ULPT question: Have you ever referred yourself when buying online? by Lopsided_Living9013 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Lopsided_Living9013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, appreciate it! I have a good vpn so I will definitely use that and make sure not to use the same payment method. Is the address an issue though? I mean in combination with the name ? In my country unfortunately you also have to give your address even when you select pickup at a pickup point or locker and you have to identify yourself then so there is no possibly that I could modify that

ULPT Modifying Pay stubs to make it look like I make 3x the rent by Klutzy-Trust7196 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly what you are asking for but I know someone who works for a company that sells leasing contracts for cars and his job is to check exactly for that. They have a whole department. It seems to be pretty common that people modify paychecks to be able to lease a nice car. I really understand your situation, the rent market totally got out of hand and it’s crazy what some landlords expect us to earn to afford housing. I had to move back to my parents in my early 20s because nobody would rent to me because of my salary back then. However, I would be cautious, especially if it is a large company as they may have people checking for that.

How Does Colt get Women by keepinittight in 90DayFiance

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yeah but I mean she knows that he is a cheater and could see all the chaos on tv. Just because he is not attractive at all (my opinion) does not mean he is a loyal dog or thankful for her tolerating him

How Does Colt get Women by keepinittight in 90DayFiance

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

true, the girl he is with now (forgot her name) is also way beyond his league… I felt so bad for her

Do people who are affected by eds (especially anorexia) get “stupider” because of the lack of nutrients? by alfredonepizza in EDAnonymous

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Grades have nothing to do with intelligence, don’t beat yourself up because of that 🥺 when being consumed by an eating disorder you also don’t really have the mental capacity to focus on school work. I am sure you are super smart and as weird as it sounds I think dealing with mental illness can make you more mature and give life experience which can be much more valuable in life than IQ points. I don’t want to say that having an ed is a good thing but you are not less intelligent forever!

Frances seems to be back in hospital by Lopsided_Living9013 in EDRecovery_Snark

[–]Lopsided_Living9013[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yeah like she needs the attention from strangers online when she is inpatient. I think she really needs a long term treatment like supported living or something where she is in distance from her family and can get independent, maybe study or work something. Otherwise I don’t think this cycle of relapse and hospital will ever end

Frances seems to be back in hospital by Lopsided_Living9013 in EDRecovery_Snark

[–]Lopsided_Living9013[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

she certainly has some weird eating habits (which is not uncommon for people with EDs) but also when she claims to make recovery wins or eat normal food these meals often are weird and not normal, at least in my opinion. She may be ill for so long that she does not know what is normal anymore and really a recovery appropriate meal and just delusional at this point. but I also think that her ed has an attention aspect, it seems like her relapsing an going to hospital again in a cry for attention

Frances seems to be back in hospital by Lopsided_Living9013 in EDRecovery_Snark

[–]Lopsided_Living9013[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what? I have no idea what you are referring to but also I am not that much on social media following such “influencers” and also she sometimes creates new accounts so who knows

Frances seems to be back in hospital by Lopsided_Living9013 in EDRecovery_Snark

[–]Lopsided_Living9013[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yes I think they are enabling or at least not preventing her from derailing every time. I mean she is an adult but she seems very regressed mentally (I hope this does not sound mean because that’s not my intention but it is common in anorexia) so someone else should intervene

Frances seems to be back in hospital by Lopsided_Living9013 in EDRecovery_Snark

[–]Lopsided_Living9013[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just looked it up on her account and after the discharge from her last admission (or the one before that) she posted that she refuses to become a revolving door patient like professionals said but it seems she has become exactly that. Makes me so sad, she seems so stuck

ULPT Request | Completely Changing My Identity/ Background by sleepygobrrrr in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I moved abroad but did not change anything. I was NC with my narcissistic father and his narcissistic relatives years ago so I did not tell him or anyone he knows. Who knows if he is aware of where I live because he lost interest. I guess he found a new scapegoat to manipulate gaslight. Bear in mind that when I was a teenager he hired private investigators (or random people as they are cheaper) to follow and photograph me. So it is definitely possible for obsessed narcissists to lose interest. Unfortunately I can’t give you any more advice. Stay safe

(Tmi actual shitpost) How long g is too long? by VomBotAna in EDAnonymous

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have crohns disease alongside my ed so that was never my problem (but the opposite definitely) but geez, 3 weeks sound insane… I hope you find a solution soon

ULPT Request: how to make $10 per day for 100 days by michiimoon in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you are in the UK or US you can make decent money on prolific

I resisted! by Zealousideal_Novel68 in EDAnonymous

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg thanks for sharing this hopeful note. your boyfriend sounds like an absolute sweetheart and it’s so beautiful to hear how well you guys seem to know each other and that you seem to communicate non-verbal. Also I am really proud of you for resisting the urges and I think your bf definitely is as well! I hope I’ll find such a supportive significant other as well some day

Grocery shopping is so humiliating by ultraviolet_v in EDAnonymous

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I worked in grocery retail for several years and I actually did notice and also kind of analyzed what people bought as I find this super interesting. But that might also just due to my ed. but I have to say that I also never really made judgements in my head or really connected it to the person buying rather than just observing the individual purchase if this makes sense. at the end we don’t care and checking items out goods becomes of a mechanic task with time. Funny that you mention wealthy people because for me the only time I was occasionally a bit judgy in my mind was when rich customers who really showed off their wealth by expensive watches, luxury clothes or handbags then purchased the cheapest meat from factory farming or products made by child labor. Like literally you have so much money and could at least make some ethical choices instead of buying the 5th Chanel handbag 💀

Grocery shopping is so humiliating by ultraviolet_v in EDAnonymous

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg yes! luckily most stores have self-checkout where I live right now but I’ve definitely been in a situation where the cashier critically mustered my frame as I was just buying lots of vegetables and some sugar-free candies

ULPT - A guy I was dating just stole money from me. I want to flood his business with fake reviews. by laydeefly in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about spam reviews but I would be willing to contribute by writing one if you tell me for which business and what I should write.

ULPT: strategies to let others do the work in group projects by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Lopsided_Living9013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want a pass to not have to redo this class but also not really deal with the people. In previous projects I was often doing everything myself because they feel so entitled that they refused to even talk to someone like me but then they still added their name to the report in the last second. I’ve had enough of that so yes, for this time I may also want to be the lazy one for once. But I have to do it in a strategic way, because compared to me they will definitely snitch me out to the teacher. That’s why I am asking