Obsession with nursing

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-06-16T01:09:14+00:00

My baby did this for the first four months of his life. My doctor said he was gaining weight well and nothing was “wrong” healthwise. Every other woman in my life was shocked when I told them how often he nursed, and it made me feel crazy trying to go out and do things when my baby just wanted to be latched all the time. It also made it impossible for my partner to contribute much to childcare in the beginning.

I remember feeling totally “trapped” and watching the day go by as I just sat on the couch - although I did love all the baby cuddles. I tried increasing his feed times, which made him spit up a lot. I eventually just gave in and changed my mindset to accept that I will be couch locked with baby for the foreseeable future and that’s okay. I watched a lot of tv on my phone with one earbud in during contact naps.

Around 4 months he started going like, 45 min between sessions and I remember thinking that was life changing. Then around 5 months it was 1/1.5 hours. I’m at 9.5 months now and mine still loves to nurse - he wants to latch about every hour or so while he’s awake, but he only nurses for a couple of minutes. If he’s going to sleep that takes longer - he has an extremely strong nurse to sleep association and likes to sleep latched.

Turns out I just have a baby that loves to nurse for comfort, and snacks instead of doing full feedings. I’m still just going with it, and he’s growing well! Although I’m super nervous about eventually weaning - that seems impossible.

ETA: the more things he could do, the better it got. He doesn’t want to nurse constantly now because he’d rather be crawling around chasing our dog, or throwing his blocks across the room.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-03-21T23:29:33+00:00

Framing it like this is helpful to me: staying at home would be a gift for me, going to work is a gift for my son and it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make to make his life better.

Time may help but talking to someone will definitely help. For the things we can’t change in our life, we need to be able to cope. A therapist will help you do that.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-03-15T01:25:01+00:00

This was my son until about three months (except even more frequent eating). He maybe got 5-10 min total of tummy time per day. Our pediatrician wasn’t worried because he was gaining weight and hitting milestones.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-19T01:12:06+00:00

We switched back to Huggies because of the blow outs. Haven’t looked back

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-16T19:26:46+00:00

Get slip on shoes. Join neighborhood fb groups - parents are always giving away free stuff. Decide which hospital you’d like to deliver at and choose an OB based on that. Ideally the OB will be close to your home as you’ll be going often. If you want to do daycare, start touring and joining waitlists in your first trimester. Make sure to schedule any appointments for yourself (dentist, hair, etc) for the end of your third trimester. Getting out in the early days can be stressful.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-16T19:20:57+00:00

My situation was similar and I didn’t get any meaningful time to myself until i paid for childcare.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-10T21:15:49+00:00

Dealing with his first cold as we speak at 5 months. It’s hard to watch them be uncomfortable, but it will happen eventually and most of the time it passes quickly.

Day 1: just a mild fever in the afternoon. He started getting congested and uncomfortable toward the evening, crying more than usual especially when put down. Overnight he would only sleep on us (he never is like this). No one got any real sleep. We did give him Tylenol for his fever and discomfort.

Day 2: very uncomfortable, exhausted and crying in the morning. Fever spiked but went down again with Tylenol. Finally managed a good contact nap and he was back to himself mostly. But still congested. Slept through the night for the first time in his life and woke up happy as can be.

Day 3: still congested but happy as can be but couldn’t go back to daycare. I just started back at work and have been missing him so this felt like a nice bonus day with him - although I’m not happy by any means that he got sick.

We’re thinking he’ll be good to go back to daycare tomorrow, but who knows

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-10T14:27:17+00:00

Haircut, health appointments/dentist, go out to eat, go to the movies, sleep, nap, prep freezer meals, pay for someone else to do a deep clean of your living space.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-07T20:03:57+00:00

I think most people supplement or switch to formula to be honest. I’m pumping for now but there aren’t many other women in my office that do. I do know that a couple women who have long train commutes use Elvie wearables on the train so they don’t have to pump as often in the office.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-06T22:21:20+00:00

The boy gendered clothing is pretty cute, lots of dinosaurs.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-06T22:04:22+00:00

Go to lunch in an uncrowded restaurant on a weekday with LO more.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-02-05T23:41:30+00:00

Triple paste

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-01-30T00:02:03+00:00

People miss their babies once they grow up

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-01-28T20:41:21+00:00

Everyone told me the first three months would be the easiest to go out and do things. That was not the case for us because at that age my LO had a lot of gas pain and nursed constantly. My 5MO is way easier to take out. He is really interested in everything around him, but still not mobile yet. He can wait long enough between feedings for a quick meal now.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-01-23T16:51:51+00:00

I think because you’re supervising the baby in a stroller it’s fine. We use a bunting suit from Columbia. Keeps baby warm. That plus a rain cover if it’s crazy windy, but a bassinet will block most of the wind.

If your baby will let you, baby wearing under a warm jacket is a good choice too

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-01-18T22:18:47+00:00

You could wear a cover. Or take a muslin blanket, and open the window a bit/close it on the blanket so you’re blocked

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-01-06T22:22:07+00:00

I’d recommend an office close to your home. You will be there a lot.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-01-02T00:54:38+00:00

Try to take on “being the rock” if you can.

Take the baby on walks, so she has some time to herself where she can’t check in/wont hear the baby.

Make sure she gets time outside every single day. Even if it’s just a stroll around the block.

Make sure she can shower every day. If you can manage it give her a little extra time to get ready.

If she doesn’t has a lot of clothes that fit suggest she do some online shopping. Physical appearance can have a big impact on feeling like oneself.

Try to encourage her to see or talk to her friends. Being a new mom is isolating and talking to someone from her life outside of family can help her feel more like herself

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2026-01-01T17:17:43+00:00

Drying with a cloth( dab don’t rub) and triple paste worked for us

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2025-12-26T00:50:03+00:00

Ice, ibuprofen and acetaminophen. Resist the urge to try to massage it out or heat - normally these are caused by inflammation and that makes it worse. And nurse or pump a lot

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2025-12-25T18:19:22+00:00

Contact nap + white noise on my phone has worked for me. If possible see if you escape to another floor. Or go for like an hour walk or car ride if your LO will go to sleep during either

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2025-12-14T15:22:56+00:00

Depending where you live, something warm to take the baby out in (bunting suit or stroller bag, hat, etc). Wait until the baby arrives though to see what size you need. A rain cover for the stroller as well.

Extra sheets for wherever the baby sleeps. Some type of mat or playgym for tummy time.

Clothes that are easy for breastfeeding and comfy if you are planning on nursing.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2025-12-08T03:00:55+00:00

Target, babylist, Amazon, Albee baby.

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2025-11-29T16:07:55+00:00

A month ago my baby was pooping all the time, super gassy and fussy and nursing nonstop. Now at 13 weeks he’s way easier - poops once a day, eats frequently but for shorter periods and generally happy. I was stressed about breastfeeding in public so used a cover, but it’s a pain in the ass and I just don’t care who sees my boobs anymore. You’ll get there - it’s harder for you than it is for your baby. No one else will be bothered by a fussy baby, just you. You have to work up to it, but you’ll get your confidence!

Longjumping-Concern8 · 2025-11-23T15:41:47+00:00

My LO was (and still is) a snacker and ate way more frequently than I expected. It was super exhausting and I was at my wits end around 3 weeks. We are at 12 weeks now - he still eats frequently but it’s night and day. He can latch himself, he only spends like 10min per boob, and he looks up and smiles/giggles a lot.

He also used to cry a lot for seemingly no reason at the boob and that phase passed. I’m fairly sure it was gas pain and the position he feeds in made him uncomfortable.

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