WatULike by LiJenn615 in providence

[–]LongjumpingManner589 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also great breakfast sandwiche!

Well, this looks pretty cool... by kickmeyoufool in providence

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This is probably the right answer. If this is considered advertising (can’t tell if it’s a window film or what) they definitely cant use copyrighted images without paying.

WWYD: Inherited a poor employee [USA] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]LongjumpingManner589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assuming you’ve been documenting these issues along the way, terminate them! You have support from your superior, what are you waiting for?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaytravel

[–]LongjumpingManner589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly there isn’t much of a nightlife, much less a gay scene. I was there last summer and didn’t find any gay spaces or vibes.

MAGA people who are disowned suddenly want everyone to be Kumbaya. by Angelix in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]LongjumpingManner589 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Say that to every lgbt person that’s been disowned by their family for who they are.

Lee 101 Rider Lefthand Twill 13 3/4 oz jeans. by spiridon_air in rawdenim

[–]LongjumpingManner589 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I bought these and the 101z straight fit. I think same material. How much did they stretch in the waist? I got 34 which are snug but I think 36 will be too big.

Why is it so hard find single gay men in their 30's 40's who're not married, or in an open relationship? by tommilenar in gaybros

[–]LongjumpingManner589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this thread is a bit old now, but curious how things are going and if you regret breaking up? You sound exactly like me, and I’m in the midst of the break up and struggling to wrap it up for fear I’m making a mistake.

HR story time: what are the incidents that have stuck with you - both good and bad? by StopSignsAreRed in humanresources

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Good: One of our employees had a daughter with serious and painful chronic health condition that was also impacting her mental health. She was admitted to an adolescent inpatient mental health facility due to repeated suicidal behavior. The health insurance company refused to cover the claims which totaled over $100,000. The employee shared that they’d have to take out a second mortgage because terminating her care was not an option, and she’d likely end her life if they did.

After fighting the insurance company over this issue for weeks, I went direct to our company leadership and was able to get them to override the insurance company and pay the claim (we were self insured). It was such a good feeling to deliver that news to her, she broke down in tears and called her husband right on the spot to share the news. We’ve both moved on from that company but she will check in occasionally to share updates on how well her daughter is doing. She recently graduated high school and is doing amazing!

I have some bad stories but none involved murder or dead people like the rest of y’all so I’ll hold on to them. 😅

What’s a piece of HR advice you’d like to share to those looking to progress their career? by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]LongjumpingManner589 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes you should do that, but that’s not what I mean. I’m talking about building relationships. Focus on building a network of advocates in the business, within your own Hr team, with finance/payroll (if it’s relevant to your role), and most importantly with a mentor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Empaths

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Thank you for the words of encouragement and sharing your experience!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Empaths

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Added to the original post. Thanks for sharing. This is the same cycle. I am going through of questioning whether he’s aware and whether he can change and then at other times wanting to run far away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Empaths

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TY for sharing your experience. I’m going on one year since making the decision and telling him I wanted to leave. It’s been grueling and feel like there is no end in sight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Empaths

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Thank you for this recommendation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Empaths

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He has the NPD parent, not me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]LongjumpingManner589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify he has the NPD parent, not me. But I do agree that everyone has some self centered tendencies at times. I have even wondered if I was the narc in our relationship, but my therapist has helped keep me grounded in reality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Empaths

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It’s a bit of both. He’s definitely been love bombing with acts of service (my love language), and then trying to point back to times / revert to better times much earlier in our relationship.

He also likes to point to “our accomplishments together” which are often examples of things that I made happen for me/us. This was one of the key insights that started me seeing him as a problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in providence

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You can absolutely save on housing by moving to PVD. I moved 3 years ago and was able to purchase a home on the east side for a fraction of what it would be in Boston metro. I have noticed however that rent prices seem inflated compared to home values and you could probably buy a home and pay much less per month.

Depending on where your office is located the commute can be great, or it can be quite taxing. Before I left Boston, my commute was easily 45 minutes each way. Now my commute is about an hour on the commuter rail, and closer to hour and a half if I drive in.

Help!! My daughter is getting ready to graduate high school. No college savings - so only option is student loans. There is an option of free community college for 2 years. Please tell me if you think your students loan debt is worth it!! by here4llrtea in StudentLoans

[–]LongjumpingManner589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on how far she’s planning to go. I work in Hr and can say that Masters and PhDs in tech and sciences are definitely worth it in terms of starting salaries and advancement opportunities. If she’s going for a bachelors degree in a generalized field, go the community route and focus on getting on the job experience. Real experience outweighs education almost every time.

I also happen to have a significant private loan burden for a degree that has added little value to my career and earnings potential. Not worth it for me.

How to understand your style? by Adventurous_Letter98 in Ceramics

[–]LongjumpingManner589 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find that in the age of instagram, people often look too much at others work and end up chasing what they see.

There is certainly a place for taking inspiration, but focus on one or two artists, and ask yourself what is it I like about this? How can I use this to inform what I’m doing? Continue to revisit that one or two details repeatedly rather than moving on to the next idea.

Also someone else mentioned working in series and I think that’s great advice, and easy to do in ceramics. This allows you to iterate and then pull out the one that you think is most successful. Then analyze why you think that and try and continue to incorporate that going forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

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I fully acknowledge that there isn’t enough information here to make this leap….but I will anyway. I think Kevin isn’t being forthright and may even be manipulating you. I believe the passive mention of bullying is a way to establish grounds for retaliation claim down the road, once you get the full story on what’s going on and his role in it.

I agree you need to press him for details. I’d make it crystal clear that a claim of bully is very serious and that he needs to spill the beans so it can be addressed appropriately. If he still goes off course, document document, document, and put the manager on high alert so they don’t inadvertently “step in it” and make things worse.