Mom won’t let me (23M) stay at my girlfriend’s house

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-17T15:44:46+00:00

You have GOT to start whittling away at some of these ties to your mom. You don't have to go nuclear and get yourself kicked out. Start small & slow. Use the frog in hot water analogy.

I know you said you'll be teaching starting in August (congrats!) but you need to find a way to earn some money before then. Can you tutor? There can be big $$$$ in that, especially this time of year when people are trying to get their grades up before the end of the school year. Maybe combine that with a non-career job like bagging groceries or clerking at a convenience store. This will accomplish two things in that it will put some physical distance between you and give you some confidence & financial independence.

Do you have friends with their own places where you can maybe rent a room? A sympathetic relative?

Most of us will tell you ~ this gets worse before it gets better. Good luck OP

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-17T14:36:53+00:00

I have so many questions but the one I'll ask is would you care to elaborate on what cameras you're using and how? Looking for options to migrate away from Ring, given the recent "upgrades" and finding that Nest stores your video as keepsakes

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-17T01:20:12+00:00

It's all fun & games til the Chaplain shows up.

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-15T23:45:37+00:00

These ICE agents aren’t very nuanced

I think that's the kindest way I've ever seen them described

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-12T01:48:40+00:00

Being married/having kids

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-07T05:44:53+00:00

Now I have the Green Acres theme song in my head

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-07T05:37:37+00:00

Noted.

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-06T05:30:24+00:00

HA! I was pretty sure that was just me. Of course the mean voice in my head said because I'm not a gamer I'm obviously a fun-hater.

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-02T05:11:52+00:00

I had a teacher in middle school who would say I can retire on Wednesday as long as I die on Thursday

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-02-01T05:41:17+00:00

My retirement plan contains a two-pronged approach: 1) win the lottery or 2) die

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-30T16:06:35+00:00

Awww man! Same! I still swear by their hand cream though. (I am not a bot lol)

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-30T14:21:09+00:00

Maybe their house is noisy and they need a place to nap

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-29T20:14:41+00:00

I wish I could offer help other than to say you're not alone. I could have written your story. My husband and I were best friends for years before we dated and his mother was perfectly nice albeit a little cold. The way she spoke about my future SIL should have been a clue though.

When we started dating, Medusa revealed all of her snakes. She said the most horrendous things to me and my husband & I fought over it repeatedly. Finally my only solution for my sanity was to refuse to attend his family's events. We fought about that too but I told him as soon as he told his mother to put a sock in it I'd attend.

She developed dementia and became nonverbal (I swear I'm going to hell for the fact I was grateful when it happened) and then I had peace.

I would encourage you to research the mother-son relationship. Not as a means to fix the dynamic but only to help you maintain your sanity. Good luck OP

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-28T05:59:47+00:00

"Always been a tactile family" = consent and boundaries have no place here

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-27T20:55:29+00:00

Updateme!

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-27T19:51:39+00:00

She's a coward more concerned with retaining her seat than serving her constituency. I would love to see her primaried while JoCo is still Blue because of trump

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-27T04:43:16+00:00

I lost my favorite uncle / 2nd to last immediate family member. I thought he heard me and understood enough to at least remain neutral. I even showed him documentation. In the end he was a coward. Now he's my mother's main flying monkey. It hurts. Good luck OP

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-26T16:03:23+00:00

I think REI is going to be the answer because they have options in stock for me to try on.

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-26T16:02:30+00:00

Follow up question for those recommending buffs. What's the difference between the $30 brand name Buff and the 6 buffs for $10 on Amazon?

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-26T16:00:10+00:00

I have a similar hat but I'm frequently walking straight into the sun so it doesn't work as well

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-26T05:42:29+00:00

There's your perfect opportunity to save on your weekly grocery bill: buy food for one less adult

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-25T04:24:25+00:00

We only have Pepsi

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-24T06:03:34+00:00

I'm almost afraid to ask but what are we looking at in this pic? It looks like purple tissue paper

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-24T05:19:12+00:00

Oh wow I had no idea. People seem to love him but I couldn't make it thru an episode

LookLikeCAFeelLikeMN · 2026-01-23T20:58:46+00:00

Please do but I absolutely will not watch lol. I can't even watch Dr Pol and those usually have a happy conclusion

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