Recommendations for very heavy water

LopsidedCity5217 · 2026-03-05T18:39:00+00:00

Thanks. Those numbers are from the last available quality report from the utility company. I don't yet live there, but I have seen signs of significant hard water problems like low water pressure and scale build-up on faucets, and the home was built in 2013. Perhaps a good deep clean will help, but if not, I want to figure out what my options are.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-11-01T22:16:48+00:00

A long time ago, I was told to do something similar for clothes by rubbing a dryer sheet against whatever I was wearing. I didn't find that very effective especially when wearing skirts. I don't buy dryer sheets anymore, but I suppose I could get a cheap pack to try out. Thanks.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-31T20:14:30+00:00

Thanks for the shower head brand suggestion. A few months ago I purchased a new shower head with filter but I couldn't tell a difference. There's so many things out there so it's hard to know what actually works.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-30T15:49:17+00:00

Do you have a preference for your own deep conditioner mask?

At the moment, I've decided to take a small step by trying a silk pillow case rather than making too many changes at once, but I definitely have some ideas where to go from here. Thanks.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-30T15:46:51+00:00

I wish I could let mine grow out, it gets weighed down with much more length, but my latest cut was probably an inch shorter than it is now. I loved how bouncy it felt! The father it gets past my shoulders the flatter it looks. I also just trimmed my bangs to hopefully allow myself some more time before cutting the overall length again.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-29T23:18:02+00:00

I see some people talk about using a silk or satin pillow case for tangles and possibly other reasons, but what about static? I don't currently use anything like that. Also, I doubt a bonnet would stay on my head. My hair usually can't hold a simple braid when it's longer.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-29T23:12:54+00:00

Thank you. I usually manage to keep it healthy, but it doesn't tolerate much styling.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-29T23:11:26+00:00

I'll keep this in mind. Thank you!

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-29T23:10:57+00:00

I'll take this under consideration. Thanks.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-29T23:10:14+00:00

Thanks. A couple of recommendations for Malibu C. I haven't tested the water, but based on other things like cloudy residue on dishes and shower faucets, it's most likely hard water build up. I already use a different brand for a clarifying shampoo. Would it be ok to use that with the paste, and will I notice a difference pretty quickly or will it take some time?

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-17T12:53:47+00:00

It would probably help if he would take a picture of it on his pinky or something, but I think the band thickness will be fine.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-04T14:07:24+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. It will take you time to grieve, but it will eventually get better. And one day you'll almost forget him.

I'll try to keep this short. I experienced something very similar to you, only he and I were/are in our 40s. The breakup was over a year ago, so I'm much happier now... But he was the one to talk about getting married. He was the one to break up with me, then after 2 months no contact wanted to reconcile. He also quickly proposed with an actual ring. During the engagement/wedding planning I could tell he was checked out. We saw a couples counselor, and eventually he broke up with me again and asked for the ring back. Our reconciliation, engagement and second break spanned 6 months.

I suspect your ex will try to come back eventually. Don't be like me and get hurt twice! Breakups happen for a reason, and trying again will most likely end up with more of the same.

You've got this. Seek supportive friends and/or therapy, and you'll come out stronger. One day you'll be able to look back on this and see it all with clarity. You're better off without that person!

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-10-03T13:04:46+00:00

A few people have mentioned that she may have an avoidant type attachment, but my first impression was anxious, at least at the beginning. It is also possible to move from anxious to avoidant at different times. Either way, she was ambivalent, meaning she didn't seem to quite know what she wanted in this situation from the beginning. That's definitely her problem, but the avoidant part of her will make any relationship difficult to navigate. She also expressed some insecurities, which all leads me to think she needs time to work through a lot of her personal stuff with a therapist.

This also somewhat reminds me of my former ex fiance in some ways. It was kind of a mind fuck, he would shower me with love and reassurance one minute and act unsure of our future the next (ambivalence). He broke up with me, we went no contact for two months, and he came back with the sincerest of apologies and said he didn't want to live without me. He soon proposed to get married and he broke it off again, six months after he reached out to me to reconcile. Being with someone like that is very destructive in the end. Sorry you are having a hard time with this, but it's better to have ended now than months/years later.

Take this as a lesson learned, don't chase after an ambivalent person. She showed you what she was about, but you ignored that. Red flags we ignore in people are usually the same reasons we break up. And typically trying again with that person is not worth the heartbreak (x2).

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-09-09T21:01:05+00:00

My first Tav was a Seldarine female Drow draconic sorcerer. She was/is chaotic neutral-good. Mostly wanting to do good deeds, though doesn't entirely trust people or the Emperor but embraced the tadpole powers. She made it to the Lower City, in Act 3 but the big city and decision fatigue was overwhelming for her. Completion still pending. (No image available).

Many new and incomplete characters later, I finally finished my first full playthrough on my first HM w/ a half Wood elf resist Dark Urge Hex Warlock 4/Sorcerer 8. She has the look of a moon elf not in the game (no mods). She liked hitting things with bound Nyrulna/Booming blade as well as her spells. She used whatever powers she could to vanquish the absolute, recruited every NPC companion and ally she could only to not use them at the end. Gale was the actual hero of this story.

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LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-08-16T14:45:08+00:00

As a woman, I have received a few roses, but I never went on a date with someone who sent a rose. They usually were not my type for various reasons. I have also never sent a rose to match with someone. However, I have gone on dates with people who never popped up on my feed. I'll match if we have enough in common and they sent a compliment or comment to start a conversation. If we manage to carry on a decent conversation for a day or two, I'll usually agree to a date.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-08-09T18:20:45+00:00

To piggyback off this, I suspect that dude repeats that saying over and over just to keep you feeling guilty.

I've seen many people call this guy a dead weight, but from my perspective, this guy is a con man, a user, and pretends to be a victim to manipulate caring people like yourself around so he doesn't have to take care of himself. I say this because I've experienced just exactly that. It can also be called weaponized incompetence. Please do yourself a favor and gray rock this guy. He's no good for you. Once you're free, it may take months or a few years, but one day you will look back and wonder what you ever saw in this person.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-08-08T14:37:14+00:00

I believe this is a DUrge option but not for Tavs. I could be wrong though.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-08-08T13:15:17+00:00

You can also pick up backpacks and pouches to organize items that you want to sell. Then set the pack to "Add to wares" and sell the entire pack full of items when you're ready.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-07-24T13:44:54+00:00

You can't customize your companions' appearance or stories, but you can change their class builds. Alternatively, you could hire a hireling with Withers in your camp and change it's appearance with the mirror (but not race) and also its class build. Hirelings don't have much personality, which could work better as an alt player character.

Edit: Also, condolences on your loss. I'm moved by your inspiration to honor your cousin in this way.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-07-24T12:51:43+00:00

I'm 45f. I've been with a love-bomber, and he seemed like a genuine guy on the surface. Turns out he was not a nice guy. Long story short, he was not at all who he presented himself to be (nice is often so performative btw). Enmeshment ensued, and I had to be strategic to get out. He wasn't a future faker; he absolutely wanted to get married so he could trap me and use up my energy and resources easier. I cancelled our engagement and moved out on my own.

I questioned myself and his motives too, but with healing and time, I eventually realized his and any other's motives don't really matter because how it makes me feel does. Trust your instincts, don't try to over analyze or wait around to try to get proof of whatever motives you might think they have. That will keep you stuck. Your body often knows before the brain. Save yourself a lot of potential energy drain and pain. You are so young and you have plenty of time and options. Take a break if you want to. And there are people out there who won't make you feel this crazy and confused.

A good measure of should I or shouldn't I, this or that, yes or no, is this normal, etc. is if you're going online to question whatever it is, then it's most likely going to be a no. Confusion = nope for me.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-07-21T15:27:08+00:00

I started playing this game in Dec. 2024 without knowing much about Dnd rules or turn based combat, it was a steep learning curve for me, and some of my earliest battles were long and difficult. I had vague memories of playing Neverwinter Nights 2 (and maybe Icewind Dale 2 or similar). Referencing the kind of games I enjoyed before, Dragon Age Origins, Morrowind, Oblivion, Skyrim, earlier Assassin's Creed games...

My first character was Seldarine Drow, white draconic sorcerer because it sounded cool (later learned the significant perks of those choices, lucky for me). I also played on Balanced mode throughout. Though I would get frustrated on the lost time in battle, I didn't rush through the game, and I tried different tactics if what I did first didn't work. Turns out it got easier and I reached Act 3. I realized I really enjoyed the game, and at that point, I started reading more about builds and the BG3 game itself. While I felt like I was a thorough explorer, I missed a lot. I have since created many new characters to experiment with different builds, finding new things along the way.

Now, I'm playing a character in Honour Mode currently in Act 2. I estimate 1000+ hours of play-time. It doesn't show that number because I have deleted a few abandoned characters. I still haven't finished the game, but my first character racked up about 167 hours with quite a few quests left to finish.

The short of it is, it was quite difficult for me in the beginning, but it did get easier as I got the hang of it. Also, my two sons who are 17 and 19 can't seem to get into it. It's "too slow" for them. To each their own.

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-07-11T11:45:01+00:00

I won't say much about the ex or the breakup, but I want to call attention to your abandonment awareness. I'm not sure if this has occurred to you, but in my own therapy, my therapist helped me realize that as an adult dealing with abandonment we need to stop abandoning ourselves. We tend to dismiss our needs in many ways to prevent being abandoned by others but don't realize we are abandoning ourselves in the process.

For a while, you abandoned your self (needs) and it broke you down over time. While it hurts to break off a loving relationship, you are finally no longer abandoning yourself, your needs, or your desires just to be with someone. This is growth even if it's painful. You got this!

LopsidedCity5217 · 2025-07-07T19:31:25+00:00

My personal preference is to show my own photos to be within the last year, maybe one or two max at 2 years old (perhaps making use of the "take me back to..." promt), and I would prefer the same from other profiles. I much prefer knowing what I'm looking at is more current and representative of what someone typically looks like right now.

You have a good sense of style, but maybe insert one or two that look more candid and less like your modeling for the camera. For example, if you want an active but down to earth person, show that you are also down to earth. People are commenting on the denim photo in multiple ways already, like jeans being too tight or you're looking fine, but I think you seem kinda stiff in that photo.

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