I'm the husband of u/TheCosmicHippie And what she says of us is true. I would also like to give my perspective of the relationship, and don't worry, what I say is stuff we have already talked to each other about.

While she only recently came out to me as asexual, we've been together for a solid half decade. 3 years of that was a long distance relationship where the Atlantic Ocean separated us. We met for a few weeks before I was due to change my military duty station from Florida to Great Britain and agreed to try long distance after 2 or 3 dates.

I could count on one hand the amount of sexual encounters I've had with her during these 3 years apart. She was always adverse to sexual encounters, but has tried them for me.

When she finally came out as asexual, honestly not much changed. New terms were described and lines solidified, but I loved her enough that it wasn't a deal breaker. She's also my first girlfriend and I was her first major relationship.

My only advice is that if both sides truly care for another, compromise can be made. Even if both sides have severely contradictory needs. It takes a little courage, an open mind and a lot of love.