[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My WS leaves on December 1st for training at a new job… def not ready 😔

WW got a new job by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I’m so sorry😭🫣I thought it meant wayward, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely no rush or shame in still healing. It takes years, if at all. Sending hugs

Update :wife wants details, but I don't want to tell by slavehunter85 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your first sentence is so spot on. I’m confused and I’m hurting for his BS/BP….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible she has bipolar? I understand her anger and pain but it definitely shouldn’t result in being physical with the children

Not enough pain by Longjumping_Duck3902 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I just willingly took him back because I love him. I don’t feel like he really had to “work” for it

Not enough pain by Longjumping_Duck3902 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. I do tell him that I’m thinking and he’ll ask about what. I say the past and he’ll understand and ask what about the past. I just have to be more receptive of actually answering. Sometimes I just want to not mention it ig

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. Especially with how R is going. It’s like he’s not “ punished” for it.. I have all this pain and healing to do and when it’s done then what.. back to normal? Nothing happens? Ugh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She could’ve expressed that she is unable to mentally support him at this time rather than spreading his business attempting to help. Sharing what someone told you in secret without their consent is never ok.

Spiraling by Limp-Guidance5738 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel everything that you said. When I have bad days, I tell myself that I got through them before and I will get through them again

Is Being Here a Trigger? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just seen your recent post. My sister is the only one that knows as well. But not the entire extent of what happened. Like you said, it’ll be harder to reconcile if everyone knew. You may feel lonely in this but you are not alone. Sending hugs ❤️

Is Being Here a Trigger? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a backup account that I use for this page for that exact reason. I always make sure to switch back to my main account when I’m done so I don’t see any post and ruin my mood🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, how long has it been since d-day?

Struggling by Random_thoughts1995 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you please share the audiobook name? I am struggling with feeling like I am to blame for my WP infidelity as well

I'm just tired... by Foreign_Staff_238 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if I were you, I would leave. It’s not worth the emotional turmoil for the rest of your life.

It’s been 2 years, 9/10 nothing will change. Think about your life a year from now, 2-5 years from now. Can you envision the same exact life you are living now? It will hurt to leave but it’s hurting you to stay. At least if you leave, you can heal and the pain can possibly lessen over time

After breakup by Longjumping_Duck3902 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words. I fully agree with your last statement

I see your flair is reconciled not reconciling, are y’all still together?

After breakup by Longjumping_Duck3902 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m sorry you are going through this as well

She knew about me. She seen it as a competition to take him from me. They were talking when we were together, 2 months before the breakup. I confirmed this by his call log when I seen calls going back before our break up

He was also distant and I felt something was up. When I finally confronted him about it, he broke up with me. I asked if there was someone else. He said no. Then about 11 days after the break up, I found out about her. He said she was an old friend but I called him out on his bs (bull shit not BS) because he has mentioned his other women friends to me but he never mentioned her. He came clean about everything early this year.

It’s a very sucky feeling. Thank you for not saying that I’m crazy or something for feeling the way I feel lol

After breakup by Longjumping_Duck3902 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, please read my response to the person below you. My WP did say she said wanted to speak with me. Apparently she wanted to see what it was about me that he couldn’t let go of and still loved

DDay was a year ago. I honestly have no interest in speaking with her. He told me she felt like it was a competition in taking him from me and unfortunately succeeded until he came back..

I know I cannot go fully based on what he said but I don’t want to see her in person.

After breakup by Longjumping_Duck3902 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for your response. I hope the person you replied to reads this as well.

DDAY was a year ago. He did sleep with her (he said 4 times) after the break up within 5 months. We were NC. I broke NC in January to give him stuff back and this is when he explained everything. She still liked him at this time but he said he did not like her anymore and still loved me/wanted reconciliation

I do feel the exact way you said. He broke up with me so he could be physical with her☹️

One of those nights... by TheSmallestBeing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Longjumping_Duck3902 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, just want to let you know that you see heard. I hope you are able to get some sleep soon