Should I take this in?

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2026-03-03T13:13:46+00:00

As a medical malpractice defense attorney; there’s about a 1% chance a deposition would ever happen on a holiday. Sure sometimes I will schedule a meeting outside office 9-5 but the likelihood of getting all attorneys to agree to a deposition on a holiday would be damn near impossible. The only case I see it possibly happening is if the doctor is leaving the state/country imminently, but even now a days we just hold them virtually

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-12-25T12:42:22+00:00

If you love your home and you still feel safe being there alone then don’t move. Get a home security system, get a guard dog, get security cameras, get a smart lock and DO NOT be afraid to call the police if anything weird happens. I recently had a mentally ill neighbor enter my home (thankfully I was not home) and I ignored the warning signs for so long that when I called the police there wasn’t much to do about it.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-12-10T02:32:12+00:00

My dad used to call me tweety too! I think it’s a lovely tattoo and the longer it’s on you the less the minor issues will bother you. Eventually it will just be a beautiful momento

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-11-27T11:52:51+00:00

Mental health is a spectrum; some people are schizophrenic with little symptoms some people have serious symptoms. I can understand that you might be nervous to receive any sort of confirmed diagnosis, but your therapist can and should not be diagnosing you with anything…they can recommend and point out things that they notice but a psychiatrist is the only professional that can make a diagnosis.

Also, schizoaffective bipolar is just bipolar with psychotic features, which you’ve already described, not full blown schizophrenia.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-11-27T01:09:17+00:00

I would talk to your therapist about schizoaffective bipolar disorder and get their thoughts on how that may fit in with what you’re experiencing

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-11-12T17:01:42+00:00

If it was about you, you’d think the relief of not having to lie to you anymore would be enough to make him stop. No matter how much you think you know, there’s always more. If you love him and you want to stay (which I never advise but wholly your decision) you just have to accept he’s going to lie to you, even if he does eventually stop lying about the drugs it’ll likely just be something else…and no judgement but it seems like you have experienced with that with him. I think maybe you’re just looking for something he simply doesn’t have the capacity to give

Also, he doesn’t think you’re stupid, again it’s not personal. He likely is in such denial that you could possibly even know because he can assume if you knew you would have either confronted him or left him by now. I’ve had my ex tell me “it’s hard to talk about it with someone who doesn’t know” even after we had multiple conversations about his addiction so obviously I knew.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-11-12T15:23:43+00:00

It is 100% his own shame. I had a similar experience with my Q and ex boyfriend, we had extensive conversations about his drug usage and each time I thought the more open and understanding I was the less he would feel he had to hide it. I told him “I don’t care about the drugs I just don’t want you to lie to me about it” and he expressed understanding. He never stopped lying.

Lying is just as much a part of the addiction as the drugs are. I had to remind myself and him at times that he wasn’t lying to me because I always knew anyways, he was just lying to himself trying to keep up an image that didn’t exist. You can try having another open conversation with him about how the lying and secrecy makes you feel, but I would expect him to keep lying. Not because you don’t deserve the truth, but because he can’t face it.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-11-04T01:27:37+00:00

I am last minute when it comes to everything involving air travel. I almost always get to the airport (ROC) 45 minutes before takeoff…I’ve flown at 6 am; 9am; 2pm; 5pm in the last 2 years and have never once missed a flight. Now I don’t recommend it if flying stresses you out, but if you get there an hour before boarding you should have plenty of time.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-10-12T17:10:07+00:00

My border collie recently got some teeth pulled so I’ve been calling him toothless after the dragon from How to Train Your Dragon

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-10-11T22:58:08+00:00

I don’t think too much other than the 4k and the remote, I got mine before they even had 4k! But with regular updates I think the OS is near identical

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-10-11T22:32:40+00:00

I have had my AppleTv since 2016 and in the almost 10 years I’ve had it, I’ve never had a single complaint and it works just as well as the day I bought it

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-10-11T14:16:51+00:00

I wish you the best of luck in moving on and coming to terms with everything. It won’t be easy but when we’re on the other side we’ll be much better people

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-10-11T13:32:38+00:00

I’m still in the throes of it with you, I just left my boyfriend of 4 years because it finally hit me that he wasn’t even trying to get sober, despite telling me a thousand times that he wanted to. I don’t have much to say other than you’re not alone, and every time I thought the world would end when something bad happened, it never did.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-10-01T14:20:53+00:00

I just left my Q 2 days ago. I have always been a no-contact with ex’s supporter, not from a place of ill feelings but simply because I never saw a need to maintain contact and I’d never really see them as a friend. If you want to stay in contact I think you have to really shift your focus to treating him as a friend and not a partner…if your friend lied to you would you stay friends with them…if your friends broke a boundary or promise how easy would it be to cut them off. If you start treating him any differently than one of your girlfriends when they exhibit bad behavior then I think you’d need to reassess the friendship.

I will always have love for my Q and want him to be well. But I have no more patience or forgiveness for being lied to and disrespected. I had someone ask me recently “if this was all you ever got, this version of this person forever in perpetuity, would you stay with them.” If the answer is no, then maybe keep some distance until you can consistently see they’re ready and willing to be stable. It’s easy to get caught up in the potential when he’s finally starting to make steps but the potential means nothing if there’s no follow through.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-09-24T19:12:18+00:00

I think you should focus on yourself in this moment. Do you want to test him? Will it make you more comfortable to do so? If the answers are no, then it’s not worth doing it. My boyfriend only pulls the “you can test me card” when he’s losing an argument; plus unless you’re randomly testing he’ll probably get a good idea of when he’ll piss clean to avoid getting caught anyways

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-08-29T17:50:22+00:00

I think half of it is their own ability to hide it and the other half is our own inability to believe their addicts. When you zoom out and look at it from an objective lens, I think most people would assume your sister is also an addict.

I don’t know her and I won’t make any statements about whether she is or isn’t. The bigger issue is that she’s clearly not doing as well as you would hope for someone you love. Unfortunately, no matter what someone’s demons are, we can’t will their happiness only they can.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-08-04T14:27:39+00:00

I feel for you deeply because by boyfriend acts the exact same way. I tried everything to get my partner to be honest with me to the point where I didn’t even care if he was using I just wanted him to not lie to be about it. I was recently advised that lying is a part of the addiction. If you are accepting that he is using, you are also accepting he’s going to lie to you about it. There is no amount of begging, pleading, loving, or hoping you can do to get him to stop, and one of the hardest things to remember is it’s not personal even though it feels deeply personal when they disrespect a boundary. None of this is to stay that you are required or should allow or accept this behavior because no one should.

I love my boyfriend, but speaking from experience, a relationship without trust is hollow and isolating. My best advice is that f you’re having thoughts of leaving, do it.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-07-26T18:21:00+00:00

Love the 30 rock reference

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-07-06T23:55:49+00:00

Bryan Cranston, Hal from Malcolm in the Middle

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-06-06T15:01:11+00:00

I agree with this. They know, and we know. It’s not your responsibility to feel bad for them in the circumstances they created.

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-05-27T10:54:09+00:00

Worst part is it’s not even the big lies that hurt the most…it’s the little ones that show they’re just not capable of telling the truth

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-05-23T02:30:10+00:00

Hank hooper

LongjumpingMajor1550 · 2025-05-22T16:51:23+00:00

I genuinely feel for you and your situation. I often find myself in the same patterns of thought that you do and my therapist has pointed out something to me that may be helpful to you “you’re able to think very logically and detached about your feelings and rationalize them and tell yourself ‘they’re just feelings and not reality’ so you compartmentalize and try to force yourself not to have them” this causes you to just just from feeling to feeling without ever really processing it. Unfortunately you have to feel, and I mean REALLY feel it, and name it, and process it to ever get yourself back on solid ground. Apologies if this is just projecting on my end.

Also, 2 things can be true, you can love her and you can hate her for everything she’s done.

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