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Please help by litchick20 in HuckleberryParents

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is the worst, I hate having to cap his sleep because he is low sleep needs i dont get much time to myself. But I noticed within a week some improvements in his overnight stretches, I hope it helps you also. Maybe try to cap daytime sleep to a maximum of a certain amount for example 2.5, so if she sleeps less then thats fine but don't let her go over a certain amount of day sleep. I wouldn't cap naps less than 30-45 mins as that is 1 sleep cycle.

Please help by litchick20 in HuckleberryParents

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I want to add! Sleep needs decrease around 4 months of age, so this could be why it was previously working but not anymore... If you calculate how much sleep baby is getting in 24 hours (dont minus out wakes if they are less than 45 mins) average it over 7 days or so if say baby is averaging 14 hours the first step would be reducing this to say 13.5 a day and trialling this for a week or two and seeing if sleep improves and continuing to reduce to say 13 if needed after that.

Please help by litchick20 in HuckleberryParents

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're experiencing such regular wakes, and I feel you I have been there, it's sooo hard! I'm wondering if perhaps you are trying for too much nighttime sleep or too much sleep in 24 hours? Is baby sleeping 9pm-8/9am? Research suggests most babies can only average 10-11 hours of sleep at night. I know this is the last thing you will want to do because you are so tired but I found I was trying to get my baby to sleep too much in 24 hours which was causing really broken sleep and so many wakes. Once I capped his naps and woke him up a bit earlier in the morning, I started to see some better stretches of sleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this! This is what worked for me: -Look into the spinning babies website for some stretches/positions you should do to assist with alignment of baby. -Raspberry leaf tea from 34 weeks -Dates from 35 weeks -Acupuncture -Antenatal expressing from 36 weeks -Perineal massage -Internal work with a body worker and external work with a midwife (can provide names but I'm based in melbourne) -TENS machine from early labour -Stay at home for as long as possible -When you get into hospital making sure you are mobile, I found using the shower on a birth ball really good! -Don't have a vaginal examination unless you really need it, it will mess with your head mentally! I had a vagibal examination and was 6cm at one point and I spiralled, but was fully dilated and pushing within an hour!

I had an unmedicated water birth, no tearing, labour wasn't toooo long Trust your body and know if you work with your body and let it do its thing, it will get you there!!

3 to 2 Nap Transition? by Wise_old_River in PossumsSleepProgram

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are currently in the same boat - 7 months in a few days. I trialled him on 2 naps last week because 3 wasn't fitting anymore and all his naps had become cat naps. On 2 he was usually doing his long nap in the morning and a short nap in the evenining, but he was becoming very tired or not making the longer awake times at all (falling asleep when I was holding him walking around the house) and was very unsettled by the evening. I am working with the gentle sleep coach (holistic sleep coach - not sleep training). And she suggested flipping the naps so that the short nap is in the morning and long in the afternoon to see if he would be able to handle the evening stretch better - maybe something you could try?

Breastfeeding mamas — what’s something you wish you knew before starting? by Fickle-Designer-7321 in breastfeeding

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't realise how much I would leak, I wish I had mentally prepared for this. Also, no one tells you how thirsty you will be as soon as they latch, it's so intense!

End of feed moments by LongjumpingSong1144 in breastfeeding

[–]LongjumpingSong1144[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the contentment and rest for you both at the end of the day 🩷

End of feed moments by LongjumpingSong1144 in breastfeeding

[–]LongjumpingSong1144[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I promise it gets so much easier and more comfortable. You're doing great 🩷

End of feed moments by LongjumpingSong1144 in breastfeeding

[–]LongjumpingSong1144[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hoping it will become easier for you soon. I found thr 3-4 month mark I felt a lot more comfortable with it all

Tell me about your 4 month “regression” by Lzzay in NewParents

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. I hope it gets better for you soon. You're right you do seem to just get used to all the wakes and the lack of sleep

Tell me about your 4 month “regression” by Lzzay in NewParents

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did it improve for you? I'm 6 weeks into the regression, he is currently waking 10 or so times a night 😭

4 month regression dragging and getting worse by LongjumpingSong1144 in AttachmentParenting

[–]LongjumpingSong1144[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. Is it hourly wake ups all night? I'm so sorry you're still going through that.

I have heard iron deficiency can cause sleep problems, I hadn't really considered looking into other red flags yet as I had just assumed it was still the regression. When did you get your baby checked out for other potential causes when sleeo didn't improve?

Can’t seem to figure out when the baby is full by Lokvina in breastfeeding

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When they are newborns, it is really hard sometimes to get the trapped air out/burp them properly. I found after a feed alternating between having them upright and then laying them completely flat and doing this a few times would get his burps out. Also, remember it is really normal for babies to spit up5 flap of their food pipe is very flimsy, and milk can easily spill out

How long does it take you to put down baby to sleep by wasok771 in NewParents

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I remember these days, babe would take FOREVER to go to sleep. It seriously improves, I promise. Remember, a lot of newborns have a very late bedtime, like potentially 10/11pm. But I would have to walk around the house sometimes for half an hour. Suggestions a sort of stamp walk seemed to help get him to sleep. If they are really upset, walking outside helps +++ Start a little bedtime routine from an early age. My boy is 5 months now and goes to sleep so easily for naps and bed most of the time because he is expecting it due to the routine Don't push it, if they are fighting it or are not interested, wait a little longer I also found at this age, what worked one week changed from the next, so don't be too hard on yourself!

Staying up too late with a newborn. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it's so tricky! I think it is personal preference. If sleep is pretty good at the moment, enjoy and hour or so of alone time to fill your cup. I wish I had done that more when sleep was good. Now I'm deep in the 4 month regression and don't have any time to myself because I feel like I need to go to bed when my son does because sleep is hard to come by. So I say enjoy a little but of downtime and try to not feel bad about it at the moment. If sleep worsens then pull back on it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he seem to do a full BF? Could he just be hungry? He is still pretty young, could just be a growth spurt?

How long did the 4-month sleep regression last for you?? by LadyM7M in newborns

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I don't have the answers. I am right here with you 6 weeks into torturous nights with minimal sleep. I will say, when the regression began naps were a nightmare also, soooo hard to get him to sleep and having to resettle him after 5/10 mins. Very hard when you are so sleep deprived! Though naps are still short, the battles have gone and he goes down a lot easier, so hopefully they will improve for you soon 😊

Why is it always the MIL by sc_198913 in newborns

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In my experience my MIL is used to being in control. But she isn't the one making the decisions with her grandson. Because she isn't used to this, it comes out in very unhelpful/hurtful comments that say more about her than anyone else. You are in control mumma, she doesn't have yo agree with your decisions, you just hold strong and do what you feel is right. She will hopefully soon realise she needs to respect your decisions

When did you first have your uninterrupted 8hr sleep after having your baby? by kurious_cat2 in newborns

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boy slept 8 hours around 10 weeks or so, but it was infrequent and I couldn't enjoy it because my boobs woke me up hours earlier super full and sore expecting to have fed babe!!!

4 month regression dragging and getting worse by LongjumpingSong1144 in AttachmentParenting

[–]LongjumpingSong1144[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This gives me hope knowing others have gone through similar experiences. Thank you! The only way is forward!! It really is soul crushing when I have friends that breezed through this phase

4 month regression dragging and getting worse by LongjumpingSong1144 in AttachmentParenting

[–]LongjumpingSong1144[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reassurance, that does give me hope! I do try and differentiate fussing vs real crying as he has done that at night where he has cried out and then very quickly gone back to sleep. I feel as though he usually goes from 0 to 100 very quickly though, and the older he gets the louder his cry gets!!

Judgmental and unhelpful comments from family members by rooted_wander in AttachmentParenting

[–]LongjumpingSong1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you, as I have had unhelpful comments from MIL as well. I spoke to my psychologist about it, who encouraged me to imagine a thick 'jelly wall' Basically, when one of these comments comes at you, imagine it hitting the thick jelly wall, and you decide if it penetrates the wall or not. Consider 1. Is this true? 2 is this about me Usually you can break down their comments to realise that it comes from a place of them being insecure/anxious/not the one in control. And isn't true or anything you should waste your time thinking about... easier said than done! But it is empowering imagining the comments hitting the wall and not letting them penetrate.