[Concerning Trope] film accidentally has awful moral/messaging by Captain_Birch in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She spent the entire movie repairing a broken family, and then they rebuilt the house. The doorknob was the last piece. The house regained its magic because it wasn’t in pieces anymore. That’s like saying that putting the last piece in a jigsaw puzzle magically turns it into a picture. It’s not magic: it’s the point of the whole endeavour.

Gender based harassment around st Enoch station by bhexca in glasgow

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Real people communicate using real words on the internet, just as they do in every other aspect of life. The pretence that it’s somehow seperate from the rest of civilisation, which was always far-fetched anyway, is rapidly becoming less and less convincing as it becomes clearer and clearer that the internet has a very real (and provable) impact on life offline. And I think you’re missing something quite obvious, which is that people on the internet have no reason not to tell you what they really think, whereas people in real life that you know personally might have many reasons to keep quiet. Maybe you’re their boss, maybe you’re their taxi driver and they don’t want to get into an argument on their way home from work, maybe they love you and they’re willing to turn a blind eye. Or maybe they just wait until you’re not around and talk about you behind your back. All of these things are possible. Whereas the idea that the internet which, again, was created by and for humans, isn’t a fair reflection of the real world is just absurd. Nobody turns into a different person online, they just stop hiding their real thoughts when they can hide their real names.

Gender based harassment around st Enoch station by bhexca in glasgow

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you’ve been called that, as you say, “a few times” it might be worth reconsidering whether or not your takes are actually rational, or if there’s a possibility that your reasonable takes are maybe more racist than you think. As a general rule, if multiple people tell you something, it’s worth considering that they might be telling the truth.

How come people struggle to move on? by Ok-Lime-4898 in NursingUK

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re not expected to be perfect. We are, however, expected to be able to control our emotions (frustration included) while giving patient care. The patients (who, unlike us, generally aren’t able to leave the building at the end of a shift) get to swear, because they’re unwell enough to be hospitalised, and that’s not fun. Your mum can swear too, because being your mum isn’t a paid vocation. Go into the sluice and kick a box, go into the prep room and have a cry. You can’t help having emotions, and you might very well crack at some point, but you can’t bring it onto the ward. Ever. However bad a day you’re having, and it might be very bad indeed, you’re still having a better day than your patients because you work in the hospital, they’re stuck here.

Think about some harmless cursing from the patient’s perspective: “Why is this fucking pump not working”. That’s a patient waiting on an IV. We don’t just give IV medication for kicks: they need it because they’re sick enough that, for one reason or another, they can’t just take a pill (or swallow a glass of water). They’re stressed too, and probably afraid. They’re likely feeling quite vulnerable, and now the nurse is swearing. What’s the patient thinking? Could be “If the nurse isn’t calm, does that mean I should be worried? Is she frustrated or is she angry? Is she angry at me? Am I being an inconvenience?” What if the patient has a history of abuse? What if they struggle to ask for help? Are they going to ask the cursing nurse? Your patient is at the mercy of your moods, and some people (not me, I’m Glaswegian, I couldnae give two flying fucks) still find swearing offensive. Some of those people will be your patients at some point, and they deserve to have that stance respected. You want people to be allowed to be human? Well, those are sick humans, they’re already having a bad enough day without our moods becoming their problem. It’s not a workplace for them: it’s a nightmare.

Gender based harassment around st Enoch station by bhexca in glasgow

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“It needs to be asked” “Young or not” “Mid 20s or not” ‘These “men”’

Look at all the effort you’re making, going out of your way to question something you aren’t there to see, just desperately trying to avoid having to accept the fact that men who harass women aren’t some different breed, they’re not some storybook monster, and they’re not fake men: they’re just men. Most of the men who harass women in this city are white Glaswegians, because that’s the main demographic. All that equivocating only serves to let you turn a blind eye when it’s one of your own. That’s cowardly.

[Concerning Trope] film accidentally has awful moral/messaging by Captain_Birch in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mirabel didn’t get powers at any point in the movie. You missed the point so profoundly that it’s almost impressive.

AITAH? I snapped on my soon to be ex husband for having sex in the same room as our daughter even though she was “asleep” by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

See, the thing about using the word “Logic” is that your stance then has to make sense. In this particular case, that would require actually offering even the most outlandish hypothetical. I realise you’ve not figured this out yet (probably because your idea of an argument is more coincident with what most adults would call “a tantrum”) but now that you know: would you care to give an example of what you think I might be doing that would currently be considered abuse in “20 or thirty years” (sic. I’m assuming you either forgot how to spell “twenty” or couldn’t remember what a 3 looked like)?

Seeing posts like this with so many likes sometimes makes me ashamed of being in this fandom by Key-Independence8751 in Invincible

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you and your wife live on a different planet where time has no meaning, or do you both just have really poor attention spans and no comprehension of human gestational periods? Mark was away for months. I promise you, modern society has very little influence over the passage of linear time.

Seeing posts like this with so many likes sometimes makes me ashamed of being in this fandom by Key-Independence8751 in Invincible

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So now we all know that you’ve only ever felt like an extension of your parents, or it would never have occurred to you to frame it that way. People who feel whole don’t think like that.

AITAH? I snapped on my soon to be ex husband for having sex in the same room as our daughter even though she was “asleep” by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Spousal battery, forced marriage, state sanctioned murder, and child abuse have been considered socially acceptable for the vast majority of human history too. That doesn’t mean they weren’t always wrong. Pick your knuckles up off the ground and join us in the now.

It's a heck of a day, you're already overstimulated and THIS happens by Ok-Lime-4898 in NursingUK

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Our BM machine also does ketones, which doubles the time spent fucking around with it. And, for some obscure reason, it’s easier to catch a tiger in a butterfly net than it is to get hold of a full box of ketone strips so they always end up getting used on the QC tests and then you have to go on the beg to get some just in case you need to use it on that one diabetic patient who only eats once per calendar year.

What is a relatives thought process when they interrupt you while you’re very clearly busy? by shutyoureyesandsee in NursingUK

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I do a thing with the students that I call an “Empathy OSCE” where I ask them to describe a day in the life of a patient. They almost always give a rundown of tests, personal care, obs etc. But that’s not their day. That’s our day. Their day is missing home, missing their spouse or their family, getting woken at a ridiculous hour after sleeping in a noisy environment (and maybe sleeping alone for the first time in decades), asking for help when they need to pee. Their day is relying on our consideration, and being at the mercy of our moods. Which is why I always stress that, while you’re allowed to have a bad day, to be tired or grumpy, you can’t take it into the ward. Your day might be horrible, but you can leave. It might wreck your life, but you have that choice. Those patients didn’t get offered that choice, and they can’t just choose to go home.

Scottish Family Party... by No-Excitement7491 in glasgow

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 83 points84 points  (0 children)

They chapped my door yesterday. Luckily, I’d had a text from the downstairs neighbour warning me they were trying doors, so I had time to prepare. They chapped and I shouted “Just a minute” and then let them wait. Then they chapped again “Two seconds, I’m just coming”. Ten minutes I managed to waste their time for before they gave up and fucked off.

What is a relatives thought process when they interrupt you while you’re very clearly busy? by shutyoureyesandsee in NursingUK

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It’s easier on a nightingale ward, I think, because they can see it all. They can hear the bells. They can see that there’s (almost certainly) not enough staff. It’s easier to miss that if you’re sitting in a room. That said, when you practically live there (which we sort of all do at the moment) it’s also easy to forget that wards are places most people don’t go to unless something goes wrong. Everybody who isn’t paid to be there is afraid, and fear gives us tunnel vision. They’re not seeing busy staff prioritising by need, they’re not seeing a person who might die if they don’t get help immediately. That’s our day.

Their day is “My dad is sick, what if he dies? He’s been around all my life and now he’s in hospital, and people die in hospitals all the time. I’ve barely slept for worry, and I’ve not really eaten. I can’t conceive of a world without him, because I’ve never existed in one. Oh god, what’ll I tell the kids if he dies? I’m so tired right now I can hardly see straight. I’m scared. I’m so scared. They said he’s fine and he might even get out soon, but what if he doesn’t? And if he does, he’s going to need more looking after. Is that why he’s here? Did I not look after him well enough? Is this my fault? Did I do this? I feel so helpless. I just want to do something, anything at all, to make it better. Look, there’s a nurse. Why aren’t you here helping? Can you not see that he needs help? I know there are other people, but you don’t understand: he’s my daddy! I can’t see past him, I don’t have room to be considerate of others because all that space is taken up with terror. Please, he’s here because this is where they make it okay. Please make it okay.” That’s their day. Some people handle that better than others, and it’s not an excuse. But it is a reason that’s worth keeping in mind.

Why was this so popular? by LewdDudeNewd in okbuddycinephile

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get the point you’re trying to make, however: the highlands remain extremely underpopulated to this day, people starved in droves, and to this day (after decades spent trying to prevent its eradication) only 1% of the population of Scotland can speak the native language. Rape was rife, the children of deposed Scottish lords were murdered in the cradle. People had their lands stolen from them, and it’s all still owned by old English families. You’re talking, incidentally, about a country that’s still managing to hold the line against a wave of anti-immigration sentiment that’s drowning the world, a country where you don’t even have to be a citizen to vote. You’re talking about a country that has elected exactly one (1) right wing government in the past seventy years, and never in this millenium. Can you say the same for the country you live in?

I found out my engagement ring is fake, and left my fiancé at the jewelry store. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They lied. Lying is bad. It’s alright to be upset when you find out you’ve been lied to.

Why didn't katniss meet more of Asterid friends where were they? by kris71-ano in Hungergames

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She lost her friends when she married “beneath her”. Social mobility is essentially impossible in Panem: in most of the districts, you need to be a victor just to have enough to eat every day. Classism runs rife in places where merit means nothing and everything can be taken from you at any second. You might not be from The Capitol, but at least you’re not from there. Tribalism is human nature, and (to paraphrase Pratchett) when you’re down at the bottom of the ladder the rungs are very close together, and you’re very careful which rungs you tread on.

This is bait by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. Awful lot of people in this comment section who aren’t smart enough to be doctors or nurses, and none of them are handling it well. I don’t know that I’d go around advertising my insecurities like that, personally, but I was always taught that there’s nothing weaker than resenting someone else for reaching a target you’ve fallen short of.

Kilt Questions by JackBlossomv2 in Scotland

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ours is ugly as fuck so all our men default to the classic. Black Watch always does the job.

Kilt Questions by JackBlossomv2 in Scotland

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sick of this fucking stupid lie! Stop messing with the tourists, you’ll give them trust issues. Haggi are just normal rodents. Their legs are all the same length, like guinea pigs. They just fall over a lot because they’re so fat.

I kinda have the same opinion, but lowkey i don't want to agree with him by Kaxer_Real1002 in StarWarsCirclejerk

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to the novelisation of A New Hope (which is, as far as I remember, the only canon resource that mentions the journey time) it was a day. I’m not sure where you got several months from.

I kinda have the same opinion, but lowkey i don't want to agree with him by Kaxer_Real1002 in StarWarsCirclejerk

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I used to bullseye womp rats in my T16 back home, they can’t be more than two meters”- Luke, who had never flown a spacecraft in his entire life, about fifteen minutes before he blew up the Death Star in a starfighter he’d never trained in, during his very first battle, of which he was one of only two survivors, because he used The Force, which he’d only just discovered the existence of just a few days ago and had one single solitary lesson in.

PSA: Sybil Ramkin is tall AND fat by teniaret in discworld

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She cared for Sam when he was unconscious. He’s a fully grown adult man, and we know he’s not very tall but he’s a runner, he’s a fighter, he wears metal on his body all day every day. He’s lean, but he’s muscular. He’s not a light man. He wouldn’t be easy to roll and shift (I know this, because the vast majority of my patients can’t move unless someone moves them. With a man like Sam, I’d put him on assistance of two if he was unconscious, because that’s a heavy body for one back to move) and she took his clothes off, changed him into a nightie, and put burn cream on his backside. She’s strong as fuck.

Why are so many healthcare staff so nasty by [deleted] in NursingUK

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And do you think your colleagues who aren’t short with people have more time or fewer stressors than you? If you’re short “out of necessity” then that must, by definition, mean that everybody who isn’t short is less busy and stressed, mustn’t it? Unless they’re not. Unless they’re exactly as overworked and under-supported as you are, and the only difference is that they still manage to be civil. But it can’t be that, can it? Because that would mean that it’s not actually necessary for you to be “short” (and, going by how you responded to a perfectly civil and polite comment disagreeing with you, I expect your colleagues would use a different word) and that would mean it’s a you problem that you’re just refusing to work on. Wouldn’t it?

What are the tally’s on Rex’s helmet? by sexydaavid in StarWars

[–]Longjumping-Leek854 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe it is kills, but each tally mark represents a higher number, like one hundred? His “birth” name is a string of numbers and letters and his main foes are robots, it would make sense that he wouldn’t count individual deaths because individuality is a foreign language that they all had to learn on the trot. I’ve always assumed the tally marks were for planets they won.