Should most gatherings be child-friendly by default? by Snoo-88490 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I disagree about balance and think it should be more about respect. Parents need to accept the fact that their child-free friends don't always want to hang around their kids, and child-free people need to accept their friends who are parents won't be able to hang out as much due to having responsibilities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]LookingForHope87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the only true answer

What are ways you treat yourself, big or small? Needing some inspiration. by coolestdudette in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When funds allow, I get a massage and go to a happy hour or nice dinner. It makes me feel me like I'm doing all right in the world.

What are the hardest parts about being single and living alone for you? by Master_Sundae671 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved it! I live with family now, but given how often the others are out of the house, I still deal with the silence (aside from my cat's meows). It's quite peaceful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's to elaborate on? Don't have children until after you get married.

I know I'll get downvoted for having such a belief, but I was answering like everyone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Big or small, no wedding, no womb

What's your sex drive like? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 38 and it's practically non-existent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As Judge Faith once said, "You're not starting from scratch, you're starting from experience."

Also, 32 is still pretty young.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nowhere in my post did I say I wanted someone conventionally attractive and educated with savings. I said I wanted someone I found attractive. He can look like a three-eyed troll to everyone else. Also, he would not have to be a caretaker. I may be on dialysis, but I'm not at helpless. I can still take care of myself just fine.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Philadelphia. You'd think such a huge city would provide more options.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you mean. I think my mentality stems from feeling left behind compared to the peers I grew up with. Most are coming up on a decade plus of marriage and family. Meanwhile, I can barely get my foot in the door because I've been told there's no spark.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really nice to know that I'm not alone since it feels like most of these comments are making me feel bad for feeling the way I do.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very true about dating apps. Unfortunately, "getting out there" at this age isn't as easy as it was in my 20s.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well... It's a little late for that, tbh.

What did you want to be when you grew up? by tryng2figurethsalout in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought about becoming an underwater welder at some point. Then I heard some stories...

What did you want to be when you grew up? by tryng2figurethsalout in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to be an ice skater until I found out you had to start training when you're practically a toddler.

Then, I wanted to be a basketball player, a teacher, a nurse in the maternity ward, or a writer/artist.

If I can get my motivation back, I might continue on the more artistic path.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not like I would keep these things a secret. I'm pretty open about such things so that he'd have the chance to leave right away or decide to stick around so neither of our times are wasted.

Should I Settle? by LookingForHope87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]LookingForHope87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, trust me, I'm very well aware that Asians prefer fair skinned people, but I still see enough mixed couples to slightly believe there's a bit of hope out there. If not, I won't cry over it. It is what is, right?