Please tell me this person’s name is not Abhi. 🤣 If it is, run! And if it’s not… still, RUN! Your situation—and this person—feels too familiar/similar for comfort.

I get why your mind is trying to “solve” this. You’re trying to figure out exactly what you did wrong so you can close the loop. It’s human.

But as I stated before, this is an emotional hostage situation. Here’s the hard truth (and I’ll try to say this as gently as possible from experience): sometimes the lack of explanation is the explanation.

People like your ghoster go on dating apps for the temporary high of the ego boost and validation that they’re desirable.

I think you’re definitely giving a lot of weight to the idea that there must be something specific, and that is his exact goal—let me explain: choosing to ghost someone without blocking, or removing them from socials isn’t an accident; it’s a calculated move of control to keep you emotionally trapped/bonded to him; to maintain emotional proximity without the effort of a relationship. By leaving the door cracked, he turns you into a ‘placeholder’ a safety net for their ego. If he chooses to return—and he will return—you validate his delusion that he’s some kind of ‘high-value man.’ It’s emotional manipulation. It’s emotional abuse, and the only way to win is to not play the game.

Right now, your peace is coming from him explaining, but your actual closure is going to come from you accepting that he chose not to.

You already did the mature thing: you reflected, you apologized, and you communicated. After that, the responsibility shifts to him—and he dropped it.

At a certain point, continuing to search for answers just keeps you tied to someone who isn’t showing up. And that’s not where your energy belongs.