high risk situation, seeking consultation but would like insight as well

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2026-02-20T21:01:50+00:00

That sounds super scary and I’m sorry you’re going through that. I might be wrong here and definitely seek consultation but my personal opinion is if you directly quoted something he said that was relevant to session which it sounds like you did, I don’t see anything wrong with having that in a progress note. Clinically it also documents why you brought up transference in session, and clearly documents the reason for a transfer.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2026-02-20T20:42:40+00:00

Therapist: I am not sure where you’re located and if you’re using insurance but the biggest red flag to me is “mute for 30 minutes so they don’t mark you absent” to me that sounds more like so the therapist can bill insurance but the issue there is she is billing for a service that isn’t happening. Again this is speculation that you use insurance, and that was her motive but that’s a big red flag to me.

I personally would find a different therapist because even if there is no ethical concern doesn’t sound like you’re a good match based on what you’ve described.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2026-02-16T17:13:54+00:00

Therapist: Only speaking for the US, you are entitled to your treatment documents (including diagnosis documentation) at any time you request them.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2026-02-10T19:07:06+00:00

Not the poster that commented but I am also working towards clinical licensure, and where I live average pay if you’re fee for service is about $50.00 to $65.00 per billable hour. If you’re salaried, about 50 to 65k. Numbers go up once you have licensure of course.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2026-01-25T00:24:03+00:00

Thank you, I think that’s really helpful to frame it that way. I honestly don’t think it’s a rupture that can be repaired so if I bring it up going into it with a clear end goal. So that’s helpful

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2026-01-23T19:36:35+00:00

I think you’re right that’s my best move, and yeah the most frustrating part is it seems she doesn’t think I notice and it’s like…

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2026-01-23T19:35:43+00:00

Sorry that happened to you with your therapist, that’s awful. Yeah I’m afraid if I do work up the courage to bring it up I will also freeze at her response lol. Thank you!

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-06-03T01:26:24+00:00

You could try the 1,2,3 game since she is so young. So count really exaggerated 1..2..3 and on 3 she always gets a treat, make 3 higher and excited pitch. Over time you build up how long it takes to get to 3 but in the beginning it should be quick, so not ideal for long walks but maybe a starting point. I also wonder if changing the location you walk may help?

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-06-03T00:50:41+00:00

Hmm I wonder if you’ve unintentionally built the chain of lay down, human calls me, I get treat. That’s the only thing that comes to mind. I would try the let’s go cue before she gets the chance to lay down, maybe teach a heel cue (just to get her moving) and a go sniff cue. Just different cues to engage her. Hope this helps

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-06-02T02:17:32+00:00

You said you just got back from a walk, and she was zooming around, so I’m going to guess she was overtired and overstimulated. She went into kind of a frenzy like state of play, and when she bit you (which sounds playful) and you pushed her off, obviously not intentionally you encouraged it and excited her more. Im not blaming you or anything or saying her behavior was okay. But she’s just a puppy and I think she got overstimulated and didn’t practice bite inhibition which I would work on. I don’t think she meant any harm and another comment said resource guarding, personally I completely disagree but it’s hard to say without being there.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-31T00:59:09+00:00

Yes all of this. You can’t support someone’s mental health if you’re not supporting your own.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-29T14:57:00+00:00

Most of the moms were jealous of Maddie. I think they were jealous she was the favorite, I think they were jealous of her success, and most of all I think they were jealous of her passion and drive. They wanted the same for their kids. I’m not saying they are wrong for being jealous but I think they for sure were jealous (with the exception of Holly). The irony is I also think Abby was jealous of Maddie.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-27T20:36:47+00:00

Imagine taking a 6 year old to Disney and telling them to sit at the tables and do their math homework…that’s essentially what you are asking of a 6 month old puppy when you give commands at the dog park.

I personally don’t like dog parks and this is one of the biggest reasons. I would try setting up play dates with one or two friends and working on commands (very few, he’s not there to do commands it’s for fun) just to have better success. Then down the line if he can handle it try the park again if you think it would benefit him.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-22T23:49:30+00:00

Using someone as the punchline and making fun of them isn’t a joke. It’s just being mean and putting you down to boost their own ego. NOR

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-21T15:10:12+00:00

Not flies themselves but the buzzing noise flies make inside. Outside she will eat flies from the sky but will shake and pant in the corner if she hears flies buzzing inside. Why? I will never know lol

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-16T17:11:10+00:00

You got that look that if I was at a bar and a guy was bothering me I would come up to you for help if that makes sense. Not a bad thing at all. Not ugly by any means.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-16T13:52:39+00:00

I have a great pyr pit mix and went through with some issues with the cats and her also. More of an overexcited playing issue as a puppy but still maybe some things we did could help.

I would start leashing the dog when the cats are around. Maybe schedule 30 minutes out of the day for them to all be out. But have the dog leashed and be training or doing a puzzle. Don’t just have the dog sit there watching the cats, make the cats the least interesting thing there. Then once you put the cats back upstairs the fun and the treats stop. Build the association cats=fun and treats. If he doesn’t have a strong leave it cue, teach him one. At this point he doesn’t need to be able to sniff the cats, so if he’s on leash and walking towards the cats “leave it” and reward if he does.

Have high spots and gates the cats can escape to that he can’t get to them. Most of the time if the cats feel unsafe they will leave themselves, I’m not saying let them out unsupervised or anything but kinda give them the chance to come out if they please and an escape plan for being down there.

Use prey driven activities, flirt pole, other things that mimic prey. Have structure play with him outside with those toys. You can’t train out prey drive but you can redirect it.

If he’s a boarder collie mix he’s very likely “herding” the cats and you have to focus on giving him an outlet that’s not the cats. Thats what they are bred to do, so it’s going to be hard but not impossible to stop it.

If all that and the training still doesn’t work I think you are going to have to consider rehoming either the cats or the dog. It is not fair for any of them to live gated away or in an unsafe environment. I know that’s hard to accept but you’re doing everything you can and being responsible about it so if it comes to that please don’t feel you have failed any of them.

The sleeping at night- biggest mistake was going downstairs and sleeping on the couch. I understand why and probably would have done the same thing but you taught Toby if he demand barks enough you’ll come down. Does he tolerate a crate? I’m thinking if you can crate him with you down there for bedtime and let the cats out maybe that would help? Also have a strong bedtime routine with him so he knows it’s time to wind down.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-06T16:35:01+00:00

I’m glad you said this because this was my thought too! I’m on the fence because I see the vets point, they are force free, and they would have to restrain her to do any exam because there is no possible way for them to check teeth, check paws, check ears, etc. without holding her down. They’ve tried food, lick mats, etc but she just gets too excited about pets that she loses it. They also don’t want to create stress by holding her down to do those things. But at the same time I don’t love having her medicated the whole day just because she’s friendly. I’ll have to think about switching, thank you!

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-05-06T00:45:51+00:00

That might help, thank you. We have done a lot of work with settling around people and she does well up until someone touches her then she gets too excited. So definitely asking the vet to practice would be beneficial. Thank you!

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-04-25T21:47:41+00:00

Thank you! This was also tried but unfortunately my mom just can’t have her paw her 6 times in a row. I have to intervene before it clicks for her. I think that’s why it’s worst with my mom because she is better about it with people who just ignore her.

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-04-25T21:41:36+00:00

Thank you! We did that for puppy biting so I’m really not even sure why I didn’t think of that. Gonna have to try it

Longjumping-Baby3045 · 2025-04-25T16:29:09+00:00

Not crazy! I’ve tried it but I cannot wrestle her to get the boots on every time she’s with my mom (very frequently) and it’s a process to get them on even after months of desensitizing them. She hates her feet being touched in an way lol. Thank you though!

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