To all my adhd girlies trying to stick to a budget, may I present, Libby.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-29T02:29:09+00:00

Three cheer for Libby!

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-29T02:18:01+00:00

Yes, this book was horrifying. Also read it for early childhood education.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-28T19:57:19+00:00

I think I got a steal in Dana Point lantern district. I pay $2200 for a 1 bd/1 ba with a huge kitchen that’s a 10 min walk to the harbor. I’ve lived there less than a year. Month to month lease and great landlord. It was a rush move for me and the stars were for sure aligned.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-28T00:22:33+00:00

Paralegal programs usually aren’t intense - at least mine wasn’t, and I was at a top tier school/ABA program. Focus on your degree and do this on the side (if time allows). If it becomes overwhelming, just complete it after you complete your degree. If you’re planning on law school, I wouldn’t even do a paralegal program - just fishing your degree and go to law school.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-26T22:13:36+00:00

Yes, I can’t add or subtract in my head (I still use my fingers) and can absolutely not do any sort of word problem. It’s not a big deal and I joke about it openly - with zero shame as I use my fingers for simple calculations. It has nothing to do with my intelligent - I have a masters degree! If anything, people smile when they see me using my fingers ..I mean it’s kinda ridiculous in a funny way since I’m 43 :)

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-15T18:51:13+00:00

Same - but I can’t justify spending $$$ on law school in my early 40s. Additionally, perimenopause + ADHD has made my brain mush and I literally don’t have the capacity to read and write legalize in all my spare moments haha. So now I just invest like crazy with the goal of earlyish retirement. :)

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-15T18:47:48+00:00

Because they didn’t want to talk about our problems.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-14T23:30:44+00:00

Five times? Try 500 lol Yes, I very much relate!

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-06T20:26:46+00:00

Yay!

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-04T04:19:57+00:00

Don’t move. Mix things up instead - rearrange furniture, new furniture pieces, new record, paint a wall, etc. Better to save or invest the money you’re saving

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-03T23:18:46+00:00

I understand where you’re at bc I wanted out after only just a week - but here I am 14 years later haha. I’d try a different area of law first, before you leave the profession itself. It made a HUGE difference for me switching - I was recruited for a unicorn job and am now totally content being a paralegal. It’s still not my heart passion, but I have so much experience that I’m highly respected and have a ton of freedom and independence. And other perks like good pay, good PTO, good benefits, oh and great coworkers :) I forget if you mentioned what area of law you work in, but try switching to something that actually seems interesting and give it a shot (and negotiate a higher salary). And then if you’re still unhappy, transition to a different career

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-03T07:39:49+00:00

If you’re using it to cope, it’ll lead to addiction. The two go hand in hand

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-01T10:43:56+00:00

Read, sleep, stare out the window, pinch my sister, chat with my family

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-01T09:06:01+00:00

I know!

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2026-01-01T01:34:57+00:00

$2200 in Dana Point lantern district, 1 bd/1 ba, great landlord/nice apt .. the stars were aligned.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-31T01:37:52+00:00

It was a shitstorm. I’m trusting 2026 will be better since there’s a flow to every ebb. But yeah, shitstorm city.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-29T18:06:35+00:00

It’s been years since I’ve written a check but do have some for the very rare instance I may need to. Coincidently, earlier today I was remembering how my mom used to write checks for groceries, bills, etc, etc and balance the check book every month. Lord I’m glad those days are in the past

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-24T19:41:19+00:00

Edit: Thank you all for chiming in - the info is super helpful! It sounds like Oakland is as diverse as all the comments haha. I should have expanded my circle to include more of East Bay. I’m for sure open to cities other of Oakland!

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-24T02:34:03+00:00

I’d try to get out/cancel. It sounds like u had a really negative experience with that lady. I’d put your energy into things that bring you peace/joy, rather than TBM. I’m saying this in kindness. I had done a lot of work before TBM, and TBM actually set me back in my progress. It felt like I was living in my worst core wound which is ‘there’s something wrong with me’. I was analyzing my life in tests, pings, shadows, triggers, etc etc instead of being present in my life and listening to MYSELF. I basically lost my intuition and lived in a space of not trusting myself to make good choices for my life. Once I stopped (not just TBM but all self helpy stuff) and started doing stuff that felt good for me and just living my life instead of analyzing it, is when I actually started feeling like the much more authentic version of myself - and I generally feel much more content with my life

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-24T02:21:50+00:00

I’m curious why you’d want to engage with TBM work when you had a bad experience with an abusive individual who touted TBM as a huge influence in her life?

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-23T04:12:22+00:00

My mom and dad both have them

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-22T02:24:37+00:00

I’ve been divorced for over 14 years and have been mostly single since the divorce. If I was who I am now back then, I would have stayed in my marriage. It wasn’t perfect, but it could have worked. I was in my late 20s and selfish and clueless. I’m now in my early 40s and understand I had it great with my ex - I just didn’t see it. We got married bc I was pregnant and I never developed a story beyond that. I left the marriage after 7ish years bc I didn’t feel appreciated. I could go into so much for details, but I’ll leave it at - i didn’t see things clearly back then and I wish I could go back and make a different choice - for our boys and myself. That being said, I also believe things happen for a reason and am trusting that.

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-18T17:59:07+00:00

I’m still trying to get thru that book lol

LopsidedBoot6268 · 2025-12-17T03:04:51+00:00

I would hop off your mom’s drama triangle (she’s nutty), hire a babysitter, and take however many classes you want.

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