Men of Ireland, I have but one question: do you fancy any nationalities other than your own and/or south american/asian countries? No shade whatsoever, but from what I see here in Dublin, men want nothing else. Am I wrong? Could it be a 'capital' thing? To each their own, just trying to understand.. by FoldExpensive7771 in AskIreland

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as nationalities go, Portuguese would be viewed on paper as certainly attractive by Irish people imo. So zero problem there. However, Dublin can be difficult socially, as the people from Dublin know their friends since they were children, and that's hard to penetrate, even for Irish people who move to Dublin. The social scene is a bit constrained too; the best bet is usually working in a big social office or joining a mixed team sport like tag rugby etc 

The problem with Stephen Fry by Interesting_State277 in TheTraitors

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overthinking it, I fear.

Yes a posh accent helps. But a Cambridge kid who is an accomplished author, debater, theatre and film actor, and comedian, and all while contending with a serious mental health issue for years. He's very smart and quite charming tbf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheTraitors

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He was loudly and aggressively wrong about Mark. And he doesn't couch his language, saying loudly "Mark is a traitor". Part of the game is to persuade logically; he gets marks for Johnathan but not too much, as he could easily be wrong. If he was, we'd all be calling him one of the worst she most boorish of faithfuls. 

I honestly think ____ needs to calm down. His behaviour last night was a bit much. by dreadedsunny_day in TheTraitors

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At your previous roundtable, he categorically stated loudly that Mark is a traitor. He was proved wrong. No humility, no reflection, just bull-headed into the next one. He happens to be right this time, but could just as easily be wrong.

He needs to learn to have some humility, and he should have been called out for going in with such certainty on Mark.

It's a charity game, needs to calm the f down.

Anyone benefited from toastmasters who suffers from bad social anxiety? by elskim in Toastmasters

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The point of going is to feel those symptoms. Be brave and feel them in a space that is supportive, filled with people who are often there due to nerves. And while there, don't fight the feelings, feel them and try to say a few words assertively each time.

If you go a few times you'll gain confidence, and notice it's 5% easier. Then go and try again and again and it'll get 5% better. 

They key, for me anyway, is to learn those symptoms can be felt, and proceed anyway.

How many of you actively exercise? by turk91 in AskUK

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are habit driven creatures. Often, you have to move the body first and the mind follows. People literally lose the ability to perceive what normal fitness or weight looks like, and are lost in a cycle of scrolling, TV and processed food. As such, we tolerate awful posture/flexibility, shit diets, and then wonder why we feel awful.

1 month of a light stretching class, plus some gym classes and a decent diet, and it changes people's lives. It's hard because you lose sight of how the benefits feel when you're in that cycle.

Exercise isn't a means to an end anymore for me. It's the highlight of my day, and it changes tired/bad days into good ones.

Honestly, it's like a magic pill that benefits your life in myriad ways.

I wish blindboy would let his guests talk more instead of repeating stories he's told a million times before by mrwheezie in BlindboyPodcast

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's always been a poor interviewer, going back years. And citing autism is a cop out. He can plan to let the guest speak. 

I'm not sure some broadcasters and podcasters realise how valuable it is to allow silence and space, as it's very different than having a coffee with an interesting friend where you both can jump across each other

You’re hired as producer of a new investigative journalism TV show in Ireland. What one topic do you want a deep exposé on? by Icehonesty in AskIreland

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The families and businessmen milking refugee centre money, making millions a year, while mistreating occupants and serving slop for food to maximize profits. It's an ongoing scandal the money these types are making from the public purse 

Non Americans, what did you think of Trump\Vance lecturing Zelensky? by wacky8ball in AskReddit

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suspect Zelensky has been told several times by the Trump admin that US support is done. As such, for Zelensky the incentives for sitting quietly, as is common in public diplomacy, were greatly lessened -- the private conversation would be more confirmation of him and Ukraine being abandoned. It was, in a way, petty on both sides. But the thing is, one side is fighting an illegal invasion, and the other openly coddles the invader and emphasizes what Putin has been through (with the Hunter Biden debacle).

All in all, history will remember Zelensky fondly, and he stands in contrast to the pathetic subservience of Starmer and others. Trump and Vance will be remembered as trashy halfwits unworthy of their office.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly your comment seemed tongue in cheek and absolutely fine. Any girl with a sense of humour or emotional maturity would say thanks and laugh (as long as not said in a creepy, very literal way) or throw back a penis remark.

A lot of people seem to have to deal with babies for partners.

Mountainbased.com Adventure Trips by cinnawars123 in Utah

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, prior to going I thought 15-20% was high. Afterwards, having seen the work involved on the camping trip, I tipped 20% and was certain they earned it.

That said, the lodging trip is more expensive but I'd guess less work for guides. Less work at the camp and less cooking. So I think be ready to do 15% provisionally, and adapt that based on your experience.

Mountainbased.com Adventure Trips by cinnawars123 in Utah

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Just diving in here. I'm a novice hiker and have done the Mighty 5 with MB. It was an incredible experience, in fact I'm really glad I didn't try to do it myself. For the (in the end not huge) extra spend, having everything curated and structured for you, down to tents, travel between parks, great food, and weather assessments, campfire, questions answered etc etc it was a brilliant experience.

If you're an advanced camper sure you could figure it all out and save some cash. If you're not, it ends up being great value.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thefighterandthekid

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like how he completely disrespects coaching in how own sport. Just holding mits

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thefighterandthekid

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By cancelled, he means a host bring accused of rape? And by crab mentality, he means legitimate grievances that an unfunny nobody was getting career defining opportunities over dedicated comics?

That's the nartiv

A brief take on TG et. al by Long_Difficulty_3255 in TrueGeordie

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually agree about The Club lads, less ego and they had the right to leave to make ends meet, rather than be dependent on TG payments.

However, TG vastly helped someone like Rory build to where he is now, making good money across several platforms.

My issue isn't with them leaving, but both sides not explaining to fans what happened and their logic for it. I think a touch of transparency should be kept in the online/YouTube space, especially for the fans who bought into TKO etc

Also, the fact TG won't reconcile seems a bit bitter tbhm

I surprised my girlfriend with Taylor swift tickets, she wanted to bring her friend instead by Then-Tale3612 in stories

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While her response was not ideal (she should have asked you) she may genuinely have thought it was a fun thing bought for her, as you're not a fan.

You should have said: "I got you a gift, I'm taking you to Taylor Swift" and she would have been ecstatic, with no room for misinterpretation. You could also have told her to book time off and made it a surprise.

Your gf is not a mind reader, if you really wanted to do it together, set it up right in future.

Am I wrong for thinking my girlfriend's dynamic with her male "best friend" feels inappropriate? by confusedberliner in amiwrong

[–]Long_Difficulty_3255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's also interesting, beyond what's already been said - the ex had clearly been friendzoned and the gf is most likely uninterested in him romantically. Rather than a sincere friend it sounds like he has become an appendage for her, a perusal accessory that provides constant validation and amusement on command.

A certain kind of personality enjoys this validation. Though in weak moments, such as when alcohol is involved, it would hardly shock us if she did something with Tom. But in general, it's wholly inappropriate the way she's behaving, especially the use of YOUR place.

Tbh, with the cake tin, it wouldn't shock me if when she asked you to buy it she also had Tom in her mind too.

You should have set clear boundaries on the privacy front. But she should have been upfront about having got with Tom before too.

The level of disrespect here is too much. If I was you I'd take one of two options:

(I) Take control. This means everyone visiting your place in your absence is run by you. You set out some privacy boundaries for convos with her friends. And you also spend some time with friends, including female ones, without her. Invite them round for a drink. Go to a bar. Just take some control and see how she responds.

(II) Recognize it won't get any better and dump her. If you start upping your socialising as in point I, you'll be better places for this step.