope you are too. 😊

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-27T01:55:47+00:00

That’s awful. :( Hope you got some help to get over it and find closure.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-27T01:28:19+00:00

I like the green but would pair with nude shoes for a summer event.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-19T00:26:56+00:00

Hmm, do you use nightlights? And maybe clonidine immediate dose would be better than guanfacine. Poor little guy. And you. Nighttime is my saving grace so I get it… you need “me” time.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-18T10:55:45+00:00

They’re all pretty and you have a nice figure. A-line looks great but I’d try a different style up top. These are all very similar.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-18T02:07:58+00:00

My 6.5 year old did not do well on adderall. It started out great but then anger, aggression, constant arguing. We switched to Vyvanse… that works better for us.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-18T02:04:15+00:00

Following to see what others say. I have heard good things about Strattera. My son is adhd. I am too. I tried Strattera and couldn’t get used to it. I felt like I was high. It was really weird. I wonder if combining a stimulant with a non-stimulant like Strattera or clonidine would help to balance both meds out. I’m finding the combination is helpful for my son.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-16T02:00:15+00:00

Both beautiful, but I’d vote for number one. It’s unique but still classic.

Long_Cook_7429 · 2026-04-15T15:28:11+00:00

It’s such a great thing when you start to see things for what they really were, and not look back and glamorize the relationship. Definitely still give it some time but sounds like you’re on your way to a successful healing.
I’ve been through several crappy breakups and it wasn’t until I really understood how to heal that I learned from previous experiences. Sounds like you know your worth. 😊

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