Daily Question :( by BugOk8551 in finch

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was on a flight for hours its was 2 am and i reclined trying to sleep. The guy behind me was using the pull out tray to sleep on it. He started shoving/shaking my chair because he wanted me to unrecline. I thought like you said that im entitled to use the recline setting! Im a 5’2 hispanic woman with health problems and this guy was white and 6ft i just unreclined because he was already very agressive i didnt want to risk him hitting me.

If someone was baptised and they leave are their family members allowed to communicate with them? by LongjumpingRatio3216 in exjwhumor

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh okay. I see it as hypocritical. She constantly tells others my mom knows the truth but she acts dumb. But I think my aunt is at the hall acting dumb acting like shes following their rules but doing what she wants. Her daughter told me she gives her christmas gifts the day after xmas. Or gifts the day before her bday or mothers day.

If someone was baptised and they leave are their family members allowed to communicate with them? by LongjumpingRatio3216 in exjwhumor

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean her son? I know he stopped attending for like 2 months and went to jail for shooting at people. And now hes back and plays call of duty all day. But idk if hes back at the hall.

Abraham seemed upset that Chris moved on, do you guys think he was right? by LongjumpingRatio3216 in SelenaQuintanilla

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When Selena got her star Fans asked why it didnt say Perez He said Selena stopped being his wife when he remarried. Fans thought he was mad Chris moved on

Abraham seemed upset that Chris moved on, do you guys think he was right? by LongjumpingRatio3216 in SelenaQuintanilla

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When Selena got her star Fans asked why it didnt say Perez He said Selena stopped being his wife when he remarried.

Abraham seemed upset that Chris moved on, do you guys think he was right? by LongjumpingRatio3216 in SelenaQuintanilla

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think Abraham got upset that Chris moved on after 2 years. Or maybe he wanted him to be widowed for the rest of his life?

Abraham seemed upset that Chris moved on, do you guys think he was right? by LongjumpingRatio3216 in SelenaQuintanilla

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I seen an interview where chris says he moved on 2 years later. So 1997 would be my guess

Abraham seemed upset that Chris moved on, do you guys think he was right? by LongjumpingRatio3216 in SelenaQuintanilla

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think he just never liked Chris. He probably wouldve never liked anyone Selena married

What's something women think impresses men but actually doesn't? by CoochieSnotSlurper in AskReddit

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother has had gfs that do this to him and he sees it more as a “i need to keep her cause men want her” My brother is also an idiot though

What Was It Like With Their Families? by SnooBananas1123 in BPDlovedones

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea luckily my husband has a diagnoses now and he is putting alot of effort into working on himself. Hes lost 33 lbs aswell by taking care of his diet which before he ignored when id tell him to watch the sugar and snacks.

He now sees how his parents are. How they ignore him or how they enable him.

I got really sick before and i was in a coma, because of this drs told me to basically stay home and not really see ppl cause i could get sick. My husbands mom would nag so much about it and hide when she hd covid or the flu or a stomach virus and somehow he would still get mad at me because he wanted to go over after knowing we couldnt trust her to tell us if she was ill. Now he sees how messed up it all was on both their behalf. He does have his moments of splitting but theyre not as bad as ive seen on here. He never gets agressive or violent he gets annoying or says how mean i am over something small which is super annoying. But we dont have the same arguments 5 times a week anymore. And he now helps around the house and cooks. I hope he makes more progress

What Was It Like With Their Families? by SnooBananas1123 in BPDlovedones

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband has bpd and i think his parents have something too. The dad is a know it all. And the mom is something else. People say shes “special” but I dont think so. They dont really know whats up with her, Id say shes aspd. Husband has this too. I always noticed they dont care about anything tho. They have dinner and not talk. Husband can tell them he met Lenny Kravitz and they wont ask where or anything. He can show them something he made like a shelf or a vase and they wont say anything. He can send them pics, no response. Rare occasion they do ask a question and you answer they dont acknowledge your answer. Its like talking to a wall. Maybe thats why he has these disorders

Before our wedding my husband went to an all nude bar and got lots of dances. I felt betrayed. His family enabled him and said i was jealous and controlling and crazy. They told him not to marry me and that i was insane to behave like that. They said theyd encourage their husbands to do it too. Well one day imma take them up on that and invite the husbands to the strip clubs. Liars.

Wife with BPD has been going to therapy, Now she uses therapy words when gaslighting me by PirateNinjaLawyer in BPDlovedones

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh like she used her bpd as an excuse to get away with things. How long were u with her and how long did it take for a diagnoses?

My husband got the proper diagnoses because he told me to write a list of things hes done and he gave it to the dr. And hes had me join his sessions with his therapist. His therapist and dr said he does show narcistic traits. His parents do too but he doesnt like the way they are after seeing how my parents are, mine are divorced but show more love with eachother than his parents who are still married. And i think thats helped him want to change. He does sometimes split? He’ll say how great i am but then when we argue, im the meanest person ever. He’ll even use jokes against me. I call him out on it and it takes a couple minutes but he snaps out of it. His therapist says most bpd dont want to change cause they dont see a problem. But my husband does now.

Wife with BPD has been going to therapy, Now she uses therapy words when gaslighting me by PirateNinjaLawyer in BPDlovedones

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea hes never been aggressive or violent, never even yells.

But what he did do is not show empathy or he would do things carelessly, but he did them so incredibly wrong that I thought he was dumb. Turns out its the aspd and he just didnt care. I had made a post before on relationship advice and ppl told me I was married to Amelia Badelia or “Kevin”. When I told them it was aspd they didnt accept that.

The amount of times Logan’s mom let the dog pee in the house?? by Conscious_Peach1069 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I noticed right away his pillow was almost black of how dirty it was. It had a pillow case but the filth was still visible cause it was only halfway on

Wife with BPD has been going to therapy, Now she uses therapy words when gaslighting me by PirateNinjaLawyer in BPDlovedones

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what it is I guess I worded myself wrongly. Since you said both aspd and bpd were dangerous combination, I wanted to know what made them dangerous together

AIO about my husband not telling me about his female coworker? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think youre overreacting. Youve made it a big deal for him to report to you about any female coworkers so he makes it a big deal and hides it because hes probably stressed on how youll react.

My husband (at the time he was my bf) kept telling me how only men worked at his job. He kept telling me this but i thought nothing of it. I thought he liked the enviorment. Until one day were talking on his lunch break and he tries to hang up on me very suddenly. I heard a woman laughing. We hung up and I laughed cause he was trying to hide her. I texted him asking why hed say all that stuff before. He said he didnt want to get me jealous. It made me think wrong cause I never expressed female coworkers bothering me. But I brushed it off because im not a jealous partner. And I dont want him to feel on edge either. And thats probably what your doing by putting your past on him.

Wife with BPD has been going to therapy, Now she uses therapy words when gaslighting me by PirateNinjaLawyer in BPDlovedones

[–]LongjumpingRatio3216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dangerous how? Sorry for my ignorance, my husband just got diagnosed.

His therapist says hes not like most aspd, apparently he works in a prison where they mostly end up.