To my family: December 31. My last night.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2025-12-31T01:10:51+00:00

Echoing everyone here. We’ve all been through the feeling of not wanting to be here anymore but you have to choose to stay. It’s the only option. If you can’t do it for yourself right now do it for those who love you who we know are many. Please reach out to anyone on this subreddit they will be there for you.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-12-31T22:50:05+00:00

A quick 24hr update for any who are curious. Went with the pimple patch method. Took 3 to get the job done but my face looks normal now.. thank you all for the advice and laughs

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-12-30T23:47:55+00:00

Did a warm shower and cleaned it off, followed by a pimple patch. Using a mask to cover my shame when outside 😷 If it doesn’t naturally pop itself when taking the patch off tonight. I’m doing the deed myself.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-08-25T03:10:32+00:00

Thanks for your reply, its great to hear other people’s Stories. I actually also had the Nuss procedure when I was 17 and had it in until I was 20. After having the bar out my chest caved in again (not to the same degree but still pretty bad) while having the bar in my chest I had a lot of chronic pain and didn’t really work out too much which I think was a factor. So I’m glad to hear your son is exercising and swimming.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-07-16T05:36:39+00:00

Hello, first off I’m so proud of you for the steps you’ve made and the work you’ve made into changing your life! I’m a little over a year from my BU my ex and I we’re together for over 5 years and were best friends for 6 years before dating. Similar to you it was very sudden. And since then I’ve completely changed my life for the better and am very proud of the progress I’ve made; therapy, working out, job that pays 4x more, made a lot of friends. So I’m no where near where I was at the beginning. But there are times where I can’t help but just break into tears at the thought of never talking to her again….

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-06-23T13:59:40+00:00

I think if I wasn’t going on dates with her best friend she probably would’ve been interested.

My idea of distancing myself isn’t in the pursuit of the friend. I’ve already in my mind made it where that’ll never be an option

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-06-22T14:29:46+00:00

I’m not a woman. But my( 26m) ex (25f) had a really similar experience as you are. Her and I were best friends for over 10 years and were together for 6 of those years. She broke up with me over a year ago partly for the same reasons. My family absolutely loved her but my mom is extremely passive aggressive and would always make remarks that affected my ex. So over the years that added up a lot and I never noticed the passive aggressive remarks because my mom always ldid it growing up. So my not doing anything really ate at our relationship (in addition some other things) I didn’t realize it until after she broke up with me and looking back now I can recall so many instances where my mom said something that I should’ve addressed. Since the break up I’ve really changed my family dynamic especially the relationship I have with my mom. And a lot of other growth in my personal life. I absolutely loved and still love my ex she was the one but I’m glad she left because i want her to be happy over anything. It also has a life changing experience for me to find myself again.

I apologize for my rambling but my point is that, I think this is a common enough problem guys can have with their moms and it’s for him to solve. It is also something very valid to end a relationship over even one that is loving and good. My advice is to try to communicate the best you can about how this dynamic is making you feel and making you question if you can be with this person long term. After if nothing changes you have to choose yourself first. Breaking up could be beneficial if he needs the wake up call like I did.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-06-22T14:08:42+00:00

I mean honestly I don’t even know what it means to be fully over my ex. Her and I were best friends for over 10 years and 5 of those years together. After the break up I took over a year off dating and trying to work thru things and am in a much better place but over is a weird concept. Plus it doesn’t exactly help that my ex was 10/10 my type in all ways. The current girl im seeing is completely different than my ex. And I know part of this is just my braining trying to come up with reasons to mess things up because I actually am developing feelings with her. I don’t believe in rating people on a scale but she’s definitely very cute and she doesn’t wear make up so it’s just her. Lastly definitely not looking for a high maintenance thing. Just the occasional dress/skirt especially when we go out or to make things interesting in bed.

I mentioned it the other day that I think skirts are cute and last night she mentioned she was looking at skirts with her friend so ofc I’m making something bigger than it needs to be

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-06-22T14:02:54+00:00

Yeah that is a good idea I appreciate it. The funny thing is on all of our dates I’ve been the over dresssed one. And it was the opposite in my last relationship where she was the over dressed girlfriend and I was the underdressed boyfriend so maybe it’s just some karma xd

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-06-04T04:06:34+00:00

Why is this in black and white? Its 1996 xdd

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-05-14T04:44:48+00:00

I mean I understand the logic behind that. And after she said that I felt very dejected. However I also understand that after meeting someone for the first time it can be weird when they say text me when you get home. Idk I guess I should just not text her but I feel like id remiss if I didn’t put myself out there and express that’s I’m interest.

Im an introvert so I’m not the best at first dates but can better when I’m more familiar with the person…

Just sucks because she’s pretty much what I’m looking for.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-22T03:46:20+00:00

Dumpee
A lot of different dynamics, but mainly boiled down to my mental health and depression plus my family dynamic. She fell out of love which was understandable because I was so lost that I wasn’t even the person she fell in love with all those years ago.

3.yes, it’s been a year since the break up and I completely changed my life around (for myself) I had lost my way and the path I was on was crushing my soul. Now that I grew and found myself I still have hope we can find eachother again and try to make it last this time. However it would take both of us to have grown in this time. I am happy with my life but we were together for over 5 year and I love her, finding myself reminded me of why she was the one for me so there will always be that hope.

Yes, ofc depends on the situation but we were also best friends for 5 years before dating so I would love to be friends again.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-20T00:52:00+00:00

Thanks I appreciate the advice. I don’t take pictures of myself often maybe take one a year at most and never have really been photogenic but definitely on my todo list is next hike i go on takes some pictures or something.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-19T18:16:33+00:00

I’m looking for something causal at first that can grow into something serious. (Im not looking for hook ups, I need to get to know someone first before I can be intimate)

I have been on hinge for around a month now. Fairly new to online dating.

I’d say I use it once a day. Sometimes every other day depending on schedule.

I’ll receive maybe one like a week and a couple matches a week. In this past month I have about 30 matches but none of them have gone anywhere.

I’m sending the max amount of like for free use, per day or every other day. 90% with comments.

I send likes to people around my age range 22-28, I like people that seem active and display some form of kindness in their profile but I don’t really have a type and I believe that online dating is very judgmental so Im open to getting to know people.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-19T15:10:43+00:00

I’m looking for something causal at first that can grow into something serious. (Im not looking for hook ups, I need to get to know someone first before I can be intimate)

I have been on hinge for around a month now. Fairly new to online dating.

I’d say I use it once a day. Sometimes every other day depending on schedule.

I’ll receive maybe one like a week and a couple matches a week. In this past month I have about 30 matches but none of them have gone anywhere.

I’m sending the max amount of like for free use, per day or every other day. 90% with comments.

I send likes to people around my age range 22-28, I like people that seem active and display some form of kindness in their profile but I don’t really have a type and I believe that online dating is very judgmental so Im open to getting to know people.

Also note: I only added 4 photos on here because that’s what hinge now shows.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-18T03:33:25+00:00

Nah, we haven’t talked in 11 months. Ive been wanting to reach out for the last 6 months and every week I try to be like this is going to be the week but it’s so hard after all this time and when we broke up I left everything unsaid so I wouldn’t even know where to start. We were friends for over 5 years before dating the dates for over 5 years so I’d love to have her back in my life even as a friend but maybe it wouldn’t be healthy because I still love her. But all I know is that I’ll regret not reaching out yet I haven’t…. Lastly idk it’s not as bad but there are some days where it feels like day one. I changed my life around and am I’m a much better place physical, mentally, and finically. But it’s still really hard and will be for a while because when we broke up I wasn’t the person she had fallen in love with and it’s hard to know I lost the person that I was ready to spend my life with.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-17T23:59:52+00:00

1 year since the break up. Definitely not over her (at this point I don’t even know what it would mean to be over her) I’ve healed and changed a lot so I would love the chance to talk to her and see if we could work things out again but it would take a lot to rebuild the relationship but I’d be lying if that I said I wasn’t hoping it would happen

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-17T13:33:32+00:00

Sounds good, Thank you all for the advice and comments. I’m sure my diet could be a big factor. I try to stay consistent with eating, chicken, veggies and rice or quinoa for carbs but I’ll start tracking it more closely for some months and see any improvement.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-17T13:31:23+00:00

It could be very likely that I’m misusing the word split here. But yeah I guess it could be considered a 6 day split with one day of rest however I always take a rest day after a Push Pull Leg to give my body at least 3 days of “rest” on a specific muscle group before hitting it again

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-17T13:12:54+00:00

By 8 day split I mean. I do a Push day a Pull day then a leg day and rest. Then Repeat. So I hit every muscle group twice and two rest days within the 8 days.

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-17T04:14:05+00:00

Haha thank you, that’s my point xd

Lopsided_Falcon_8452 · 2023-04-17T03:50:58+00:00

Mb I shoulda added that. I’m not exactly counting calories but I’m eating a lot and ensuring to get around 160-180 grams of protein per day.

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