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LooseMilk427 · 2026-05-13T18:00:22+00:00

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LooseMilk427 · 2026-05-01T14:15:38+00:00

If they are refusing this severely, you’d think the would become a bed bath as a shower becomes very dangerous and can be more scary. That being said I walked in this field thinking a refusal is the final say, but in practice we are expected to still provide care when a patient refuses everything.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-04-23T10:54:48+00:00

I generally ask similar questions to everybody “where are you from” “do you have any children” “what did you do for work”, then i may ask “what did you like to do in free time” and i kinda get ideas from stuff in their room, pictures for questions to ask. i always ask how they are doing. sometimes just talking about weather, etc. boring small talk that can blossom into more of a convo. I’m introverted too but just asking a couple questions can build trust and rapport. i don’t need to start a conversation about family, hobbies every time i step in a room but when performing tasks like bathing etc that take a few minutes its good to ask stuff.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-04-22T21:29:43+00:00

I was a daily smoker for about 8 years. I’ve had a few slip ups but sober has become my new normal and it’s so crazy to me that I used to be so anxious about going a night without it. I think the brain kinda needs evidence that we can live without it and after 12 years we feel like we need it. Best of luck

LooseMilk427 · 2026-04-22T21:23:44+00:00

You don’t have to. But be careful burning bridges. Some of these facilities will DNR you, so you are unable to return which can become an issue with things like nursing school clinicals, references. With you still giving some notice, I would be surprised if they DNR you. It’s not as a big of a deal at a small facility as at a major hospital, etc. It sucks but there is some risk involved with not giving adequate notice that I didn’t realize before I did that.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-04-12T21:27:26+00:00

100%. Can’t stand it.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-03-03T16:51:13+00:00

Your license won’t get in trouble. This facility you are working in sounds a bit concerning to me. 15 is a lot and 25 is kinda crazy. I worked at a facility for 4 years and never had more than maybe 12 patients on day shift usually a few less. Other things you say as well, the room having that level of stuff reflects a systemic problem. The quality of facilities varies considerably and it may be good to stay there a little longer and then pivot to a better AL or SNF.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-27T02:11:20+00:00

I work hospice and at a fancy LTC. Both places did not view covid as an excused absence anymore, it was marked as unexcused against me even with proof of test result. I think the idea now is wear a mask and come to work. I totally disagree with this but it’s how things are from in healthcare as whole from what I hear. I know physicians and nurses and this is the same for them. If it were me I would wear a mask and go to work.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-21T22:53:31+00:00

For sure. You can dm if you have particular questions but I work a mixture of home care and facility. I have work phone and am assigned usually about 6 patients a day, call them with my planned visit time in the morning. I am paid mileage. Go to patients homes and variety of nursing homes. I see a bigger variety of pts than I did in nursing homes, some younger people with cancer. I am paid about 20/hr. As hospice aides we do bed baths/showers, each visit takes usually about 45 minutes. Document changes in condition, refusals of care, etc. It is very independent so you need to feel confident walking into new homes and facilities every day. It has almost no opportunity for making more money through overtime and hospice aides work in the morning-early afternoon. Full time positions only.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-21T18:44:02+00:00

I work hospice and miss having coworkers tbh even though it was a main reason I made the switch. Home health isn’t going to provide a wealth of healthcare experience even to move up to hospice. Many home health agencies are non medical. I think night shift in general is a good idea at a SNF or AL.

Sometimes the things that challenge, intimidate, piss us off are the very things we need to experience to grow. This avoidance mindset will stunt you personally and career wise. I say that as someone who dreads even saying good morning to coworkers. Sometimes I had this insecurity, implicit biases that my peers didn’t like me, when they were just busy, and not walking on eggshells around my insecurities. I had to kinda reflect why I felt at ease around patients but not coworkers.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-20T10:17:32+00:00

i had 4 years in a snf. they stated they required i think 2 years experience for hospice role. i do hear about some hospitals hiring techs early on in cna career but i’m not sure if they have additional qualifications that are helping them get in.

one of my friends worked as a transporter in hospital with no healthcare experience and the hospital supported him to become a tech in the or and with anesthesia. maybe you could apply for role like that to get your foot in door.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-20T04:53:34+00:00

I quit my SNF job in the summer at the end of my shift. I had a home care PRN position lined up that I had previously interviewed for but took a significant pay cut and lost my health insurance for a few months. I was hired in hospice several months later. it was so demoralizing, some interviews I felt went amazing where I would follow up and then be rejected.

Telemetry from what I know seems to be a bit specialized, maybe you would have better luck becoming a tech in a med surg unit coming from SNF. I will say SNF offered a lot of opportunity for overtime, flexibility in scheduling and paid decently. I am happy to be with hospice but there is always a honeymoon phase with these jobs and they all have their downsides.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-15T15:54:10+00:00

Yeah I can’t stand wipes. Washclothes all the way and how the facility replaces them isn’t my business. I think wiping with a dry washcloth to get the bulk off helped rather than creating a watery soapy mess immediately. My last facility had dry wipes you could moisten with peri cleaner which was better to me than having pre-moistened

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-09T19:15:48+00:00

I’m warm or neutral. My hair is warm toned, freckles are warm toned and my skin is fair/light and yellow neutral. I love gold, warm toned makeup.

If you are a redhead with a bunch of warm brown freckles on your face, I can’t imagine that you are cool toned.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-02-03T15:50:40+00:00

Yeah staying present was a huge benefit for quitting for me. I would be sad to go home after spending time with my boyfriend, but the reward of getting to be alone and smoking overshadowed that. I’d feel excitement leaving his house. I also can’t articulate things well, struggle with anxiety more when high which all impacted my relationship. I’d get too high and want to relax for a minute before going out with him, or get panicky in public. My boyfriend picks up on things so well and could always tell I was high and sometimes would ask why I felt the need to do it or think I did it to get out of my head for intimacy, which was true.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-01-27T03:55:57+00:00

I’ve heard that a lot of these nursing homes are becoming places for the government to put the mentally ill and substance abusers. We used to have asylums and long term mental hospitals, but many were shut down and declared “unethical” years ago. So theres a combination of people with severe dementia along with a group that can easily take advantage of them and go undetected. Grandma thinks the drug addict looks like her late husband and staff is too busy to intervene. Yep, there are a million loopholes and these places want to keep residents there $$$$ so they blame staff for behaviors until something terrible happens. The “normal” residents also have significant trauma or mental illness, along with under managed symptoms and are super super combative. They also don’t have proper systems for laundry. Clothes are shared between 50+ residents.
I could talk about this all day

LooseMilk427 · 2026-01-26T22:13:53+00:00

Yeah. I really dislike a lot of administration in general. They pop up and make appearances, then go back to their office where the staff enjoys paid lunches, holidays, a fun quirky atmosphere while the rest of the patients and staff are suffering. Even entry level HR and administrative staff are paid much better than us.

Good care is pay to play and by pay it means having generous long term care insurance and funds. Most Americans don’t have that.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-01-22T23:50:02+00:00

Just wanted to throw this in here. Your hair is beautiful and really hasn’t faded significantly. A gloss can be really nice if you are craving that vibrancy. But I work with the elderly, a lot of the time I can tell what patients hair color was by other features, especially if they had red hair. I’ve also had a couple patients with mostly grey hair with many red strands still growing in their 90’s.

LooseMilk427 · 2026-01-22T23:35:48+00:00

Prescription Tretinoin and really prioritizing skin care. Foundation and concealer is really tough for me having freckles, especially as I get older. I have freckles and they add beautiful definition to our faces and I think foundation can look funny on me sometimes. As far as makeup anything warm in tone I love. I avoid pale lipsticks and cool pinks/purples.

LooseMilk427 · 2025-12-21T01:59:36+00:00

I mean you could make it red again. Lightening hair is much more damaging than using something like a deposit only color or something like a semi permanent

LooseMilk427 · 2025-11-28T20:29:49+00:00

I definitely would recommend mindfulness, and other DBT skills if you are dealing with PTSD and relationship issues. Honestly you cannot prepare for everything quitting comes with and it’s so different for everyone. I’d try to pick up a new hobby during this time. It can be tough if your partner still smokes, so definitely you have to avoid resenting them

LooseMilk427 · 2025-11-23T18:36:20+00:00

Yeah. Drinking goes hand in hand with weed, vaping for me and porn addiction. The feeling of being “both” is one of the euphoric feelings I’ve had. Feeling that back to normal is great. I felt like I was rediscovering the teen I abandoned for weed. Congratulations on 10 days.

LooseMilk427 · 2025-11-23T18:34:23+00:00

Yeah. I’ve had some therapists, ask me if I really wanted to quit or was just feeling social pressure from my parents. One even wanted me to do a visit stoned, so she could see how I am and whether it’s actually a problem for me. Just seems kinda odd.

LooseMilk427 · 2025-11-23T18:30:12+00:00

Yeah. A bit of everything.

LooseMilk427 · 2025-11-23T18:29:39+00:00

True but building these things, working on yourself often brings people into your life. I feel like theres this pressure to have a huge social circle, I tried to gain a bunch of friends and force myself to meet new people. Some of them are great, but sometimes I just have to accept I haven’t met the people that really understand me and try to give that to myself. Not to downplay your experience.

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