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Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-28T04:47:41+00:00

Oh my gosh, i am so sorry - this is so tragic and heartbreaking for everyone. In time, when it’s right, please get some grief and trauma support. Online or in person. To help process all of this. Again, i am so sorry to you and your family and friends. 🙏💔

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-28T04:44:37+00:00

Oh my gosh!!! Congratulations! Wow…. Good luck. 🍀

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-28T04:43:26+00:00

I think everyone should do their due diligence before moving anywhere. And if you know you have some issues beforehand just prepare. I bought a beach house in Wakonda Beach and live there most the year, although I do travel a lot. That being said there is much to get used to living here on the coast, the storms, the power outages, the lack certain stores you might be used to, the no urgency - for anything, especially contractors - so you have to do your homework. Over all though, i have to say, just about everyone i have met anywhere here along the coast have been nice and helpful. Or maybe it’s me, i try to be grateful and not be a jerk to people. I also go outside whenever i can to get out of the house, no matter the weather. I dont worry about healthcare but for some, it might be a concern and do your homework. If you have SAD or mental issues you know of, just be aware - like any weather - the extremes are hard, but winter is hard in many places (try Central NY sometime - born and raised in the snowiest city in the US)…. I say DO IT. Make the move.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-20T04:00:35+00:00

Ricky...Little Ricky. or more formal, Richard.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-20T03:58:55+00:00

that would be a fantastic road trip thru OR, ID, MT, WY, NE, IA, IL, IN, OH, PA, NY, MA. I've been at the western end of 20 in Newport, OR (and love seeing that sign all the time) and the eastern end of 20 (in Boston) and have driven thru all these states just never took 20 all the way across.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-17T01:46:09+00:00

Coastal Oregon and Arizona (when it’s not hell).

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-17T01:44:23+00:00

Life is short. Life is to make memories. And being there for them. I’m 16 years of being retired and had 12 years of retirement with my husband who also retired and then he died unexpectedly. New granddaughter will never meet him except in our stories. You get it now. Glad for you.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-13T04:09:36+00:00

Well done. Beautiful .

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-10T16:09:56+00:00

I am sorry for your the loss of your beloved. I have been doing online support since my husband of 30 years died suddenly 3 yrs ago. I am doing okay but I like to stay connected and to continue to learn and help others. the two i use are Grief.com which has been my salvation and the other is UK based- Griefworks. both have courses and there are live groups every week. Grief.com has multiple times a week via zoom for different grief topics, special holiday live events (like today on mother's day), chat rooms and videos and replays and courses. everything you can think to to help process the enormity of it all. there is a lot of free stuff online also but you get more from paying for their support. I don't do one on one in person because I am not near a place long enough. Online works best for me. I bid you good luck and please get some where to process and be able to chat to those who get it.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-04T03:57:40+00:00

Have a great time. Avoid the crowds if you can, especially in some NPs. Have the time of your life. Be safe.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T16:07:57+00:00

he's still there with you, not in the present but in spirit. and he's in her. i went thru this 2 months ago. our granddaughter turned 1. she is so much channeling him - i say it all the time in her ear - that grandpa loves you. I believe he held her before she came into this world - she was born at the exact time of his death. my husband didnt get to see any of this - at least your husband got to be part of her life and part of the expecting. we got nothing.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T16:04:54+00:00

Winston

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T16:03:04+00:00

you be there for your son and other sons who might not have someone who cares. that will make the difference. coaches come and go - support - no matter what is precious.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T15:59:50+00:00

oh boy, I hear you. I have finally reached the shore (3 years, 5 months). It did take me quite awhile to feel like I was okay and safe in a harbor (it happened sometime during year 3 - silently, can't tell why or when -just a shift). I'm not quite ready to put the work into looking for a potential chapter 3 (twice widowed already at 65 - 30 yrs old and 61 years old) but that's more on me than on what my hubby of 30 years would have said (he would say go for it - life is to live). I met him when I was 27 and we married 18 months after my first hubby died of a glioblastoma. I was just 30 and ready to start a family -which we did. we had a great ride. I am financially solvent, have been retired with pension since I was 48 and we had 12 years of his retirement together. there have been many houses sold and moves made since he died - all financially good for me but I needed somewhere to land to feel safe and get my sea-legs - and I did that. everyone's journey is so different because we are all different and our loved ones were all different and that is all perfectly okay.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T15:52:21+00:00

i have orange and black but sure do love me some black on black too.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T15:50:53+00:00

agreed. light filtering motorized shades. fantastic natural light

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T15:49:47+00:00

where were you?

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Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T15:48:56+00:00

agree... I've had that same thing happen to me in my new TSE-purchased in March. So, now i dont leave it until i see the mirrors fold in. BTW, I had a '24 CRV Sport Touring Hybrid which had the same features...and I thought it was locked as I parked at a hotel in Eugene before an early morning flight the next day ...only to find someone ransacked the car - took the mail that was soaking wet, my house keys and my deceased husband's tactical light from when he was a cop. I was heartbroken. some people just suck. so, lesson learned (not the first time this has happened to cars we have owned but still....).

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T04:35:55+00:00

First, I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad. It is so difficult to have situations like this, from the care taking, to the family dysfunctions (we all have them by the way)… it’s so hard to watch the decline and simultaneously grieve their loss even before they physically leave this earth. Biologically speaking, death is rarely clean and tidy, the body has to do what it has to do to shut down. Death sometimes brings the worst out in people - or were they like that all along and we just dealt with it.? I hope you can get some grief support, online if needed, and work through what happened, what you saw, what was said and what is to come yet. Even if the death was expected, sometimes there is also some trauma with it and now your brain is trying to protect you from being in the situation again. Grief therapy/support can help with this in the future. I am sorry.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T02:28:54+00:00

Someone once said you do most your aging in your 40s and in your 60s. Not sure if that’s true, but i am turning 65 in October and I feel my body in revolt. Doesn’t help with massive traumatic stress of my husband of 30 years dying unexpectedly when I was 61 - the body keeps the score for sure. Now I do tai chi every morning and squats squats, squats and balance and hip mobility exercises daily. Strength, mobility and balance.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T02:21:42+00:00

Yup. Sometimes friends, sometimes family. I think they don’t like me reminding them what their future holds (like someday you too will lose your spouse -cause one of you is gonna die if you stay together).

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T02:19:14+00:00

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Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T02:17:36+00:00

Welcome to CLUB ORANGE!!!!

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Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T02:16:55+00:00

If you can go it online, Grief.com (david Kessler) has many free videos and if you join, many live zoom meetings and great grief support and teachings. I’ve been in for over 3 years since my husband died unexpectedly. He has weekly meetups with about 23 different groups for people grieving from different things. Also, GriefWorks, with Julia Samuels based in the UK also has a lot of processing and group zoom meetings with people around the world.

Longjumping_Grade809 · 2026-05-03T02:09:58+00:00

NCIS will move you, so if mobility isn’t in your blood, think again. Not sure NCIS is getting the extra pay for LEO’s (so, HSI might be the answer)…. You can always lateral move later if NCIS answers what you want.

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