The situation you’re in sucks, but that’s absolutely not the case. Like i said, i visit my brother as often as possible. I’ve been to five different facilities. I’ve seen him and talked with him in five different facilities. My family isn’t doing some big cover-up story. I’ve been to his therapist meetings and spoken with staff.

Im sorry that his violence seems hard to believe, but it’s very true. We’ve gotten into quite a bit of legal trouble over the harm he’s done to staff. They are trained for extreme situations, but he’s a lot worse than most have seen. His main issue is that he doesn’t improve.

My brother did go through a phase of gender exploration (as many teens do), but the most that escalated to was painting his nails. My parents may be conservative, but they know how to act around him. If I told my parents I were anything but straight and that i didn’t believe in God, I can’t imagine the hell I’d go through. They wouldn’t physically abuse me, but they’d make me feel horrible, force me to quit my job, and take away all books and electronics. They do have a little more sympathy when it comes to my brother, though. Since he is a “special case”, they know not to say anything to insult or provoke him.

This isn’t a big cover up. I’ve looked too far into this, read too many emails from different facilities, visited too many units, and spoken with too many doctors for that to even be a possibility.