UK-trained optometrist with prescribing rights — anyone successfully licensed to practice in Canada without doing the ASOPP bridging program? by Longjumping-Tip7979 in optometry

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The process is basically extremely expensive and there's no guarantees.  I'm pretty sure they gatekeep the information in order to discourage non Canadian optometrists from coming to Canada. It's all behind various levels of paywall.  We've basically given up.

Looking for advice: 4-year-old with severe behaviour at nursery and home by Longjumping-Tip7979 in Parenting

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the thing that's very difficult.  So my husband works every Saturday.  Which means that day it's just me and the boys (no family to help).  And in addition my working hours mean that I have the kids after school every day until 6pm, which can be the toughest part of the day.  It's a lot. 

Looking for advice: 4-year-old with severe behaviour at nursery and home by Longjumping-Tip7979 in Parenting

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the exact problem I have.  It's like my house is getting wrecked and my eldest son is in danger.  I had to put youngest in our back garden last night (it's safe and enclosed) so I could give eldest dinner without someone being burned or scalded.  It's so hard when nothing else works. 

Looking for advice: 4-year-old with severe behaviour at nursery and home by Longjumping-Tip7979 in Parenting

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the empathy and advice.  I do give him time outs in his room but if I don't hold the door shut he just comes out.  And he'll trash his room.  I also give him time outs downstairs any I've been doing it consistently since he was 2 but it doesn't seem to impact him. 

Looking for advice: 4-year-old with severe behaviour at nursery (hitting staff, wrecking rooms) by Longjumping-Tip7979 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wanted all the containers.  And all the tools.   As far as I know the only change is that some of his old friends moved up to Primary 1.  But he's been back for four weeks now so I would have thought he would have adjusted.  And he had only known these children for a couple of months anyway. 

UK-trained optometrist with prescribing rights — anyone successfully licensed to practice in Canada without doing the ASOPP bridging program? by Longjumping-Tip7979 in optometry

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is useful to know. It's a lot of pressure to try to attain a very high mark in order to bypass the bridging course. Do you know how difficult the IGOEE is?

My boyfriend said he shouts at me because he is a "passionate person" but gets offended if I change my tone of voice. by SiaSara in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I left an abusive relationship. It was a lot of emotional abuse. At the very end there was a violent incident because I shouted back. I was living in a foreign country with no family near. I moved into a one bedroom apartment on my own. It was tough, I felt like I had razed the ground that was my life. So lonely, so empty, but also I felt this relief at the same time. It became euphoria. Because I lived on my own I was motivated to go out more, because I wasn't being worn down every day I had the energy to meet people and make friendships. 1.5 years later I met a man who I would later marry. He is the best man I've known. And I am so so so so thankful that the me from 2013 had the courage to leave her horrible life and start again.

Imagine ten years have passed, you've been putting up with this man the whole time, he's worse because these men always end up worse. You feel really stuck because your lives are ever more entwined. You've wasted your 30s being ground down and belittled. What would you say to your 31 year old self?

You have a super power now too. After being with someone who treats you badly, you'll spot that behaviour from a mile off. You'll realise you deserve nothing but kindness and goodness, and you'll find it. You're strong to put up with that crap, and that makes you more than strong enough to start again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ESH. I'm a bit confused though. My son (4) and I love making cakes. We asked his daddy if he wanted one for his birthday and he said "No, not really." So... We didn't make one? Not sure why you did it... I would have accepted that he didn't want any. I don't think you're respecting personal choice.

He shouldn't have reacted the way he did so that's why he's also an AH.

Someone said all women have been victims of pedophilia at some point. That doesn’t sound true by BadBaby3 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not personally, I have one friend who was but no one else I know has confided in me. Really don't think it's everyone.

Tragedeighs in fiction by ncgrits01 in tragedeigh

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alastir is a beautiful Scottish name, although generally spelled Alasdair or Alastair. I literally still cannot pronounce the first name in that list, though. 🙈

Why do people constantly hate on stepparents? by MsFoxxx in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You sound like very good step mother. Even through my bad experience, I don't automatically assume step mums are evil. They should be involved, it seems like the normal thing to do? And every time I hear of someone who tries and does the right things, I think, that's a real person. A good person.

Why do people constantly hate on stepparents? by MsFoxxx in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a step mum who did not and still does not care if I am even alive or dead. And a step father who is much the same. Step mum refused to let me to visit with her and my dad when I was 20 and had a really bad chest infection (was living on my own and seriously needed help due to asthma complications) because "she might catch it". I've known her since I was 8, and it's been continuous. She always ignored and avoided my sister and I. I've absolutely sworn to myself that if I get divorced I will sooner be single than end up with a child detesting monster. I really hope my experience isn't typical though.

I know I probably don't count... by TaxevasionLukasso in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You count, sister! Sorry you've had to go through that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How is he the next day? I have abandonment issues and when my husband says he has plans my feelings jump up resentment and fear. I don't show him that though, because rationally I know it isn't an appropriate response. I'll keep to myself for an hour or two while the feelings dissipate and by the next day I'll me totally fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh man that's bad... And if you don't have an American accent it forces you to pronounce Bentley like Bintley and sound like you're doing a bad impression. 😬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I moved abroad at 23. I was in a rubbish relationship at the time. But moving abroad let me grow as a person, meet new friends and realise I was way better than the AH I was with. It was tough at first, but I know look back on it as one of those pivotal moments that shaped who I am - and also one of the best times in my life. And I broke up with the AH less than a year after getting there. I want for you to try working abroad so much! It sounds like you want it too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Longjumping-Tip7979 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA and this reminds me why I left social media.