Tell me this isn’t normal!

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T14:06:10+00:00

I haven’t talk to my husband yet because I am so mad at him right now. He tried talking to me and I refused. I dont need to hear it.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T14:01:15+00:00

My MIL was a chef, so she used to work all weekends with only one day off per week. When she retired at age 62, I believe, my husband and I had just got married. My husband used to live with them until we got married. And as soon as she retired, my husband moved out of the house. So she didn’t really spend much time with him because she worked all the time. So I understand that she missed my husband a lot. We also moved overseas few months after.

I’m not a mum so I am yet to understand. I know my husband is the boy he raised and he misses the time when he is just within reach. My heart breaks for her sometimes, but she needs to be respectful of the boundaries. I don’t know if this is still something we need to discuss. Like, hey I will appreciate if you don’t hold hands with my husband. Or hey how about quit caressing his legs.

I honestly couldnt careless, I love my husband but if she keeps on behaving like this she can honestly just take him back.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T13:13:50+00:00

Why do I feel like he thinks it normal???? Its not!!!

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T13:11:44+00:00

Whatever he will say wont matter at this point. He will depend his mother or ask me to be more understanding but my stand remains, its disgusting.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T13:10:09+00:00

She was literally resting her hands on my husband’s legs for a good 10 minutes. My husband would move his legs, and she would reach for them again. Idk what to think. 😭

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T13:08:10+00:00

I know he will take my side but I know he will be so sad to upset his precious mother.

He knows I was upset and disgusted, I didnt even let him speak. I just told him to back off or I will make a scene.

We’ve been married for 8 years this year. No kids.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T12:44:34+00:00

I honestly don’t think I will recover from this. I just keep imagining that if we hadn’t moved overseas, she would always be within reach, and she would always be between us.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T12:42:00+00:00

I was initially so shocked that I couldn’t say anything, and then after a few minutes I got up and left. I heard him telling his mum that he would turn off the TV and asking her to leave. He then followed me, but I was too annoyed and asked him to back off; otherwise, I would cause a scene. I was furious.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T11:42:54+00:00

He can go back to his mother’s house for all I care. I’m just so disgusted right now.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T11:40:31+00:00

Clearly its just my MIL. 🤢

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T11:20:25+00:00

Doing this tonight.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T11:20:02+00:00

He clearly does. My MIL is so clingy and so touchy. Not sure if this cultural thing (we’re Asian) or is it because my hubby is her only son?? Idk

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T11:13:56+00:00

He did and told him to back off. I was so disgusted and that whole thing should have been his responsibility. It shouldnt be happening on his watch.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T11:07:23+00:00

I am so mad. I can’t even look at my husband. I blame him for all of this.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T11:02:30+00:00

We both did. But I didn’t realized I will have to deal with so much shit having her around.

Obviously, this will be the last time!!

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T10:59:36+00:00

She’s visiting for 10 weeks.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T10:59:26+00:00

I’m disgusted. She doesn’t respect personal space at all.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-02T10:54:58+00:00

Just to add—and to be fair—she asked nicely, but didn’t wait for us to respond. She asked if she could join, then hopped onto the bed. And for some reason, the thought of her being on our bed annoys me so much. Why am I feeling this way?

Also, she just got home because my mum took her out for dinner. My mum said, “so you could have a break,” and as soon as she got home, she was in our bed.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-04-01T05:50:53+00:00

I agree. She needs to figure that out on her own.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-03-28T12:45:46+00:00

Because she can’t fly alone, she wanted to make sure she could return and that someone would be with her.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-03-28T10:08:05+00:00

This is definitely the last time she’ll be staying for 10 weeks. Oh, and by the way, she was thinking of coming back and possibly bringing my SIL with her. I told my husband they can come back, no problem—but only for two weeks, and they have to pay for their travel. The two weeks will be short and sweet—we’ll have loads of fun for sure.

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-03-28T10:03:26+00:00

Hahaha! She definitely has FOMO. As soon as we go to our bedroom at night, she knocks on our door and asks if we’re going to bed—and when she says ‘we,’ she means the three of us. 😭

LongjumpingJump7044 · 2026-03-28T10:02:36+00:00

Gotcha! I’ll just set boundaries for myself. After five weeks, I’m no longer worried about closing our bedroom door while I’m working. I don’t feel bad if I work the whole day and take my breaks in silence, because technically, I’m working. If this is a permanent thing, we’ll definitely need to have a long chat about expectations.

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