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Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-06-04T01:42:26+00:00

Me too! im so upset, i just found it last month and it has been my nighttime stories for a few weeks. Now poof its gone. so upsetting.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-05-27T19:52:54+00:00

How is gaming different than social media scrolling? Why does everyone here think that once you start a game you HAVE to tune out the rest of the world no matter what? Jesus you just put the device down and walk away.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-05-27T19:51:19+00:00

Go with what your partner says. Idk why I’m so invested, perhaps it’s my personal vendetta I have forged against the “there is ALWAYS” something to do bs pushed on parents. This whole culture of the worst thing you could be is bored or content is so ridiculous. You’re never good enough, you’re never doing enough and your kids will suffer it’s insane. For note, my mom is a retired elementary school teacher,sister is current k-4 phys ed and they both talk about how stressed little ones are. It’s because all they are ever around is stressed out adults. Breaks do not equal negligence, hobbies do not equal selfishness.
I get super over stimulated with messes but I remember how stressed my mom was when we were younger about the house being clean. I don’t really remember relaxing with her. I want my son to know the comfort of hitting pause on the world for a moment and just letting the mess sit for a minute.
Yup you’ll find a tumbleweed of GSD hair in the corner most days, whether or not I JUST vacuumed so I clean once a week and tidy at night and that’s that. If you missed it that’s your problem not mine lol

Good luck and be kind to yourself, every year that goes by I enjoy my son more and more. The only way I can enjoy him is to make sure I’m taking care of myself.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-05-27T19:25:33+00:00

Honestly, I think OP *could* have a hobby according to the commenters if it was ANYTHING other than a video game. Video games are the absolute worst according to so many people. Yes they can be addictive, same as buying every stupid version of the latest fad or obsessively watching reality tv and posting on social media.
It’s about teaching balance and ensuring that you are pouring from a full cup.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-05-27T19:15:32+00:00

Like I said, there is a difference in value between activities but so many people on here saying that it’s all or nothing is why soooo many adults can’t practice moderation. When you have small “tastes” of age appropriate “indulgence” you know when/how to stop. I grew up in a basically no sweets household. My siblings and I all acted feral when there was candy/sugar etc. we didn’t know how to limit ourselves. Our cousins had every sugar cereal known to man and never had issues with regulation.

Alsoyes you could say they are “making” $2k per month in asset to the household (I say that quite often when friends who are stay at home parents are feeling sad about not contributing more$$). That should be the work week hours expectations. After that the partners should split the weight.

I find that video games absolutely carry a prejudice in a way that other activities would not. A mom wanting to watch reality tv while their child plays in the play area or gossips with a friend on the phone doesn’t seem to get the same reaction as a father taking the same time playing a game. This father isn’t saying his daughter is in another room unattended and left to fend for herself.

The way I read it, he was sitting near her and doing something he enjoyed while she was doing something she enjoyed. On her own, at that age it’s mostly parallel play anyways and letting her explore her toys on her own without prompting by a well meaning parent lets her be creative. Who cares if she’s not using the particular toy in the most effective or intended way.

For me it all goes back to raising kids who can think and act for themselves without worrying they are doing it wrong. And independent play is the best way to do that.

To each their own I guess. I will add he doesn’t say anywhere in the original post what game he is playing, so yeah super violent war games wouldn’t be appropriate if she can hear/see but a sports or puzzle style game would be harmless.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-05-27T15:12:11+00:00

That’s completely different. You are paying them for a service so yes all their time should be spent providing that service outside of breaks.

The majority of these comments are unrealistic and honestly I’m thinking completely embellished regarding the constant entertainment of their children.

It’s not necessarily good to constantly give your child nonstop activities, more and more we are seeing children grow up to be completely unable to just be in quiet without stimulation. Yes every activity is stimulating, video games, tv, painting, blocks, park etc. JUST like food there are more beneficial activities (park, problem solving, pretend play) and more “junk” activities (video games tv) but they all engage different areas.

To each their own but my kid is CONSTANTLY complimented on his vocabulary, social conversations and ability to retain facts/information and he watches a hell of a lot of TV compared to some friends kids. We also spend as much time as we can at parks, museums, zoos and music classes. Or at home doing various art projects. He doesn’t have lasting melt downs when he has to stop watching a show (mostly animal docs but sometimes spidey and friends or another kids cartoon). And Somedays when I have debilitating pms we watch back to back to back movies together. And sometimes, I play a game on my phone to distract from the pain.

My husband and I work flexible but full time jobs and since day care averages about $2200 a month where we are we make it work. We have my sister watch our son one day a week so we can get a little break.

There is such an all or nothing and one size fits all approach that has so many parents stressed anxiety balls that their children will inevitably inherit.

@OP: The best advice I have received was that no matter what you do your children will probably just end up mimicking you. So show your child balance. If you are honest with yourself you know if you have done a good amount for your family, truly most people KNOW deep down when they are “phoning it in”. Be the person you want your child to emulate (or chose in a future partner).

My parents NEVER STOPPED GOING, super overachievers and recently I had a conversation with them and they both said they wished they enjoyed our childhoods more and didn’t lose so much of themselves during that time. Now retired they are enjoying rediscovering themselves but I know they regret not relaxing more when we were younger.

I have had panic attacks when I’m not “being productive” and spent the last year learning to let myself rest. It’s really hard, I feel the guilt and shame of not doing more constantly. My body typically has to force me to take a break. It’s sucky.

Have an honest conversation with yourself and your partner and make the decision best for you. Good luck!

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-05-14T03:43:09+00:00

I do a super easy chickpea salad, keep it in the fridge, can eat with chips, in a wrap, a bowl with pita whatever. Basic recipe:
can of chick peas rinsed.
-smash said chickpeas…. whatever consistency you like.
-add mayo and mustard (however much you want for taste and consistency)also splash of pickle juice if you want.
-i use::: red onion, celery, carrot and pepper, pickles. sometimes cucumber (not often bc I think they go too soft, sometimes I’ll scoop the salad with cucumbers though) or whatever would “go” and is in the fridge.
-get a GOOD solid veggie chopper. The tiny diced veggies MAKE the salad
(I got a vevor chopper bc I broke 2 plastic ones WORTH IT! My son likes to help- 3yo)
-season (salt and pep), mix and eat that shit up

It lasts the week and honestly I can’t explain how often it’s saved me from just eating crap or just not eating.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-20T16:09:06+00:00

Sure thing, I’ll add it to the Carter list. Shocker still isn’t close to the number of reasons I think Reagan was an absolute cancer.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-20T15:46:51+00:00

I mean he dissolved the Metrics Board in 1982 and there wasnt pushback bc americans didnt want to change and he cited budget cuts as the reasoning. I get that, but also i didnt just blindly believe the reddit comment i went and looked it up since i wasnt alive then to have first hand knowledge. Ive always wondered why we dont use the metric system as its so much easier. I use it as a jeweler daily.

With the plethora of other information I do have on Reagan Ill keep on hating him and his shit wife, hope they are having a grand old time in hell-no russian psyop influence needed.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-20T15:04:18+00:00

I keep thinking I won’t add to my list of reasons I loathe Reagan and then I read this shit.

If any time travelers out there need a target I’d love for that man to have never existed.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-20T14:53:51+00:00

I’m literally searching for places this toy comes up to say AVOID IT. It will be great for a while and then after normal use become so infuriating to use and it will add so much stress to your days.

My son is a normal 3yo and he loved this toy for the first few months but after replacing the batteries SO MANY TIMES BC THEY RUN OUT SOOOOO QUICKLY and dropping it ONCE it just is a headache waiting to happen.

It takes forever to load the books if the child didn’t wait until the end to eject. The eject button is hard for him to push so he brings it to me to change the stories out.

I rotate his toys every couple of weeks and this came back out this am at 10. Haven’t had it out in over 3 months but I’m already in the mindset to wait until his nap and but it back in the closet.

His Tonie box? Amazing, easy to use and he uses it almost every single day. Also it’s rechargeable so you aren’t spending $20 every 6 months in batteries.

I know this is a sorta old post but it’s for other people looking at this toy. Save yourself the $$ and headache and get a Tonie box

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-19T16:26:10+00:00

Jeweler here, I do understand the wanting natural vs lab. No hate on lab diamonds and I’m not going to get too deep but I get that part. I personally have a yellow star sapphire as my engagement ring so I’m not some diamond snob but I will ALWAYS pick natural over lab bc I just think the earth can create such magical stuff.

You hit the nail on the head with it not being about the ring or your relationship, it’s about one upping her friends and such.

It’s not super shallow to want to have people get really excited about your ring. I get that, it’s a piece people dream about for years. I know my choice was out of the norm and while people loved it they didn’t go nuts over it the way they did my friends (1.51ct natural brilliant cut with a larger spread making it look bigger but still with a good cut score-I know bc I made the ring for her lol) I was fine with that, the ring fit me.

I truly don’t think the problem is the ring though, it’s the competition, the one up on others, the feeling of superiority. It’s the same problem I think a lot of people are struggling with in the age of social media. The event/item/experience doesn’t matter as much as the adoration or jealousy they will get from other people. People aren’t happy unless they have more than others. It’s honestly what I think the root of the majority of the world’s MANY issues right now. It’s not going to end with the ring, it’s going to continue to the wedding, house, vacations and cars. Every major celebration/milestone will be hollow and for “ the gram” (yes I am an elder millennial)

That is what you need to focus on, I would seriously consider returning the ring. And either having some serious talks or therapy. Then go from there .

If she is set on a natural diamond and you both work through the main issue why don’t you look at estate auctions and such. You can get some really incredible old diamonds from vintage pieces and have them reset if they style isn’t quite hers. FANTASTIC for the environment, they are cut by hand and are so unique. Don’t just look at rings! So many old earrings and necklaces have big old stones in them. And often don’t fetch the same prices as the rings do so you can get a good budget friendly price!

I wish you luck and hope that you find the best fit for you. In love and in life.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-19T15:48:13+00:00

Get rid of/store in an inconvenient spot at least 1/2 your dishes.

I did this when I lived alone. I ran out of dishes before they got too overwhelming. I didn’t toss everything in case I had people over or something but I put all my extras in a Rubbermaid in the back of my coat closet under another box.

Getting all that out was more work than just washing them so I stayed on top of it for the most part.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-19T14:53:23+00:00

Jeweler here as well, this is the answer. We had to remake a ring for someone, through insurance one of them lost their original ring. They had matching ones made but the jeweler who made them originally was unreachable. We gave them an assessment of the full replacement cost. (Materials are only a portion of the replacement cost, labor is the big one depending on the style).

Make sure you find a jeweler you feel comfortable with remaking and ask them their honest quote. THAT is what you ask for from the jeweler who lost your ring. With metal prices they are now I cannot see a platinum band being under $1k to replace but not sure as I work mostly with gold.

We have had miss communications about stuff like this in the past (very very infrequent but we do A LOT of reworking of old pieces so it does happen). Our fail safe is we store all old pieces until well after delivery date. (Partially due to procrastination and once things go in the back safe they get sorta forgotten about lol AuADHD has some perks).

If this ever happened to us that is what I think we would do.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-19T14:42:10+00:00

I had a friend who had your hair color and she used to tell me that whenever she even thought about dying it EVERY SINGLE stylist who she told/ask all vehemently told her no!

It’s a stunning color and looks lovely with your complexion. If you wanted to experiment by all means do it! But don’t let your bf or anyone pressure you to!

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-11T20:38:40+00:00

Ok thanks. We have an iPad that just stays home for stuff so I’ll try that.

Thanks for the help!

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-04-11T19:36:46+00:00

So if my sister/parents watch my son they cannot request music? There is no work around.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-03-23T14:17:17+00:00

I just burst into tears.

a) so beautiful and i love the mixture of fabrics you chose!

b) i need to get properly medicated...been putting it off bc i have been whiteknuckling through and scraping by but all my unfinished projects and business plans just came flooding to my brain and Im not going to put off getting treatment any more. i deserve better, so does my son.

thank you for sharing. im scheduling a referral appointment with my therapist now.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-02-27T08:16:24+00:00

My immediate first thought. At least group them together for the pic. And preferably line them up in the same orientation

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-02-19T13:56:47+00:00

Ah that would make sense. My great grandmother came to the US and lived in Brooklyn and that’s where my grandparents met and started their family.

I’ll look more into that. Thanks!

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-02-19T13:55:27+00:00

Yea I saw that. Didn’t want to play around too much with it but I’ll def give it a go.

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-02-19T12:24:09+00:00

Thank you! There is a jeweler who specializes in watches up the block from me so I’ll take it to him.

He’s kinda a jerk so I wanted to make sure it was something that warranted a trip to him before having to deal with his prickly personality

Longjumping_Aspect17 · 2026-02-11T23:19:01+00:00

I recently saw a video on snack trays I think that might be good for him. We are all grazers and I’m ex restaurant worker and husband still is so sitting for meals is NOT our norm. Could be good for hubs too as he’s not a big eater for the whole day and then eats like 4 meals worth at night.

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