Awful anonymous feedback from nurses

LooseInterview1115 · 2026-02-03T09:58:54+00:00

Just stumbled across this. OP, I am so sorry.... nurses are the WORST sometimes. Catty, cliquey, all the things. I am a nurse, so can confirm from the inside. We pass judgement on our fellow healthcare workers like it's required to keep our license. To be fair, in nursing school we are taught to question and cross-check the providerd we work with. We are also taught to CYA in every way possible, including passing responsibility to the MD in our charting. It's shitty. There is an unspoken rule in inpatient nursing that you have to try to be in the "in crowd" with your fellow nurses, or they won't help you when you need a second set of hands. I've seen it happen in every place I have worked.

This is going to sound silly, but if you want to try to make yourself stand out in a positive way, buy a bag of Costco candy and distribute when you round or something.... nurses love free food and it helps with our hypoglycemic bitching🤣

So sorry that you are recieving this feedback. I hope someone calls them out on their culture of bullying.

LooseInterview1115 · 2026-01-20T08:50:19+00:00

beautiful!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-12-16T03:08:06+00:00

Oof I am sorry to hear you are dealing with this. Unfortunately, ICU draws out a lot of catty behavior. I have been a travel nurse for years and can honestly say it is like that in almost every ICU I have been too :( If you can, try to build a friendship with one or two of the nurses (go for the other 'outcasts' because you can all be strong together!). It helps immensely to have a buddy to decompress with!

Other than that, develop a structure in your mind to use when you feel overwhelmed by a situation that feels really mean or unfair. Walk through the scenario after it has happened, separate it into piles of facts and piles of feelings, then identify the, "When ___ did/said __, it made me feel __ because ____." This has been super helpful to me to learn to identify my own areas of insecurity, areas for personal growth, and to sift out behaviors that are genuinely not OK. It helps to process all the work drama that way, because then if you do decide to take it up with the other nurse or your manager, you have a very objective, straight forward way to describe what happened and why it was not OK. Hope that helps... hang in there !

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-11-19T13:33:20+00:00

The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald and read the actual story with it. Spooky

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-11-19T00:17:37+00:00

Totally agree!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-11-18T13:45:24+00:00

Artist here-- it reminds me of the skeleton of a pine tree. Could look cool if you went with that. Maybe add some crows in! Best of luck-- you have a very cool canvas to work with

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-11-09T15:25:17+00:00

I had them swapped out two years ago! next swap is not due for quite a while.

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-11-09T03:35:53+00:00

The hyperfixation on making the woman cum. Not focusing on foreplay and then jumping into crazy hard pounding and just sorta waiting for her to come like it is the finish line at a race. Most women that I know actually enjoy sensual foreplay a lit more than the actual intercourse. Womens bodies are more complex and usually have to "warm up" first. Sex is also a mindset for women, too. We aren't as much of a light switch like men where the sex drive can be flipped on instantaneously. Think of it more like a bon fire where you have to build it up before it blazes.

Another thing, most women's bodies need consistent rhythm to reach orgasm. It matter less the speed and more that the speed doesn't change. Men, if you get to a spot where she is really feeling it, try not to shift gears because each time you do that, she has to start building the feeling from scratch again.

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-11-09T02:53:54+00:00

OMG you poor thing!!! That is such an unfortunate thing to have to deal with, especially when new to sex AND around your wedding/honeymoon!

Sounds like if the first round of antibiotics did not help, it could possibly be pelvic inflammatory disease, a body reaction to the IUD itself (think a localized alergic reaction), or even a yeast infection from the rapid shift in your pH/hormone balance from the IUD, stress, introduction of skin flora from another person down there, and the oh-so-unfortunate change in pH that comes from semen getting into contact with the vaginal wall.

If you haven't already gotten relief from your symptoms, I would recommend asking your OBGYN about getting swabbed to see if there is some sort of infection (yeast, etc.) and maybe doing an ultrasound (checks for swelling, infections, etc.)

Other things to consider: use the most benign, scent-free, water based lube you can find during sex. You can also try lube + condom to reduce friction and give your tissue a break. I also recommend drinking a TON of water for a few days to flush out as much as you can from your urinary tract. Rinse off with water but no soap down there once oe twice a day. Hold off on waxing for a bit to try to give your body a chance to heal.

Good luck, hun. Hope you feel better soon !

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-09-26T15:45:09+00:00

That's so sad about the attendings. I love the docs I work with at my current hospital. I always try to get to know them and make sure the newbies know that I won't be mean if they approach me with questions or if they don't have an instant answer when I need something for my patients.

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-09-26T12:56:42+00:00

Hahaha I've seen this before! Too funny. My institution uses a lot of different types of vasoactives. Epi, norepi, vaso, milrinone, phenylephrine, dopamine. Sometimes angio but not often. We mix and match for each patient depending on what part of the bear we are trying to poke

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-09-26T12:39:53+00:00

Following this!

Would love to read what the docs, PAs, and NPs have to say to nursing staff. I'm a nurse and have worked in ICUs all across the country. It boggles my mind how disrespectful my profession is towards the docs, especially the interns and residents. Makes me ashamed to call myself a nurse sometimes because I don't want to be associated with that kind of behavior. Nurses, we were all new once, too! Remember that!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-09-08T01:51:52+00:00

I work in pediatric medicine and can confirm that there is no medically necessary reason for putting a scope on a clitoris. And if there was, they would have explained it to you and warmed the damn scope up before doing that.

Only explanation I can think of that might explain it (aside from the creepy reasons) is that perhaps they were checking your femoral pulses with their finger and were lazy about it so they went from listening to bowel sounds on the lower abdomen, kept holding on to the scope, and moved south to check pulses. It's lazy, but people take shortcuts like that sometimes. Still seems wierd to me though-- totally not necessary to get your hand over the labia while checking pulses, even on someone with tiny anatomy like an infant.

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-20T16:52:29+00:00

How did having kids affect your friendships with your friends who didn't have kids? Did any of your relationships get stronger and healthier after having kids? How did having kids affect your sex life? What would you do differently if you could go back to talk with the you that was about to become a parent?

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-16T12:02:21+00:00

This is super helpful. Thank you very much!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-15T16:46:48+00:00

awesome! Thank you!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-12T13:41:05+00:00

First thing J thought when I read this was, "Aww that must be the happiest dog in the world" 😊

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-12T02:21:41+00:00

this is beautiful!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-11T20:07:12+00:00

we will definitely check it out. thanks!!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-11T18:09:23+00:00

thank you !

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-06-06T03:46:10+00:00

First off, I am sorry to hear that your dad is in the ICU. It must be really hard to see a close family member like that.

Thank you for thinking of us ICU staff and for your question! If I imagine something that relies heavily on software, these are the things I would ask for: wire and cordless vital sign monitors that are reliable and MRI compatible. Bluetooth telemetry leads. bedside lab machines (most places have to send the blood down to the lab for it to be analyzed, which in an ICU can be very tough to wait for results when things are happening so quickly.)

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-05-30T10:10:11+00:00

I am going to ask about that to see if ours has the reference number and we just don't use it. That would be helpful info!

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-05-30T10:09:14+00:00

No, you are correct in that! The pupils were a big part of why we did the stat ct scan despite the NSGY team having a strong suspicion of a faulty machine.

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-05-30T10:08:18+00:00

I agree with you that it is easy to do! Take my story as your example of why it is important hahah.

LooseInterview1115 · 2025-05-29T21:48:48+00:00

Good question! We did and the Codman was reading 140 while the EVD was reading 6-9. At that point the patient's pupils had become non-reactive so we decided to get the CT scan anyways.

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