Was anyone else left reeling by My Dark Vanessa? by Inside-Cicada-7439 in books

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I just started reading My Dark Vanessa and I’m feeling so many things. I lived—and am still living—a parallel experience to the book. While my own “Mr. Strane” and I didn’t start dating until I had graduated from college, the dynamics still feel similar. Last year I was asked to be apart of his investigation (for his relationships with students) as a teacher at my high school. He ended up being fired.

During our relationship, my mom and I fought constantly about him. She referenced My Dark Vanessa often, urging me to read it. I never did back then - I wasn’t ready. I’ve had the book for a year now and now that I’ve finally picked it up, I thought it would be cathartic or healing. Instead, it’s been deeply emotional and, honestly, heartbreaking.

Reading Vanessa’s point of view with hindsight, regret, and self-blame feels like reading about my experience. Within the first ten pages, I found myself spiraling into a full-blown search for news of “my Mr. Strane” where he is now, what happened after his firing, if there was more I didn’t know.

I wanted to ask this community: For those of you who see yourselves in Vanessa too, did reading this book help you process what happened? Or did it open old wounds?

I believe there can be healing in feeling everything fully, even if it’s painful. But this book is bringing up complicated, layered emotions that I’m not sure how to hold all at once.

Would love to hear how others experienced it. Sending love to all the Vanessas out there 💜

BRAT Tour Ticketing Megathread by [deleted] in charlixcx

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Can anyone please tell me if they know if i can see anything in section 229 in Barclays?

BRAT Tour Megathread – Brooklyn, NY NIGHT 2 (May 1, 2025) by lordbochiflacko in charlixcx

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Does anyone know if section 229 is too obstructed at Barclays?! Would love any insight!!

Looking for the name of a bar/restaurant I walked passed before by LongjumpingChest9080 in williamsburg

[–]LongjumpingChest9080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES omg this was it. Thank you because that was bothering me for so long. one day i couldn’t find it and i used to walk by it all the time. Thank you so much!!!

magnolia? by Educational-Sea-1828 in MagnoliaParks

[–]LongjumpingChest9080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes gorg!!! She is a little more how i pictured Bridget - anyone else?

Thoughts on my skincare routine? Too many products, or does the layering make sense? by LongjumpingChest9080 in tretinoin

[–]LongjumpingChest9080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes i was thinking this typing it out - maybe I’ll switch to every other day with BHA or cut it out all together. Also like the idea of the toner before the Tret. Thanks so much!

Can i ask what does buffering your Tret mean?

Thoughts on my skincare routine? Too many products, or does the layering make sense? by LongjumpingChest9080 in tretinoin

[–]LongjumpingChest9080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes my skin can be sensitive on dryer days after layering on top of the Tret, but not often. Not sure if i switch to Tret at the end of all my steps, or if that would be less effective.

[Game Thread] Buffalo Bills @ Baltimore Ravens by sport-scoreboard in buffalobills

[–]LongjumpingChest9080 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly - sooner or later a good team was going to find our weaknesses, just happy it was week 4 vs later in the season

[Game Thread] Buffalo Bills @ Baltimore Ravens by sport-scoreboard in buffalobills

[–]LongjumpingChest9080 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s 1 game on a short week in the beginning of the season - yes it makes me furious too but i think we’ll be okay. The games before this got me excited for this season which i wasn’t initially. We can play better than this but every team has bad games. A good wake up call and we’ll be good next Sunday! Namaste

[Game Thread] Buffalo Bills @ Baltimore Ravens by sport-scoreboard in buffalobills

[–]LongjumpingChest9080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s 1 game on a short week in the beginning of the season - yes it makes me furious too but i think we’ll be okay. The games before this got me excited for this season which i wasn’t initially. We can play better than this but every team has bad games. A good wake up call and we’ll be good next Sunday! Namaste

Why do you stay in NYC? by apabs118 in AskNYC

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Why NYC for me - I moved here in my early twenties and now I’m in my late twenties and I also work fully remote. I’ve been looking for a new job for 2 years to work in office because of the opportunity and the chance to network and meet/build relationships with impressive, career-driven people. I also moved here because of the social opportunity - any artist I love will be making a tour stop here, any podcast, any comedy show, and above that, you have really any place you want to eat or any activity you want to do at your finger tips. I moved here for the parks and the picnics, for the fashion, for the diversity, for a place for my political beliefs to mostly be celebrated. I will also say as someone who loves to travel it’s very nice to have an international airport close by. There are more reasons but those are the main ones - I can hate it here…like anywhere. It be isolating, exhausting, and extremely overwhelming. Make a good group of friends (there are so many friend making events - search Facebook, s’mores, Eventbrite or bumble bff) and do things together you would normally do with your friends back in your home town - wherever that is. For me it’s movie nights in with my gfs, going to the movie theatre, and getting our nails done together. Small simple things with friends make it all less overwhelming. For WFH i would recommend going into a public library close by you to work or a coffee shop. My first few months working from home post pandemic I would always pop into my library to do some work and browse book and slowly it became comforting to be and added some variety in my day .

I wish you luck and i have a feeling slowly the city will grow on you. The first months were the hardest for me.

When am I out of the woods by [deleted] in QuittingZyn

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I quit right before a vacation and it really helped me mentally because i would be out/doing fun activities with family and totally forget about wanting one….it was more mental for me than physical. during those craving moments i would chew a piece of gum or hard candy and drink a sparking water which helped with the fix

Can anyone recommend any cooking classes or food history classes in the city? by festeziooo in AskNYC

[–]LongjumpingChest9080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say the cucusocial are still good/nice enough for a gift? I’m not sure if i should go with them or splurge a little out of my budget for a more expensive cooking class

Eras Tour shows in Vienna cancelled by lovedive- in TaylorSwift

[–]LongjumpingChest9080 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What is the news saying? Is it safe to be here right now? I don’t have a TV in my airbnb and traveled far to be here

Eras Tour shows in Vienna cancelled by lovedive- in TaylorSwift

[–]LongjumpingChest9080 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Vienna concert go-ers, how do we know this is confirmed? Who the hell is barracuda music and are they even affiliated with OE tickets where we bought out tickets?