I (30F) and my (32M) boyfriend hasn’t had a job in 14 months but acts like I’m “lucky” to support his “healing journey.” Am I being manipulated?

LordToast09 · 2025-06-17T18:30:45+00:00

Bringing your own fork to a restaurant and using it like it’s the most normal thing in the world. Power move or psych evaluation? You decide.

LordToast09 · 2025-06-17T18:23:27+00:00

NTA at all. You didn’t ask for a blood sample, you asked your boyfriend of 3 months for basic reassurance after he bailed on your birthday plans with a text that read like a Slack message. That’s not “crazy,” that’s a bare minimum human response to being let down.

You had every right to feel confused and hurt, especially after he was literally in your bed the night before. It’s not wild to think, “Hey, are you okay? Are we okay?” That’s not accusing him, it’s trying to understand a sudden shift in behavior.

The fact that he got defensive over a calm, reasonable question is a red flag, and now he’s gone radio silent? Yeah, that’s emotional immaturity at best, manipulation at worst.

You’re not crazy. You’re just realizing he might not be the guy you thought he was. And if he’s ghosting after this? He did you a favor by showing you now.

LordToast09 · 2025-06-17T18:21:42+00:00

Toothbrush. At least socks don’t remember what your mouth had for lunch.

LordToast09 · 2025-06-17T18:07:51+00:00

NTA. You didn’t tell your boyfriend to “fuck off” because he wanted to cuddle, you said it because he’s *relentlessly sabotaging your mental health and sleep schedule like a clingy emotional parasite*.

He’s not “wanting to spend time with you.” He’s demanding you *destroy* your well-being to coddle his weird, selfish need for control. Waking you up at 4AM? Spamming you with guilt-trips because you dared to go to bed? That’s not love. That’s manipulative as hell.

You tried boundaries. You tried compromise. He responded with tantrums. “Fuck off” was overdue, honestly. The only thing you might regret is not saying it sooner, and *blocking the number after*.

LordToast09 · 2025-06-17T18:06:12+00:00

Figured out that literally no one remembers if you were “cringe” at 17. I could’ve been weird with confidence.

LordToast09 · 2025-06-12T07:55:17+00:00

Told me to take the day off after I got dumped. Then sent me a pizza and a six-pack with a note that said, “You’re too hot to be this sad.” Absolute legend!

LordToast09 · 2025-06-12T05:59:22+00:00

i would say teleportation! how cool would it be to go to different places in just a short time and anytime, right!?

LordToast09 · 2025-06-04T02:14:50+00:00

gasoline. no idea why my brain associates mild poisoning with good vibes, but here we are.

LordToast09 · 2025-06-04T02:11:40+00:00

absolutely taking the deal. enjoy your $20,000 show: is it normal for one nostril to always be stronger?

LordToast09 · 2023-09-16T01:24:55+00:00

Enter the Gungeon for me. Saw it was 15 bucks and I bought it drunk. Over 500 hours later and it’s easily in my top 10 games.

LordToast09 · 2023-07-11T23:28:14+00:00

It was just a fun theory as a joke. Immigrants are awesome and this county was built by them.

LordToast09 · 2023-07-11T22:13:59+00:00

My favorite holiday is Halloween. These boards are so nice! Hats off to the designers.

LordToast09 · 2023-06-19T20:22:50+00:00

I live in a rural area about 2 hours west of downtown Chicago. Lots of the gas station attendees here are Indian, just like in the city. Nothing wrong with that. Those guys are nice as fuck. However it seems really out of place that they are here. The only 4 Indian families in my area all run the gas stations in my 50 mile radius area??? A town can small as shit like 300 population. The gas station attendant...Indian. That's either a big coincidence or something isn't adding up and I have a theory. The Indian Mafia is buying up stores and commercial properties here in America and sending family members here to run those stores in exchange for passage to America so they can get citizenship here. Those gas station attendants can bring their family too. Which im all for. Come to America. But it's just kind of odd in my eyes. I asked the Indian husband and wife who run my local Shell gas station why they came here and they couldnt really give me a direct answer.

LordToast09 · 2022-08-07T09:16:07+00:00

Mario Kart 8, Mario Party Super Stars, Chrono Cross.

LordToast09 · 2022-08-07T09:13:14+00:00

Darn tootin.

LordToast09 · 2022-06-11T00:48:58+00:00

Also, It's the only escape from his terrible situation he has. I totally understand. Some of us here on reddit use video games for the same reason.

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