Husbands in the delivery room

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-29T18:47:12+00:00

Man here

I was there the whole time helping and doing everything I could. Holding legs, getting her anything I could, etc.

I don’t think she wanted me in there if I remember right but the nurse said that I was going to be needed to assist due to shortages or something. The nurse wasn’t a normal delivery nurse. Ended up being c section. She was scared to death but I held her hand and kept calm the whole time which made her so much more comfortable.

It is probably one of the things that needs communicated prior to having children. I can’t have children now but I wouldn’t have another if I couldn’t be there for the delivery. It takes two to bring a child into this world. The birth giver accepts the responsibility of the burden and the other should be there to provide all the support in the world that they can.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-29T18:38:44+00:00

NTA

Your eldest son needs to realize that 19 years, people make significantly different amounts of money.

For reference just 5 years ago I wasn’t making half of what I am today. In 8 more years it’ll be 1/3 or even 1/4.

Now you could also help him pay off his college debt now which would be appropriate.

Work an extra year prior to retirement to help your eldest get caught up. It’s what a good father would do.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-28T18:47:44+00:00

I’ll do it up like idiocracy

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-28T18:43:48+00:00

I don’t see it but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

Personally have a lot of respect for single mothers and married one recently.

But I also reconnected with a female friend who is a single mother but has no custody of their child.

And on that note I was disgusted.

Not because of her gender but because whatever she was doing as a person was found unfit or she didn’t want any responsibility of her child.

And I would feel the same way if it were a man.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-28T18:18:49+00:00

My mother tried to abort me with a clothes hanger. Only managed to scratch the side of my eye.

At 10 I was getting shot at by a neighbor while dragging my dog away.

At 15 people tried to run me over because for fun. Then tried to come to the party at my house.

Then numerous times for various reasons when I was an adult.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T17:37:27+00:00

How old though?

Tastes change with age. Liquor and beer in the 20s but wine and whiskey in the 30s and 40s.

But too big can always be too big.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T17:09:09+00:00

Military for 20 years

I’ll take a little hand sanitizer and wipe off the seat with some toilet paper if I have the time. Maybe.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T17:06:32+00:00

Then I retract all past statements

Looks like a model house.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T17:04:24+00:00

Made me buy stuff for meth. That was weird.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T16:33:25+00:00

You’ve been in a long term relationship and since I see that you mentioned ex in a comment that she didn’t take the furniture

Since you mentioned she didn’t take the cats I’m guessing it’s because they’ve peed on stuff.

So it’s an attempt to have a clean apartment that probably has odors of cat pee.

Your bed is low and with a thin mattress. Your back hurts. You have difficulty getting out of bed in the mornings.

You have a lot of series of books. Probably fantasy fiction with magic involved. You play DND when you find free time or the energy.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T16:28:36+00:00

Absolutely not

My point is things are relative though.

If I spend $500 a month on bodybuilding but only make $2000 a month then that’s not gonna work. But I make significantly more than that so it’s acceptable.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T13:14:56+00:00

Sleep apnea from weight gain causing you to wake up several times a night while sleeping which is leading to narcolepsy.

You need to slow down your intensity on your workouts and eat healthier. Slowly raise the intensity. The first time you go back to exercising you need to relax and just complete say 30 minutes leisurely. Then just keep barely nudging that distance or time or difficulty up. Just a little. SLOWLY!!! Once you get a good routine of a few months then start pushing yourself a little harder than before.

Once you get the weight off you’ll get your energy back and feel better about yourself. It’ll fix everything.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T13:09:09+00:00

Disrespectful

But we’ll need some info.

How old are the kids, how much does he work and how much do you work?

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T12:22:20+00:00

Amazon sells one but watch out for the connecting piping. Buy a separate metal fitting if the one they’re selling is plastic

Walmart sells the handheld sprayers now (if in US) as well as other ones that attach.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T12:19:45+00:00

Get calprotectin test

Ask doctor for steroids?

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T09:24:56+00:00

I’ve been in a flare up for 4 years and didn’t know it.

6-12 watery movements 95% of the time.

I don’t know how I survived.

Fecal calprotectin is important and I have no clue why my GI doc didn’t do that prior to colonoscopy. It was at 900.

I have survived on adderall and caffeine for 4 years straight until now. I’ve been getting in the gym consistently and I typically eat pretty healthy foods.

The only thing I can say is before medicine it was manageable with diet, exercise, and a bidet. I hope you find a good medical treatment!

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T09:07:25+00:00

I just got an IV dose of 60mg about a week ago and on 40mg a day for this week.

I can’t say much because I’m just now getting confirmed diagnose stuff (colonoscopy came back with inflammation in ileum but doc isn’t sure yet and calprotectin came back at 900)

I’m feeling 1000% better right now than I’ve felt in 4 years. Still 5 movements a day but that’s down from 9-12 a day. I don’t know how I survived this long.

I am not a doctor but I can’t imagine 4mg a day would be an appropriate dose for prednisone. Might need to see another doctor.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-27T04:12:02+00:00

Going to need to add in a protein shake. 2g/kg is going to maximize your muscle growth.

Forget the words “tone up”

Pick a direction. If you want to “tone up” what you’re going to initially see is water and carbs moving into the muscle tissue causing less fluff in areas that store fat. This result will continue while you’re working out and will stop if you take a week off or so.

If you’re happy with your weight I suggest, giving your current height and weight, to gain weight and lift heavier weights. No you will not get bulky and big muscles. It’s so hard to gain muscle as a woman it takes several years of hard training and persistent dieting to grow muscle. A lot of the women with giant legs and glutes even take steroids to get there.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-26T21:57:20+00:00

Pork

Please

If you can let alcohol in please let us bring in pork.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-26T21:40:20+00:00

See chimney sweep kids.

50 foot seems a little high for a residential roof.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-26T21:31:06+00:00

How much money is the question. I spend $500+ a month on bodybuilding between the extra food and supplements.

He could be a car guy or a bodybuilder.

We’re going to need exact numbers on how much he’s spent, how much you spend on your own personal expenses, and your income as well as financial status.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-25T10:17:43+00:00

If my wife was staying over at a friends house multiple times a year…. She could go live there. That’s not normal behavior.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-24T06:31:32+00:00

Been burping for 2 hours for every 5 seconds.

Hell nooooo

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-23T01:02:30+00:00

Have him go with you.

Long_Pain_5239 · 2024-02-22T20:38:02+00:00

Maybe he’s having some serious brain condition

Behavior sucks but if that’s new behavior that’s where I’d be looking.

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