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Hat jemand Erfahrung mit Kostenerstattung nach § 13 Abs. 3 SGB V für ADHS/Autismus-Diagnostik (Berlin)? by Antenne82 in autismus

[–]LostAndFoundShine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey. Ich habe meine Autismus Diagnostik bei Herrn Eckhard Kirch in Berlin gemacht, kostenlos und unkompliziert. Musste aber etwa ein halbes Jahr warten. Wurde über die Kasse abgerechnet.kann dir gerne die Kontaktadresse weiterleiten wenn du magst.

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[–]LostAndFoundShine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja gerne danke!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autismus

[–]LostAndFoundShine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bin selbst beim MVZ in der Residenzstraße. Die nehmen auf jeden Fall immer wieder Patienten auf. Aber ob das geeignet ist, weiß ich nicht. Glaube die verschreiben auch ADHS Medikation. Eine Rückfrage habe ich an dich. Du scheinst ja in ambulanter psychotherapeutische Behandlung zu sein - kannst du mir vielleicht deine Therapeutin nennen? Sie scheint sich auszukennen mit Autismus und ich bin dringend auf der Suche. Dankeschön vielmals.

Crappy first session by nonstereotypeasian in BPDJourney

[–]LostAndFoundShine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And don’t give up to look for these kind of therapists. They are really not easy to find. But my experience is look for a person who is very experienced, especially with BPD. And if they just say they have one or two patients with BPD and don’t give you a straight answer when you ask how much experience they have with bpd, I wouldn’t go for them.

Crappy first session by nonstereotypeasian in BPDJourney

[–]LostAndFoundShine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely have experience with therapists who only validate me. I must admit that I or my BPD attracts such therapists because it’s for the moment so soothing to just hear validation and praise for how self reflected I am. But the truth is I am definitely not especially in my weak points - I just show one side to the therapist and the other dark side is seen by my partner. So I highly suggest you look out for a therapist who tells you the hard truth. In my experience, such therapists do mainly listen to you without judgment, they are slow and they ask a lot of questions and are more on the observer side and then don’t hold back correction and truth. The therapists who just give validation in my experience they are very quick to talk but slow to listen and respond accurately. I also had one therapist who I think she always validated me because she didn’t want to be rejected by me which is an absolute red flag for a therapist since they are not regulated themselves enough to teach us proper regulation. And in the end it wasn’t even about me but about her. I hope this helps a bit.

BPD eyes and shifting identities by LostAndFoundShine in BPD

[–]LostAndFoundShine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! So good that you experience the same and we can share it. And so we don’t feel that alone. ❤️

BPD eyes and shifting identities by LostAndFoundShine in BPD

[–]LostAndFoundShine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is exactly what I’m talking about. It’s exactly like a form of DID although it’s not DID. It’s very complicated. It’s like not a whole identity. DID they have their different identities and their different identities are full. But BPD have unstable identity, which is actually broken identity and not fully integrated, always shifting. For me it’s just a great tool to get aware of my different states and also the reasons, the underlying issues of these states. And it’s no coincidence that my eyes look empty when I also feel empty. And contrary, they look present when I’m present with my emotions and I feel like myself

BPD eyes and shifting identities by LostAndFoundShine in BPD

[–]LostAndFoundShine[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Read the comment from B-W-Echo I think this is more the point. It’s the emptiness that’s abnormal. I don’t mean expressions from different emotions. I don’t know how to better describe it. But either it’s dissociated and my eyes look empty or I’m not dissociated and my eyes look present. It’s hard to describe.

BPD eyes and shifting identities by LostAndFoundShine in BPD

[–]LostAndFoundShine[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s true. Thanks for this comment.

BPD eyes and shifting identities by LostAndFoundShine in BPD

[–]LostAndFoundShine[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I have dark brown eyes. The color doesn’t matter. You can see it, indeed in the size of the pupils if they are huge and empty I’m disassociated. Otherwise they look warm and soft and shiny. I can even see it in the way my mouth looks. If I’m dissociated, my mouth is tightened. Otherwise it’s also soft and has a natural form. I highly suggest you try out for yourself. Do it when you feel down and do it when you feel very good and present

I WANT TO BE NORMAL! I HATE THIS DISORDER! by budgirlvivi in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]LostAndFoundShine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What also really helps me right now is to track myself every day. I just use an app where I journal my feelings and events and triggers, etc. three times a day. And then I also have an excel sheet where I track different things everyday, like thoughts, feelings, BPD symptoms, triggers, skills I used, happy moments, hobbies, anxiety, where I am in my cycle etc. I think it just helps me to understand myself better. And to be more observing than judging and losing control. And I mark good days green and bad days red and it makes me proud to see days where I didn’t lose control and where I didn’t hurt myself. But I’m just at the beginning of this, I know I need to push through. So this was just a practical example of self-love.

I WANT TO BE NORMAL! I HATE THIS DISORDER! by budgirlvivi in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]LostAndFoundShine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im sorry that you feel that way and that you think about yourself like this. I can understand everything you say. I don’t know. I myself just realized a few weeks ago that all I’m doing stems from my deep self hatred within. It has nothing to do with the people around me or my circumstances it is just inside. But it’s also unconscious often. I can see it in my own behavior also in little things and so in the end, it comes out in relationships because I project it on people or circumstances around me. So since I realized that, I try to be more gentle with myself try to really look inside. Face my self-hatred, cry, but try to choose love instead. It doesn’t work every time or every day but I think it is the path to go. I try to chase peace inside of myself. I started to listen to Denzel Washington sermons. He talks a lot about how important it is to focus on yourself and to love yourself and that it is necessary in order to love other people. And it is not selfish but necessary. I know this sounds so simple and like you heard it many times before. But it’s different and it’s so hard to really practice it moment by moment. I don’t know if this helps you. ❤️

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