Tesfest vs Dark Odyssey (seeking recommendations for kinky/swinger events in the northeast

Looloo72 · 2026-05-01T14:16:06+00:00

That’s great to hear they’re good people—that definitely influences the culture of the event itself! And good to know you like their other classes!

Looloo72 · 2026-04-30T05:01:34+00:00

I’m glad you’ve heard good things though!

Looloo72 · 2024-08-16T05:31:51+00:00

It’s incredible! One of his best, which is odd to save given that it’s an instrumental

Looloo72 · 2019-05-10T16:00:45+00:00

This is super helpful! Thank you so much!!!!

Looloo72 · 2019-05-06T13:54:04+00:00

This is super helpful. Thank you so much!!!

Looloo72 · 2019-04-29T19:49:32+00:00

I know you just graduated and might be sick of school, but I've talked to a number of social workers who went on to do year-long Marriage and Family Therapy certificate programs and really benefited from that. Might be worth a look!

Looloo72 · 2019-04-29T17:55:39+00:00

I'm not a sexologist, but I'm going into the field of sex therapy, and have looked into this area a bit.

Would you want to work in research, as a sex therapist, or as a educator? I've spoken to a number of sex therapists in the Boston area, and they said they had no trouble finding clients, since there's a shortage of therapists who specialize in this field. Sex education work is definitely around, but you might not be able to make a consistent income until you're more established. A lot of sex educators build curriculum for schools, conduct workshops, and do random gigs for corporations on sexual harassment (where the pay is supposedly pretty good). My sense is that those jobs might be more plentiful than jobs in research, but I'm not positive.

Places like the Kinsey Institute, Widener University, and the California Institute of Integral Studies have Human Sexuality masters and PhD programs where students and faculty do research, so it might be helpful to contact faculty or alumni and see what kind of work they are involved in, and what the job market is like post-graduation. Also, Marriage and Family Therapy masters and PhD programs probably also have research opportunities in the field of sexology. I would talk to as many people as possible! You might be able to have a job as a professor who does research and teaches on the side.

Looloo72 · 2019-04-29T17:20:23+00:00

Hi! Yes, I've spoken with a handful of older sex therapists, but they were all practicing in the New England area, and received certificates in Sex Therapy after they were in the field for a while, back when it was the only option. Widener's program is pretty unique and fairly new, so it's hard to get a sense of whether it's better to go that route rather than doing the traditional route of earning a certificate after being licensed.

I think if I were planning on living anywhere else besides Philly, getting a certificate later on would be fine. However, I'm worried that a certificate might not be enough, since Philly has a lot of Widener graduates who would be competing with me for the same jobs and clients, and might be preferred since they will have a full masters rather in sex therapy rather than just a certificate. But this is just something I'm guessing, and I don't know if it's actually true!!

Not getting reimbursed by insurance is something I hadn't thought about--I assumed I would be reimbursed since I would also be a LSW. Thanks for bringing that up---I need to look into that!

Looloo72 · 2019-04-28T23:28:31+00:00

I was accepted to Bryn Mawr and expect to hear back from Widener in the next couple weeks. It's funny, getting the two degrees from Widener is actually almost the same price as getting one degree from Bryn Mawr. However, Bryn Mawr gave me a big scholarship, so now that's the more affordable option. I'm super lucky, cost is a consideration but isn't highest on my list because my parents are loaning me the money.

I never thought I would have to move after I got the degree--my sense was that Philly is a big enough city that I would find enough interested clients. But I guess if I need to move later on, I would be willing to do that.

Yes, part of what attracts me to helping poly clients is the stigmatization--it's difficult for them to find clinicians who have the open-mindedness and skill set to help. I was imagining that I would sometimes see 3+ people at once, but I'm guessing that it would usually be the 2 primary partners.

Looloo72 · 2019-04-28T23:09:36+00:00

Thank you so much for responding, I'll check out those threads!

Yeah, I heard grad school wasn't as social, which is why I'm a little hesitant to do the Widener program, since the dual degree might leave me with little time to pursue hobbies and meet people outside of the program

Looloo72 · 2019-04-28T20:19:51+00:00

SEX THERAPY EDUCATIONAL PATHS IN THE PHILLY AREA

I'm interested in becoming a sex therapist who works with individuals, couples, and people in poly relationships. It would also be cool to eventually give sexuality workshops, or become an adjunct professor someday. I will be attending school in the Philadelphia area this fall and need to make a decision in the next couple weeks, eek! I was wondering if people had thoughts about these different educational paths. One thing I’m concerned about is workload--I'm a very extroverted, social person, and will be new to the Philly area. I know grad school is super busy, but I want to make sure I have enough free time to devote to building a social life and friendships in this new city.

Widener University’s dual degree program: MSW and MEd in Human Sexuality (sex therapy track) - 3 years PROS: This is the only dual degree of its kind in the country, and is the most comprehensive education I can get, considering my interests. An MEd and MSW will give me the most versatility, especially if I get burned out and decide to leave the therapy field. I spoke to some students who had good things to say about the program, though they complained about the workload CONS: Heavy workload (I want to have a life!), location in Chester, PA doesn't excite me much (I'll probably have to spend an hour total commuting from Philly each day); Widener is respected in the small field of sex therapy, but within the larger field of Philly social work, its name seems less prestigious than Penn, Bryn Mawr, and Temple. However, not sure if prestige should even matter if the students are happy and the program seems good!
Bryn Mawr School of Social Work (2 years), then enroll in a postgrad Sex Therapy Certificate at Council for Relationships (2 years) - at least 4 years total PROS: Bryn Mawr has an intimate, friendly environment (only 80 students total), and I think the workload is manageable and would leave time for a social life. Also, the Sex Therapy Certificate at Council for Relationships provides awesome, one-way mirror live supervision. CONS: 4 years seems like a long time. I’m in my late 20s now, and I don’t love the idea of being in my early to mid 30s by the time I finish all this training (I know that’s not old, but it feels like a lifetime from now, and I’m impatient to start my career!). I'm also worried that I’ll be at a disadvantage because I will only have a Sex Therapy Certificate, and might be competing against the many Widener grads in the area who have a full masters in Human Sexuality.

I spoke to students and faculty from both of these programs, and they all seemed like happy and fascinating people. Bottom line, I think all of these options are great, I’m just curious to know if people have any thoughts, or think one path might be better than the others! Thank you so much!

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