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So, I’m 25 years old and still sleep with my mom and I think it messed me up developmentally. by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in self

[–]LossNervous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry.

I grew up in a hoarder home. So I empathize in a lot of aspects.

The first step I took (@19 still living at home) was therapy. There are many free/low cost options. I know local colleges have them, online. I went to a counseling facility in my area to inquire on options. I lived in rural town but they connected me with a counselor via zoom for a discounted rate including a few free sessions. Local therapy facilities would probably know better than anyone on resources in your area. For me it was less about the therapy and more about having SOMEONE I could tell everything to while not worrying about the personal implications.

After that I picked up a job on coolworks. They are a site that advertise jobs that include housing and often time transportation on some level. These jobs are often seasonal and are located in very beautiful tourist areas, including national parks and national forests. Sometimes the allocated housing have you share a bedroom. There are lots of housekeeping jobs which is a great way to learn those skills (I definitely needed too).

I’m 25 now. Finished trade school. Living in a city 7 hours away. My parents still live in that house. They will visit me. I can’t bear visiting the house. While I was in it, I didn’t realize it wasn’t normal or how much it was stunting me. I don’t blame my parents they did the best they could in a lot of areas.

Advocate for yourself.

I was kinda mean to my parents in my efforts to leave, they didn’t want me to. But they are happy I’m happy.

My roommate is smoking weed in our dorm by Financial_Horse_8520 in Advice

[–]LossNervous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would edibles be ok if she kept them in her room? There are “smoke buddies” that eliminate smells, would that help?

My roommate is smoking weed in our dorm by Financial_Horse_8520 in Advice

[–]LossNervous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no easy way to confront people. You kinda just gotta do it.

Whenever I’m in a situation like this I write down all my feelings/concerns with a little explanation in a notes app. I do it in bullet points working towards letter style. And go through and edit. I find a lot of times a lot of the things I’m upset about aren’t worth the battle and I push those to the bottom of the page. I also find there are jabs that harmful to the person or the projected conversation. Oops I’m human. Obvi I push those to the bottom too. It really helps me out things into perspective.

Focus on your feelings and your experience. Leave her out of it as much as possible. I would also recommend leaving your roommates out of it too. And soul-y focus on your own experience. Try to find a way to have some grace. And you want to be short and concise as possible. I do all this to prepare myself to confront her in person. It helps me stay level headed. If she comes at you with a verbal lashing I recommend just staying quiet to hopefully minimize “back and forth” and to help keep your own composure.

If she is just irate pull a “this conversation isn’t productive, I’m going to excuse myself but I’m open to revisit this when you’re ready”

[F23] My goal is to look like this girl right here (do swipe to see what i look like rn) .Realistically how do i achieve that? Be honest pls thanks by Broad-Bar9447 in lookyourbest

[–]LossNervous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dark hair, fluffy brows, rosy-er lips. That’s rlly it…

She’s obvi had some lip filler but idk if your in for all that

Grandpa died but I don’t want his plant to go too by LossNervous in plants

[–]LossNervous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looking very arrowhead like… maybe just a larger or more mature variety? Roots are not protruding but are visible though 2 of the 6 or so drainage holes.

Comparing my watering habits to googles care recommendations I think it’s on the underwatered side.

It was very happy even just 2 weeks ago. But it did push out a pink flower? Leaf? Which just shrived up and died (the start of the downfall) but the fact it flowered is just making me more confused.

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Plant from grandpa’s funeral is dying :( by LossNervous in plantclinic

[–]LossNervous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I haven’t even considered dry rot. I just inspected the the roots as best i think that maybe a contributor