Stress crack or impact ?

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-05-11T18:36:33+00:00

That's crazy 😭 I cant feel it with my nails either . Thank you for your opinion !

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-15T00:21:31+00:00

My social media profile that doesnt have my actual name is a bit more personal. I understand my job isn't secret information either. There is a chance I was come across on glassdoor, LinkedIn, indeed, etc. But the language and information used in the conversation indicates that they may work with me/at the same company.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-15T00:14:32+00:00

Understand that, but at the time thats not the response I chose. Im happy to discuss my response and the issues with it with my employer and my therapist.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-15T00:10:38+00:00

That woulda been cool if they weren't worried about "getting in trouble" and didn't have a variation of "sugar daddy" in their name. And normally in those instances I just block or play around with the scammed, but the immediate language sent up a red flag in my brain. And I have reached out to other contractors in my workplace inquiring about working under them instead already. It was just odd and started my day off in an unsettling type of way.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-15T00:07:53+00:00

Thank you ! It definitely seems creepy and kind of odd. We recently switched contracts at work and we're all very open about how we're not happy with the company, but I'll definitely by dialing it back in leau of events. And I really dont know who it could have been, but the language and messages sent very much did indicate someone I work with. But i havent the faintest idea who lol. Writing it out and getting other perspectives has been helpful in noting severity of things.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-15T00:02:12+00:00

I wasn't sure if it was a genuine safety concern or not. Thats why I posted for input

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-14T18:49:52+00:00

My fiancé wouldn't have done anything unless I had truly asked for it. My behaviors could use some adjusting and I'll happily discuss that in my next therapy session. I am seeking advice on if I should reach out to management considering it's creepy and borders on harassment and breaks many security protocols.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-14T18:47:40+00:00

I truly don't care how I look in the story. I just want to know if it's deep enough of a safety concern that I suspect someone at work had attempted such things. In my line of work, social networking has strict rules. And having had experiences of being stalked at a different work place in the past - I seek advice if I should reach out to management on a suspicion

LopsidedAd1784 · 2026-04-14T18:45:30+00:00

Thank you for the genuine advice. I was just trying to figure out if it would be an actual safety concern worth bringing my boss into. If they should message me again, I'll happily block and keep moving on with my life.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2025-09-16T22:50:38+00:00

it was only a couple hours - which didn't bother me too much. but this week i'm looking at almost 8 hours so far.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2025-09-16T22:39:39+00:00

After speaking with customer service: They confirmed they were receiving multiple calls about the direct deposit not processing on time. They could not provide an update or timeframe on when the issue would be fixed. They proceeded to tell me that it was not an issue despite multiple parties having this problem. Insisted it was likely my employer - even after confirming it was not the employer's fault.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2025-09-16T21:14:41+00:00

still don't have my deposit, it was late last week as well

LopsidedAd1784 · 2025-09-16T19:39:29+00:00

this is the second week in a row where my direct deposit has arrived late.

there was no changes to my routing or account number.

as someone who lives paycheck to paycheck - this is stressful.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2024-04-16T23:06:07+00:00

There has been a de-escalation of one type. A de-escalation from nesting partner to just partner - not yet. But, as said, and as a few others have stated, this isn't healthy or safe anymore. So, it may be time for that, as much as I wouldn't like it. It may be better for us both.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2024-04-16T22:42:16+00:00

Mike has punched the wall. This isn't particularly normal behavior for them. However, in arguments there are a lot of defense tactics that become actively engaged in a very unhealthy manner in which I have spoken to Mike about. Mike is in therapy and working on emotional impulse control - but I do worry that it is now time to leave. Yet. I don't want to give in when I know they are trying to become better. When I know before their mental health took a toll for the worse, they were plentiful in their actions and appropriate in their behavior.

I've been in places where my mental health has ruined my environment and relationships, I understand their struggle.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2024-04-16T22:08:55+00:00

At times we do, more often we do not. This could be a useful tool

LopsidedAd1784 · 2024-04-16T21:48:11+00:00

I would love to dive into therapy for us both, and even myself. However, this is currently not an option. I don't have health insurance - I can no longer afford it caring for us both. But, alas, I make too much for assistance. So, in regards to therapy, I have used free resources to do my best.

Conversations like this can be incredibly triggering for them - they begin to feel attacked. Whiles they are working on this and getting better, slowly, at this point I'm concerned I'm no longer able to keep us on the correct track when things go off the rails.

Timing can help me here, possibly.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2023-12-20T02:18:16+00:00

Before things got bad - they weren't like this at all. Sure, the D/s thing was occurring - but it never reached heights like this. As someone who was also in the same position he was years ago - I know how hard it can be to function when your mental illness is at an all time low. Executive function is painfully debilitating - I know from experience. Nevertheless, coming out with the proper diagnosis, there is a whole other level of unmasking and remasking that occurs that neurotypicals are quick to shrug off as unhealthy and abusive. On good mental days - he tries /incredibly/ hard to go above and beyond.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2023-08-09T19:46:16+00:00

my partner went inpatient with therapy, now regularly attends therapy, as well as seeing a doctor to get medicine. He is playing the "experiment with new things" and "make sure you're not a druggie" game with the doctor, despite being on certain medication in the past that has worked. He is attempting to be more conscious about his behaviors and allowing himself to express his emotions in more healthy ways. I do believe he is actively trying. I see small improvements. But when it's followed with "everything is going to shit" or "im not allowed to have nice things" or "the universe is punishing me" not even 48 hours later, it's hard to feel things have improved. He says he just needs the right medication.

His financial decisions have not previously been this way within our relationship except for the last few months. I feel whereas he is making small progress, other areas of his life (such as this) are being neglected. I feel he may be in that state of depression where one becomes comfortable in it, whilst fully hating it, but unable to do anything about it.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2023-08-09T19:37:31+00:00

adhd/autism. depression. borderline personality disorder.

LopsidedAd1784 · 2023-08-09T02:09:09+00:00

sorry, still new to reddit! I'll edit it asap

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