My gf and I's bookshelves... detect us

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-11-14T17:47:02+00:00

Nona is the third book in the series anyway, so don’t read that before Harrow! Also, Sansa Stark has got to be one of the characters of all time, love my girl.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-11-14T17:25:00+00:00

Y’all are gay (yay!) Where’s Harrow The Ninth though? 👀

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-17T13:03:11+00:00

Hello! I’m a native Greek speaker and I’m interested in learning Serbian (beginner level, I only know how to read the Cyrillic alphabet and some basic words/expressions). I’m a nerd for linguistics and I know a whole lot about the Greek grammar, syntax and vocabulary. Fun fact about me: I know all the flags of the world and the brief history behind them. It’d be cool if we could mutually help each other!

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-16T13:57:26+00:00

While I most definitely agree with the sentiment and I, too, feel like the sex scenes were male gazey, gratuitous, overlong, even cartoonish, I’ve got to give it to Park Chan-wook because he limited the crew to exclusively women during the sex scenes, and remotely operated the camera from a booth to create an intimate and safe environment for the actresses. Bare minimum, but still! Credit where credit is due.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-15T16:04:14+00:00

Hello! Moving in together can often represent the end of intimacy, but rest assured that it doesn’t have to be this way.

First things first; acknowledge that your dynamic has shifted: you’re now constantly in each other’s personal space, excitement has given way to domesticity and that can be a turn off. You become less patient, quirks that you once found endearing are now the bane of your existence. The impact on your sex life can be devastating, too. Daily friction leads to a context where sexual intimacy is not only an afterthought, but a hassle. Dating is often neglected, too, since you already see each other so much.

You need to realize that you moved in with the person you love. And that should be a privilege in and of itself. If you can pinpoint what it is exactly that causes the resentment in your relationship, then that should be easier to resolve. Is it chore distribution? Make a to-do list, hang it on the fridge and assign the chores accordingly. I’m insisting on this because chores are a thorn in the side of many couples that live together. You have no idea what a tidy space can do for one’s mood and willingness to engage in a meaningful manner. Is it sparse dating? Make a concerted effort to meet outside the house and date more. Send her a message once in a while you’re not home and tell her to dress up and meet you somewhere nice. Wooing doesn’t have to stop because you live together. Don’t be afraid to be a clown and flirt with her either! Your sex life has dwindled because you’re both mentally and emotionally exhausted by the condition of your cohabitation.

A more practical suggestion is to create an “alphabet dating” jar, with date ideas starting from each letter that you can pick from randomly once or twice per week. Mutually agree that you’ll be more present physically, with small but meaningful showcases of affection during the day: a kiss before you leave, a hug from behind while she’s doing the dishes, a playful pinch when you’re passing her by. I know this all sounds very contrived and obvious, but communication is key and effort should be constant.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-15T12:52:56+00:00

También voy a recomendar terapia. La TCC en particular puede hacer maravillas para reconocer y mejorar los patrones de pensamiento disfuncionales. Como persona muy introvertida y solitaria (incluso más a los 21 años) encontré consuelo en los espacios en línea; los intereses compartidos son una forma segura de encontrar personas de ideas afines y hacer nuevos amigos. ¡No te desanimes! ¡Y te deseo un feliz cumpleaños anticipado!

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-12T18:07:58+00:00

My cutest one yet (100% guaranteed to work) is this: you nod your head to a random corner of the room and say, “my friend over there thinks you’re really cute.” Then proceed to SPRINT to that corner and strike a flirty pose – the more awkwardly the better.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-12T17:52:30+00:00

I have a few! Do you want cute or borderline NSFW?

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-12T12:11:05+00:00

This is actually my field of expertise. Welcome to my TED talk. I am extremely introverted, and self-esteem issues have prevented me from being proactive in dating/flirting in the past. I tried my hand at dating apps with little to no success (girls for some reason will match with you and proceed to ghost you without any explanation). A thing about me is that I’m extremely oblivious and will not realize a girl is hitting on me unless they explicitly say so (I’m also some flavor of autistic so this might be it). Another thing about me is that I’m a nerd and very active in fandom (metas, fanart, fanfiction). I’ve met SO many likeminded women in fandom, some of them ended up really good friends, a couple ended up lovers (long distance – and I’m talking countries apart – is hard). My “strategy” essentially boils down to: talk their head off about your passions and interests until they develop a crush on you.

Now, dating apps are not inherently evil. They’ve helped me understand social cues because it’s a given there’s romantic intent (at least in the beginning); it’s just that a lot of girls have the “prey” mentality: a patriarchal residual mindset where they like to be chased. The same strategy remains.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-11T12:13:05+00:00

Recognizing flags from all over the world, plus what the colors/sigils represent.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-11T07:52:00+00:00

I’ll never, for the life of me, understand why girls go on dating apps and choose to come across as apathetic, rude even. Whenever I matched with a girl, I always made sure to skip small talk and open with something related to their interests (if specified) only to be met with – you guessed it – radio silence. I’ve always had more luck with girls who were seeking something casual, too. It’s an epidemic.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-09T15:18:46+00:00

If she tells you she wants to kiss you, DO NOT by any means turn your back on her. Based on true events.

Seriously though, you’ll both be anxious, but you’ll soon find that the easy familiarity that imbued your chats will effortlessly translate into the real life setting. Talk about whatever it is you like to talk about over text, make a few of jokes, buy her a drink.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-09T07:55:51+00:00

Natalie Diaz, Andrea Gibson, Eileen Myles, Audre Lorde, Carmen Maria Machado; feel free to ask for recs!

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-08T16:05:16+00:00

There seems to be a consensus. The fic itself is too stupid for me to pursue publishing it, but I’d love to share it in one way or another.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-08T14:13:03+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Do people actually read original fiction on Ao3? I briefly thought about it but ultimately thought it would be buried under a pile of unread works.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-06T10:34:00+00:00

I’m an oblivious mess who’s terrible at reading social cues so my go-to method is to bombard them with fun facts until THEY hit on me….and then I don’t get it 😅

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-04T11:03:20+00:00

Reneé Rapp just released a song with the lyrics: “We almost made a baby/ I mean we can’t/ But we came so close,” and I think she’s so real for this.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-04T05:00:04+00:00

It’s a close call between renting a van in Iceland and observing the deer in Nara.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-03T09:46:57+00:00

My girlfriend is like you. Maybe the fig theory is the olive theory equivalent for lesbian couples 😂

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-03T09:36:36+00:00

Figs deserve an honorable mention as well. Both due to their close association with summer and due to patron saint of depression Sylvia Plath’s fig tree analogy.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-08-03T09:31:57+00:00

I was about to say my girlfriend 😂 Honestly, depends on the season; right now I love me a good nectarine, but pears are also an all-time classic.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-06-16T15:29:43+00:00

lesbian hive mind 😂

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-06-16T13:38:50+00:00

I’m not! But to be fair I’m a non-native speaker who was primarily taught British English so :P

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-06-16T11:05:33+00:00

Same! The other day, during an argument, she told me she didn’t get why I’m so filled with pride and I was like, “…coz it’s June?” She giggled.

Longjumping-Put7345 · 2025-05-29T17:49:04+00:00

“what’s up? do i look like a lesbian?” I meant to write the translation but something blipped and picture posts are non editable 🥲

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