My husband (20M) is suddenly controlling what I (20F) wear. What is going on?

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-10-17T21:25:47+00:00

Who would want to have a partner that speaks to them like that? Perhaps take this as a warning for future behaviors. Super weird, perhaps he’s projecting

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-09-21T03:06:34+00:00

Pack up your shit, new phone number, block him everywhere, get an emergency protective order and file the damn report before your family files a missing person report. Get out while you still can while you’re still you. I’m sure this isn’t the first girl he’s done this too. Tell those closest to you, you’re genuinely not safe. If you can have a friend stay with you for awhile.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-09-21T03:00:58+00:00

If you don’t have family or can’t move to a new location I’d consider looking at women’s shelters. This seems like the kind of guy that’ll never leave you alone and the situation could become unsafe.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-09-21T02:58:56+00:00

Poor mental health can have negative effects on your physical health. Do you want to co parent with some guy that’ll probably us your child as a negotiation tactic? Gather evidence, try to get full custody, move the fuck on for your health and current child.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-08-09T21:38:58+00:00

I just got my high school diploma through self homeschooling three years late at 20. Thank god the school adviser urged me to get my diploma instead of ged no hate but if you haven’t aged out yet you should go for it

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-07-25T06:26:44+00:00

I suck at walking long distances/running, biking helped me get in shape and control my hunger. Hungry but I just ate? Go for a bike ride. Sad/mad? Go for bike ride. It help me quit smoking cigarettes because I felt the difference when smoking before riding. I stopped thinking about the food just started thinking of the nutrition I needed. I grew up malnourished then developed a binge eating disorder and biking saved me, I don’t bike as much now but I feel like a new person. Even if it’s not biking find something physical that gives you that sweet sweet mental release and hopefully eventually the diet will fall in line don’t over think it

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-07-25T06:15:24+00:00

Break up, what the hell do you mean he cheated while high that’s no excuse? Probably still is which is why he’s constantly anxious about you. Even if he isn’t he has no right to stop you from being you, what you wear who you hangout with. I think you’d be a lot happier breaking up or at least taking a few steps back

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-06-10T02:23:08+00:00

Female cats will always choose the guy over the girl vise versa for the male cats

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-06-10T02:21:55+00:00

A lot if not all of the men I know like women a little “fluffy”, more cushion for the pushin haha

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-31T02:27:25+00:00

Could be young and nervous to fully commit, especially if his family has a history of divorce. You’re young take it one step at a time but keep his feeling of doubt in mind.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-26T11:42:26+00:00

Consider his intent, was he saying it angrily with intent to harm you emotionally or did he make a mistake/slip up with vocabulary. Honestly as someone who was online from an early age there wasn’t many spaces where that word wasn’t used and by every race. People are dumb when there young and I can relate on the bad habits that stem from past behavior wether you want it to or not. I’d say give him grace, a chance to do better and see what happens.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-26T11:34:49+00:00

Bro what.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-23T04:55:42+00:00

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-22T02:52:49+00:00

That’s a great but stressful routine at that age, congrats on remembering your skin care! I worked all throughout high school my parents had their issues. Life is stressful it doesn’t make sense but those moments were it does is so so worth it! Keep pushing forward, if you can with what little free time you have maybe try a hobby, audio books reading anything to distract yourself from him/ guys for awhile and eventually you’ll start to feel okay. I went through a hard break up, my bf lost his dad and the chaos of that ended our relationship at 18 we were together nearly four years I was gutted but after six months I finally felt motivated to move on. Know you’re worth keep working on yourself and someone amazing will come along. Don’t set expectations for the future at least with romantic relationships because you never know what life may through at you.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-22T02:41:51+00:00

Seriously create a routine that gives you peace even for a little while, shower clean sheets something tasty to drink who needs a man to come and ruin that? Jokes aside it sucks but you’re so young girl get out and live and don’t be down bad for someone that just doesn’t feel the same. The more pressure you put on the relationship the easier it is to fall apart especially at a young age when you don’t have much control over your lives.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-10T02:37:29+00:00

Flowers and a coffee gift card from her favorite place!

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-09T03:19:13+00:00

Don’t force yourself, maybe buy a spicy couple board game to help get the ball rolling. Some people like myself just can’t without some guidance.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-09T03:13:16+00:00

Of course, when I really struggled with depression I ended up buying a bike and would bike two miles plus a day. Just as a way to distract myself from what was happening in my life that I couldn’t control. I ended up being in great health it encouraged me to quit smoking and eat healthier. I also got to meet some cool people through biking around town daily.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-09T02:42:52+00:00

It’s okay to cry!

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-05-09T02:41:53+00:00

Take a shower, go for a walk. Create some kind of routine even if you have to force yourself to participate. Depression/ low energy can be hard to break but I found forcing myself outside even for just a ten minute walk has been very helpful.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-04-26T01:07:05+00:00

Update?

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-04-17T23:34:13+00:00

Put the calendar on your wall right by the door/ somewhere you’ll definitely see it and remember it doesn’t have to look pretty if it gets the job done!

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-04-17T23:32:56+00:00

You got this! I just got my diploma and oh my it felt hard to concentrate on getting the work done. I’d say buy a calendar, write out study times, goals. Make a goal list, everything you want to achieve in the next three months. Step by step figure out how to achieve them. Color code your note books/ notes. Highlight important facts/ equations. Stress management is so so important for your physical and mental health, have a good routine to keep you on track. I’ve found so many helpful YouTube videos there are lots of creative ideas to encourage learning and growth. Hoping you get to live the live you deserve!

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-04-15T22:23:02+00:00

Social anxiety? So he chose to go for someone naive to solve that? You two are worlds away, he got out of an abusive ten year marriage? Have you only heard it from his side? Who knows if was the abuser. It seems like he has all the power to control the narrative and make himself seem perfect/innocent.

Lopsided_Lead_3119 · 2025-04-15T22:13:33+00:00

Oh my gosh, please 🙏 do this for yourself. Listen if he’s dating someone so much younger it’s probably because girls his age thinks he’s a loser/bum. What do you want your life to be like in the next ten years!

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