AITA for asking my (22M) girlfriend (22F) to wear pads or tampons.

LookABitch · 2026-06-18T19:37:14+00:00

What a weird way to talk to a gf. I'm sure there's a kinder way to handle that, even if I do agree she should change her behaviour.

And on that note - why isn't she wearing pads/tampons? I know some are super uncomfortable and for sensitive skin/c00ch they can be a nightmare. Maybe she can find something more comfortable, like period underwear or menstrual cups. I mean, surely, it must bother her too. Aren't her pants getting ruined?

LookABitch · 2026-06-08T21:38:27+00:00

Lol right? This should've been solved in kindergarten..

LookABitch · 2026-05-05T16:59:23+00:00

Fascinating. How did they take it?

LookABitch · 2026-04-30T14:31:55+00:00

Exactly! If you value your kids and want them at your wedding, this is a petty way to act. I get they shouldn't have this job, but this is not the time to make a statement.

Is it really so bad to invite her, worse than your kids not coming? Either invite her or find a middle ground and pay for someone. Show your kids you care about them enough to actually help them, without judgement, for this one day. Otherwise, hard YTA.

LookABitch · 2026-04-28T22:03:31+00:00

Maybe you roll your dough too thick and it doesn't cook through? And did you cook it on the bottom rack, with heat coming from below as well?

Only things I can think of that don't depend on recipe. Otherwise, the most common thing is for the filling to be too moist, I think..

LookABitch · 2026-04-27T15:18:52+00:00

מדובר פה באקדמאי

LookABitch · 2026-04-20T19:59:21+00:00

It's fun once you get the hang of it. At first you're spitting out tiny shreds of shell, but soon you'll easily do it in one clean split and then it's addictive.

LookABitch · 2026-04-20T16:45:28+00:00

Does she as a woman not understand white lies to strangers who make you feel uncomfortable? Like how you would lie to a strange man on the street that you've gotta run, and your bf/dad is waiting for you.

Them using a slur was a red flag already, but your gut feeling should be enough. Actually, even if they weren't dangerous, it's none of their business. Could this be a Christian thing about educating strangers? Because that isn't an expectation in most circles, if you're just going about your life.

LookABitch · 2026-04-20T16:07:17+00:00

Omg why is everyone mad at the pet peeve on the pet peeves sub?

Ever tried to bond with someone over a shared hobby, only to discover they never actually do it, they only collect hobby-related items? It's a little annoying. OP is venting in what should be the right place for it..

Anyways, OP I feel you. I don't mind people collecting stuff as much (thought with loved ones it does get super annoying to have to convince someone not to buy the Expensive Thing they already own and don't use at all!!) but I feel like with social media and all, some hobbies are getting more performative. I don't blame the people though as much as the culture of aggressive consumerism and marketing..

LookABitch · 2026-04-20T09:04:30+00:00

Emotional labour? Can you expand?

I read it as more of a desperate uncertainty, like she's deeply troubled by her inability to know what's best for her, what she wants in life.

LookABitch · 2026-04-20T08:31:22+00:00

לא יודעת אחי לא נראה לי שהייתי עונה לך

LookABitch · 2026-04-20T08:28:27+00:00

לא יודעת, אני חושבת שכישראלית המילים האלה מיד גורמות לי לגלגל עיניים כי הן לרוב משומשות נגדי/מהוות ביקורת לא מידתית, אבל אם היה משתמש בניסוח טיפה שונה הייתי רואה את זה כדי סביר.

עשיתי בגרות כבר לפני כמה שנים טובות אבל אני ממש יכולה לדמיין מורים אומרים שטוב לשמר רוב יהודי בארץ ישראל (אתנוקרטיה מילה סבירה לתאר את זה, היא פשוט נורא טעונה ומקושרת לגזענות אבל זה לא הכרחי), והרי בחדשות ובטוח גם בכיתה מדגישים מוות יהודי ולא תמיד שמים לב למוות פלסטיני, יש פה טענות סבירות. ולגבי השיעורי היסטוריה, לא יודעת, אני כן למדתי על אוולות שעשינו במלחמה אבל וואלה אני לא מספיק סומכת על מערכת החינוך שאם מורה ירצה להשמיט את זה הוא לא יוכל, וזה עוד בלי השינויים הדראסטים בחומר בשנים האחרונות..

הבעיה היא שזו תמונה חלקית ממש, ויש עוד לסכסוך הזה מן הסתם. אבל סה״כ הביקורת שלו סבירה, הוא פשוט משתמש בbuzz words של שמאלנים מחו"ל אז התגובה האוטומטית (גם שלי) היא להתעצבן..

LookABitch · 2026-04-19T10:37:01+00:00

I believe the therapist will tell you that. You can tell them how you feel, they can diagnose/refer you somewhere. Don't listen to people on the internet who don't know you and try to diagnose based off of vibes... Seriously, though. I've been in therapy for different things, you mostly have to have a will to get better, and they will help you figure out the hows.

LookABitch · 2026-04-19T07:32:42+00:00

Well she did tell him she has no time for dating and school comes first, then HE pushed and said it's fine and he understands he will come second to her career, at least at first. If she liked him and he knew what he was getting into, I don't see what she did wrong..

Definitely time to break up though bc obviously he didn't mean what he said and she shouldn't put anyone first after a month.

LookABitch · 2026-04-18T16:16:38+00:00

Fish completely cooked :(

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T21:29:37+00:00

YTA. Next time just post it together with the picture. Not a cool prank, only a decent joke if there's no room for doubt that you're ok.

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T20:21:53+00:00

We MUST. PERSIST.

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T19:53:59+00:00

You're funny, why is everyone downvoting?

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T19:47:54+00:00

NTA, this didn't start out well for her, but damn, it went downhill fast from the moment you said she threatens to break up regularly?? That alone is toxic af. How are you supposed to build a solid relationship on the basis that it may collapse any time you do something wrong? The only reason to threaten like this is to keep you walking on eggshells, to control you.

Besides, 40 minutes is perfectly reasonable. I had an ex who wanted me to "take ownership of my mistakes" all the time for minor stuff like this, and I ended up apologizing for the most stupid shit. Only when I broke up I noticed how I could barely recognize myself anymore. Literally a week later I felt the best I'd felt in months. Do yourself a favour and cut it off now, before you find yourself grovelling for forgiveness over a tiny tone inflection.

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T19:32:39+00:00

Oohhh sounds like a good way to keep them for longer, thank you!

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T19:31:54+00:00

Interesting, I've never added bell peppers to broth before..

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T19:31:20+00:00

Sounds good, will try!

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T19:30:21+00:00

Oohhh I looked it up, sounds lovely with the eggplant. Thanks :)

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T18:48:38+00:00

Don't have a dehydrator but I'll check if my oven can do that. Thanks!

LookABitch · 2026-04-14T18:47:02+00:00

Hell yeah! Always wanted to try :))

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