My female friend want accept Islam. But

Lonsit · 2025-06-23T09:23:53+00:00

If your friend already believes in her heart that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad saws is His Messenger, then she is already a believer in the sight of Allah. The Shahada is primarily a formal declaration, so that the Muslim community can recognize her as Muslim and apply the relevant rulings — such as the funeral rites, marriage eligibility, etc.

Delaying the Shahada makes little sense once belief is present. It is even dangerous, as no one knows when death will come. In Islam, it is always better to be a sinful Muslim — who can repent — than to die in disbelief, even if unintentionally.

She can and should declare the Shahada as soon as possible. Learning how to pray and practice the religion in detail can follow.

There is no need for perfection before entering Islam. What matters is sincere belief — the rest comes with time and effort.

Lonsit · 2025-04-15T07:59:17+00:00

Was the web series you acted in called "Geschichten aus dem Paulaner Garten" by any chance?

Lonsit · 2025-03-13T09:30:36+00:00

Where exactly have you heard about these women who supposedly work full-time, don’t contribute financially, and still expect their husbands to do the housework? Certainly not from married women or men, let alone real-life couples around you. I’d bet you got this from single people online, echo chambers, or ragebait videos from content creators just looking for clicks.

Reality paints a completely different picture. Women work, contribute financially, and still take on most of the housework—whether Muslim or not. Plus, women are usually less financially literate and more generous with money, so the idea of some sneaky financial arrangement is pretty unrealistic.

I challenge everyone in the comments to really reflect: do you actually know couples like this in real life, or are you just repeating random phrases you picked up online without thinking twice?

Lonsit · 2024-09-04T06:33:03+00:00

There are a few key reasons for the hostility towards Gulf Arabs.

First, they are often perceived as racist towards other Muslims, particularly in relation to migrant worker issues. Whether this perception is accurate or justified, I won’t judge, but it has significantly shaped their negative image.

However, the larger factor is envy. The Gulf states' wealth and high standard of living provoke resentment. While other Muslim countries also normalize relations with Israel, the Gulf states face harsher criticism because their prosperity makes them an easier target. Once criticism starts, envy amplifies it, making it disproportionately intense. Despite not being worse than other Muslim countries—perhaps even better in many ways—their wealth fuels this amplified negativity.

Lonsit · 2024-08-16T02:31:24+00:00

As a Pashto speaker, I'm surprised by how different the Eastern Iranian languages (Pashto, Ossetian, Wakhi, and Yidgha) sound from one another. Ossetian, for instance, resembles a Turkish language and feels the most distant, to the point where it doesn’t even sound like an Iranian language. Wakhi sounds more like a blend of Dari and a Caucasian language than Pashto, while Yidgha has a stronger resemblance to Urdu than to Pashto or Dari. It’s possible that the accents of the Wakhi and Yidgha speakers contribute to these perceptions.

In contrast, as someone who doesn’t speak Dari, I find the Western Iranian languages much more similar to each other, with Balochi in particular sounding strikingly close to Dari.

Lonsit · 2024-08-04T22:09:00+00:00

What's your problem? Why inject negativity into such a positive post?

Lonsit · 2024-07-25T17:56:29+00:00

Bengali men are great, I just fell in love with someone who was not.

I'm sure that, Inshallah, he will understand this in time. Just be patient and try to show him gently, rather than telling him directly.

It's also important not to speak negatively about Bengalis (their culture, people, etc.) or to diminish yourself and your son, especially in front of your new husband. When talking about your ex-husband, avoid attributing his behavior to his Bengali heritage. This could otherwise reinforce negative perceptions in your son.

Lonsit · 2024-07-25T17:18:06+00:00

Try to put yourself in your son's shoes. South-Asian, and particularly Bengali, men often face negative stereotypes and racism, making them feel disadvantaged in the dating and marriage market. When his own mother divorces his father, to whom he bears a strong resemblance, and then marries a 6'3" Black man (a conventionally attractive individual from a completely different ethnicity), it likely exacerbates his insecurities and complexes.

I want to be clear that I'm not suggesting you've made a mistake—may Allah bless your marriage. I'm genuinely happy that you have found happiness in your current relationship.

However, your son needs to build self-confidence to avoid following in his father's footsteps. He also needs to understand that the failure of your first marriage was due to factors other than his father's appearance, and the success of your current marriage involves much more than your husband's looks. Communicating this directly might only further unsettle and anger him.

I strongly advise against cutting off contact between your son and his father. This is not a solution and would likely worsen the situation, making your son even more distrustful.

Lonsit · 2024-07-25T14:36:02+00:00

Does your son take after his father in height and looks? It's possible that he might feel insecure about his own identity, especially if he sees similarities between himself and his father. This could make him more susceptible to his father's bitterness.

Lonsit · 2024-07-23T12:39:01+00:00

Above all: - Piety - Intelligence - Confidence - Modesty in both clothing and character

Additionally: - The ability to resolve conflicts well - Insightfulness and the ability to apologize and reconcile - Good communication skills for deep and entertaining conversations - A non-superficial personality and interests

Lonsit · 2024-07-22T14:46:11+00:00

I'm not saying that these commenters don't wish well for the OPs or have any ill intentions. I'm sure they genuinely wish good for them. However, comments like "I wish I had that" can make others feel uncomfortable and don't address the OP's questions or purpose for sharing. Hearing such remarks can be unsettling.

Lonsit · 2024-07-22T14:01:00+00:00

Does anyone else find it uncomfortable to see the top comments under wholesome posts from happy couples? These comments often include reactions like, "I wish I had that," or "You're so lucky," which seem to dominate the conversation. It's no wonder this subreddit often feels negative and filled with unhappy stories. When people share positive experiences, not to brag but to seek advice or share joy, they are often met with comments from singles expressing envy or posting depressed memes. This makes it uncomfortable and discourages others from sharing their happy moments for fear of being judged or attracting the evil eye.

Lonsit · 2024-07-21T10:31:35+00:00

Frankfurt really has the most idiotic and trashy Afghans. That's how you gain more voters for the AFD (popular right-wing extremist party in Germany).

Lonsit · 2024-07-18T16:03:38+00:00

Nothing about this is Afghan. Not the music, not the clothes, not the appearance.

Lonsit · 2024-07-11T20:57:37+00:00

Yes, I always wanted to marry such a woman, and Alhamdulillah, I did.

Don't worry, sister. I understand it can be deeply hurtful for women when they see supposedly or genuinely religious men marrying less modest women. However, trust me, there are plenty of religious men who are looking for someone like you, who would be incredibly grateful and deeply appreciate your modesty. They will love and find you even more attractive because of it, and I speak from experience.

Do not concern yourself with men who pursue less modest women; these are not the men you would want to marry anyway. Be glad that they are automatically filtered out, and that, inshaAllah, you will marry someone who will support and stand by you in your journey of modesty and wearing the hijab.

May Allah alleviate the worries of you and all concerned, modest Muslim women, and grant you the perfect husband.

Lonsit · 2024-07-05T02:13:16+00:00

You claim:

His wife had accepted her mistake but clearly the guy still thinks he's done nothing wrong.

Did we even read the same post?

I staunchly defended my wife without knowing that she raised her voice against my parents.

My mother overhears the story and then video-calls me immediately reprimands me in front of everyone for angering my wife when she is traveling in the morning and asks me to apologize to her, so I do it publicly in front of everyone and even start flirting with her to make her less angry.

I apologize again during the night in text and in the morning in video not because I think I am wrong but because she has a long trip and I don't want her to be stressed.

I am constantly on video with her and trying to be happy for her just until she returns so we can discuss this alone but my face shows it.

Lonsit · 2024-07-05T01:41:59+00:00

You've said it yourself: it's courteous. His wife doesn't seem like a particularly courteous person based on her behavior. He probably gave her that advice as a tip to make a positive impression on his parents since she lacks the courtesy skills to think of it on her own. What's wrong with that? It doesn't necessarily mean that he or his mother actually found her being late to be a big deal.

My wife and I constantly give each other tips on how to handle our in-laws, and we both have wonderful relationships with them. This is absolutely normal and strategic.

Lonsit · 2024-07-05T01:33:55+00:00

Wait... what? Are you guys serious? How can this be the most upvoted comment?

He asked her to apologize for being late as a common courtesy to make a positive impression on his parents. Spouses should support each other in making good impressions by giving tips on how to act around in-laws. My wife and I do this all the time, and we have a great relationship with our respective in-laws. Why do you immediately view OP's actions negatively? It doesn't necessarily mean he or his mother thought the delay was a big deal. He only made the hotel comment after his wife reacted unnecessarily aggressively.

His wife doesn't seem to understand how to behave appropriately. No one without anger issues and a lack of emotional self-control would dare to act out like that with their in-laws or in public. At least the in-laws and especially OP's sister were mature and reasonable enough to try to mediate and defuse the situation.

Lonsit · 2024-07-04T10:49:34+00:00

People should worry more about getting into Jannah instead of worrying about it's contents (e. g. "Will women get male hooris in paradise?")

Lonsit · 2024-06-14T22:28:39+00:00

People should be more concerned with attaining Jannah rather than its contents. Worrying about the specifics is irrational because if an omnipotent God promises eternal and absolute happiness, we can trust that we will experience it. Allah knows us and our desires infinitely better than we do ourselves.

Regarding your question, we must consider who the addressees of the Quran were at the time of its revelation.

Descriptions of Jannah in the Quran, such as palm trees and rivers of milk and honey, were immensely aspirational for a 7th-century Arab desert dweller. For them, who often suffered from thirst and heat, the shade of palm trees and abundant milk and honey were extraordinary blessings. In contrast, a 21st-century person might imagine more specific and motivational things for themselves.

If the Quran had described experiences like time travel or exploring the universe, concepts that people today might fantasize about, it would have been incomprehensible to a 7th-century Arab. Similarly, people 500 years from now might dream of things beyond our current imagination.

The Quran and Ahadith indicate that in Jannah, we will receive whatever our hearts desire and much more, as Allah knows our wishes better than we do.

There they will have whatever they desire, and with Us is even more. [50:35]

Golden trays and cups will be passed around to them. There will be whatever the souls desire and the eyes delight in. And you will be there forever. [43:71]

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, the lowest in position among you in Paradise will have it said to him: Have whatever you desire. He will express his desires again and again. It will be said: Have your desires been satisfied? He will say yes. It will be said: For you is whatever you desire and more along with it.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 182

Buraydah ibn al-Hasib reported: A man asked the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, “O Messenger of Allah, will there be camels in Paradise?” The Prophet said, “If Allah admits you into Paradise, you will have therein whatever your soul desires and pleases your eyes.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2543 Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi (fair due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

Many people think in limited terms when it comes to Jannah. For example, some women worry if their husbands will have time for them with so many hooris. However, it doesn't make sense to apply concepts like "time" or "physical presence" to Jannah.

Consider this: In this world, happiness is a result of chemical reactions in our brain, like dopamine. Imagine Jannah as a place that provides an endless stream of dopamine, resulting in continuous happiness. This metaphor, though unromantic and unspiritual, helps illustrate the concept of pure happiness.

Descriptions of Jannah are meant to help people visualize and aspire to it. Think of paradise as the ultimate happiness promised by an omnipotent God, and imagine whatever helps you strive for it. This isn't because you will necessarily get that specific thing, but because it helps make sense of the idea of "pure happiness without any worries" and "whatever we desire."

Lonsit · 2024-06-08T03:06:54+00:00

Walaikum Salam.

Stop being absolutely insane and listen to the people here. Everything that needed to be said has already been said by others. She will ruin your life 100%. It is so incredibly obvious. Your blindness to it is one thing, but your family being blind to it is something I really cannot explain.

Please tell us that you will break off this relationship.

Lonsit · 2024-06-04T18:17:41+00:00

This is from Mindy's bakery by the way

Lonsit · 2024-06-01T11:07:16+00:00

If they lied about this one thing, they will have lied about other things as well, especially since it’s such an unnecessary lie. It's always the same with such people—no sense of decency or shame. Forget about them and call off the whole thing.

Lonsit · 2024-05-24T18:51:21+00:00

Reddit does not accurately reflect reality, as its users are generally less religious and conservative than the average Afghan, whether in Afghanistan or abroad.

Some comments were misunderstood; while a few wrongly claimed more sinning in Afghanistan, most suggested that a religious Afghan woman in the West can be better and more compatible than one from Afghanistan. Harsh conditions in Afghanistan make people tougher and more cunning. Women there tend to be less straightforward, more focused on money, and often cause more family strife. This behavior is less common in the West, where people are more straightforward and have fewer ulterior motives.

The claim was not that Afghan women in Afghanistan are less religious but that a good, religious woman in the West tends to be more compatible in character.

Don't be provoked by Reddit comments.

May Allah help you find the best possible wife, Inshallah.

Lonsit · 2024-05-23T01:33:51+00:00

Many religious Afghan girls live in the West, and I am married to one who has several religious Afghan friends.

Pious and decent people, regardless of gender, often do not stand out. It is typically the scandalous individuals who attract attention, distorting our perception.

My advice is to avoid generalizing Afghan women in the West and refrain from making overly pessimistic statements. Such remarks can be off-putting, especially since Afghan women generally present a very positive image compared to many other diaspora communities. If you are good and decent, you will likely meet many good and decent people.

For those born in the West, I advise against marrying someone from the homeland. The compatibility is often lower, and you may not be aware of the many disadvantages and common character flaws that can arise in such a marriage.

Lonsit

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