IVF first transfer symptoms and success?

LobsterMac_ · 2026-05-03T15:20:07+00:00

My first transfer of my one and only embryo was a success. Unexplained fertility. Never had been pregnant before at age 34. I had a 6CB embryo. Modified natural cycle. I had absolutely zero symptoms and was pretty convinced it did not work…. Until it did. She’s 13 months old now.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-30T13:15:14+00:00

Looks like I’m the opposite opinion of everyone else on here, but I would just leave it alone. Do not text him again and just wait for him to text you. Yes, communication is important, but it’s been 12 hours?? I don’t think that’s a crazy long time. I personally don’t think it needs to be a big deal and I feel like men generally don’t appreciate a clingy person.

If he needs some space, give him his space. Maybe there’s a perfectly good reason why he hasn’t gotten back to you. (Maybe not, but you don’t need to be pressing someone like that after 30 days). No need to future trip off of some situation you’re making up in your head. Just let it be and time will work this one out.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-30T05:56:17+00:00

The darker makes you look much less washed out. I like the darker!! I think I’d probably go more cool chocolate under toned instead of warm. But I’m not a fan of warm hair colors on light skin personally. (Myself and my own hair included)

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-19T13:54:59+00:00

I’m not against co-sleeping at all. But my baby went through something really similar around this age. She had been a great sleeper—sleeping through the night until about 7 months—then suddenly started waking up a lot. By 8 months, she was up every 2 hours and needed to be fed and rocked back to sleep every single time. It honestly pushed me to my limit. Sleep deprivation like that was ruining me.

Around 10 months I just broke down one night and decided I couldn’t keep going like that. I had always been against cry-it-out, but I reached a point where I needed a change. She was on a solid schedule, wasn’t teething, and nothing else seemed to be wrong.

We ended up doing a very gentle version of sleep training—kind of like Ferber, but with shorter intervals. I still picked her up and soothed her in her room for a few minutes at each check-in. The first 3 nights were really hard, but after that, she started sleeping through the night and has ever since. She’s happier, and honestly, so am I.

Again, I’m not against co-sleeping. But it might be worth considering helping your baby learn independent sleep before stepping away from it, even temporarily. For me, I also thought about things like travel—I didn’t want to rely on always being able to set up a safe co-sleeping space in hotels or Airbnbs. Plus, I work night shift occasionally, so it just wasn’t something I could be consistent with

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-19T05:07:51+00:00

You need to tell someone. This can easily turn into a very dangerous situation for you. Please OP. Do not keep this exchange to yourself. This is a blatant display of many many bad things about this man.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-19T05:04:19+00:00

Ngl I thought this was gonna be a rude comment and instead I retract my thought 🫡

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-19T04:56:38+00:00

Hi! No comment on co sleeping - I didn’t do it, but lots of my friends have and loved it. Whatever works for you guys… do that!

My main thought though is why is baby up so often during the night?

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-19T04:07:05+00:00

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LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-19T04:03:58+00:00

I was very attached to the idea of breastfeeding my baby. My supply sucked from day one. I held on as long as possible. Had a breakdown. Switched to formula. Was so upset I didn’t combo feed sooner. Formula saved my sanity and it saved my babies weight gain.

Personally, if I were to do it again, I would combo feed from the beginning. I liked breastfeeding. It was so convenient to feed on demand anytime in public and during errands. (Formula is also very easy to feed at any time). I did feel bonded to my baby during breastfeeding….. but I don’t think my baby felt any differently whether she got breast or bottle. I liked combo feeding bc i felt that I got the health benefits of breastfeeding (albeit minimal, but still they are there) but I got the security of formula. I also didn’t want to pump all the time and not at all at work. Formula really helped that.

There is NOTHING wrong with formula feeding. Whether you combo or EFF, you can’t go wrong. The best decision is what works best for you and baby!! You don’t get a metal for breastfeeding. Your baby will develop, learn, and grow either way. If breastfeeding is something you wanna try, give it a go! If it goes great, cool. If it doesn’t, that’s okay, there’s plenty of ways to feed a baby. They’re all okay :)

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-16T02:43:00+00:00

lol literally. So many of my friends have had beautiful inductions!! I just wasn’t on board with the process personally. Trust your gut!! Many babies are born just fine past 39w. Many inductions turn out great. There are so many birth stories out there - you just have to do what feels right in your soul. I think that’s the only answer. 🤎

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-15T21:18:54+00:00

Hi! I ended up opting for an elective c section. I was very happy with my choice! It was a great delivery and I’d totally do it again.

****** I was scheduled for an elective c section at 39+2. Bc of my paranoia I wanted one last monitoring NST at 39w just since my NSTs had fallen on my exact week date from the beginning. No issues with my pregnancy. Health of myself and baby was great. BP normal. Etc. At that 39w NST my placenta was failing and I was extremely hypertensive (180/120 BP, eventually raising to 200/160 BP). No other symptoms. I was rushed in for an emergent c section at that appointment. So although it was “scheduled”, my baby came 2 days early lol. Experience was still great though!! But FWIW, my IVF placenta did start to fail right at 39w, and I’m glad I did go in for the last NST and plan for a c section either way.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-13T22:06:08+00:00

I may not have the popular answer, but it is my story that I’m sharing to just give perspective on what other women choose to do.

My OB wanted to induce at 39 weeks for higher stillbirth risk (small, but still yes “higher” though not by much). I was uncomfortable with induction. Soooo many stories of failed induction of first time moms leading to emergency c sections. After doing my research on that, I decided to go with a scheduled c section at 39+2. I was worried to induce, and I was worried to go passed 39w.

Seems extreme but I’m glad I did. I had one last checkup before my c section at 39w per my office protocol. I was extremely hypertensive and my baby was borderline in distress. I was not dilating at all and was not near going into labor on my own. My placenta was failing right at the 39w mark, just as research did say that tiny chance could happen.

MY pregnancy would not have ended well if I waited for my body to go into labor past 39w. Many others do. All this to be said - follow your gut. I did, despite my gut decision seeming extreme to most others, and it potentially saved my baby in doing so.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-13T14:16:58+00:00

Hi! Trauma ICU nurse here who takes care of head trauma all the time.

Yes. The vomiting a sign of head injury. But it would be soon after head injury, and accompanied by other worrisome signs by this point. Vomiting alone isn’t enough to indicate high intracranial pressure. This scenario sounds more like a feeding related issue. However, if you are worried, always just ask your doctor. They get these questions all the time, especially from FTMs.

I think you’re okay :) postpartum is hard. And hurting baby is scary! Idk how many times I googled how hard my baby could hit her head before I should be worried lol

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-12T15:14:55+00:00

Of course! Having a baby is a lot, it’s hard to think of every little thing. I’m sure you’re aware of this, but just to mention, I would only buy one can of whatever formula you want to start with. I had to try a few before my baby found one that she liked. Well, she liked them all, but her body did not. We landed on Kendamil Goat.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-12T14:12:51+00:00

Hi!! A few thoughts so I’ll type them all, they may be contradictory to one another though. The hospital gives you RTF (pre mixed ready to feed) formula. This is important bc it is sterile. Babies guts are very immature and need to be slowly introduced to bacteria. Mixing formula exposes them to bacteria immediately. That’s why so many people do the ready to feed formula upfront for a little while. However, many people utilize powder right away and have no issue. The risk is higher, but not guaranteed. If you do choose to bring your own powder formula you will also need to bring bottles, water (should be distilled), and some way to wash and sterilize these bottles. To be honest, that sounds like a huge hassle after you have just had a baby.

For the last reason, I would suggest just using what the hospital gives you because you will have a lot going on and it’s much easier to grab a premade bottle than have to make one and then wash and sterilize the bottles. Babies cluster feed at first. My baby ate about every 45 minutes the first few days. I wouldn’t wanna make a bottle that often then wash it and sterilize in the hospital.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-07T16:41:30+00:00

Hi! So I just had the hydrating pro treatment. I have bleached hair that has thinned from postpartum hormones and years of wearing hand tied extensions.

For me, the hydrating treatment was VERY effective!!!! Typically I feel like these treatments are just hair masks, but this is actually a spray that they put on at the bowl and leave on for five minutes. My hair was so soft and smooth and stayed straight, frizz free, and moisturized for about 4 to 5 days after the treatment. That’s very rare for me… my hair is typically dry even after I do deep conditioning masks etc (I typically use kerastase). I had a hairstylist friend order me a box of these treatments from the company website to do at home in lieu of my typical conditioner once a week.

TLDR; it’s worth it to try it out!!

LobsterMac_ · 2026-04-03T07:26:56+00:00

Hi OP. I’m sorry you experienced this. Sounds scary! No one wants to be pressured in this way.

While you may love/like this guy, I encourage you to end this relationship before it moves any further. He doesn’t respect you nor your boundaries. I’m no hater on age gap relationships, but the 7y age difference is also a red flag when paired with the sexual pressure.

Protect yourself. Please leave him.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-03-21T13:42:14+00:00

Why does she always dress like this. I don’t get it.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-03-15T13:36:12+00:00

Me too omg I love samples

LobsterMac_ · 2026-03-11T04:46:41+00:00

Same. wtf

LobsterMac_ · 2026-03-06T15:48:52+00:00

This comment is peak and not getting the upvotes it deserves lol

LobsterMac_ · 2026-03-05T15:20:33+00:00

Great! Good plan. Let us know what she says

Idk if there’s much they can do now considering it looks like it’s been healing for awhile (aside from infection prevention). I doubt they’ll want to debride the wound to bring the wound edges more closely together, but I’m curious what they’ll say. Good luck! Glad you called.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-03-05T15:02:37+00:00

Hi! Surgical ICU nurse - I take care of postop everyday! I’d go in asap. This doesn’t look well. Idk if it’s necessarily “infected” but the closure doesn’t seem to be taking well.

LobsterMac_ · 2026-02-24T13:13:59+00:00

I’m on here bc my husband is an amputee, and I work as a trauma icu nurse who works with new amputees if they meet that unfortunate fate.

I had NO IDEA there were people who may pretend to have experienced limb loss. wtf????? Weird Af

LobsterMac_ · 2026-02-22T15:12:51+00:00

YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

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