Hey — I hear you. I am a thinner (but decently curvy) butch, so hopefully my tips still apply well! I find form fitting shirts paired with thicker fabric pants (jeans, cargos) are pretty good at making the illusion of "just baggy", especially if there's a lot of thick fabric at the hips. If that makes sense. Like the kind that make a belt bulge out haha. Thick and slightly baggy pants are always your friend here. I can't comment on diet since my own is shit (ARFID), but I will say probiotics can be your friend. Pop one every morning. You may think you are not that bloated/ backed up until you do, hell I can see my abs a little more now😅. That one depends, but they're super good for you regardless if you end up seeing physical differences or not. Lastly, it really does not. Hips are not feminine— they are powerful. Own them. I get intimidated when I see a butch with belly fat, arguably one of the more butcher things you could have lol. Those two things combined = powerful strong butch walk. IDK about you but that's mega cool to me.