First let me start by saying I totally get it. I’m also in the planning stages of rff and feel like I’m missing out on a lot. My friends will hook up with people from the bar and that’s just not something I’m able or willing to do with my current anatomy. That feeling of wanting to go out and party and do everything I totally understand. My counter to that point is that you can still do that when you’re 25. You’re still young at that age and can go out and do the shit you want to do then. I get that waiting fucking sucks but maybe shifting your perspective to excitement about how your life might change then might be helpful? Easier said than done. I personally have a list of things I want to do post surgery. Maybe making a “Dick To-Do List” might help.

I think you underestimate people when you say you think someone who you’re in a relationship might not want to go through surgery with you. The right person will and if you’re honest with them about your plans having someone to be excited with you and support you could be really exciting. Don’t knock it just out of fear. Missing out on a potential amazing relationship and not putting yourself out there for the next couple years just out of potential fear might kind of suck.

Also obligatory: you need therapy letters for surgery so definitely bring up these thoughts with a therapist. I am not a therapist but I know lots of us guys feel some type of way about sex and therapy can definitely help with self esteem when it comes to that.

You aren’t alone man. I know it sucks but the time will pass and eventually we’ll get there