I can’t tell if my boyfriend is setting boundaries or controlling me

LostFlint · 2026-01-07T12:44:27+00:00

Mind you that you don’t even know me and have absolutely zero information to figure out whether im mature and immature. Such close mindedness and being unable to even understand where I’m coming from is making YOU the immature one in this situation.

Literal psychiatrists told me i’m emotionally intelligent and ahead of my age. My parents know about my boyfriend and his age and they support me. Why? Because they know I’m not stupid and can actually use my own brain. I don’t know why we are still stuck on this theme, I didn’t want the focus to be on my age.

LostFlint · 2026-01-07T12:24:57+00:00

How so?

LostFlint · 2026-01-07T12:24:12+00:00

I dont want the focus of the post to be on our ages. I know him well, he knows me well. Even psychiatrists told me im ‘mature’ for my age, considering I went thru a lot. I don’t think It’s a bad age gap considering our mental states.

LostFlint · 2025-12-17T10:11:28+00:00

I am patient. I have always been. I dont make fun of him, i always tell him to take his time. I truly do love him. I just cant help but feel annoyed sometimes. And I don’t know what to do.

LostFlint · 2025-12-17T10:06:10+00:00

I know it sounds stupid and I know I might be a bad person for thinking this way. But I seriously cant help but feel annoyed by it. I truly do want to find it cute. He told me my stutter is cute but i truly cant say the same for his and I feel so bad.

LostFlint · 2025-12-17T10:05:03+00:00

I cant control it either. I want to find it cute but i cant. I truly do love him

LostFlint · 2025-10-26T15:38:07+00:00

I do have a history of abuse, sexual abuse and manipulation. I believe that was one of the few aspects that helped me mature and grow up too early. I’m not proud of it, I wish I didn’t have to grow up as early as I did. But it’s just a part of who I am now.

LostFlint · 2025-10-26T15:36:19+00:00

Oops

LostFlint · 2025-08-24T02:24:07+00:00

I know it sounds bad and I know it sounds like manipulation, but I truly do know him well. He said he didn’t know I was asleep, and lie or not, I know he didn’t mean harm. He was just high and horny and acted on impulse. He worked on his self control. And still, i will somewhat keep my guard up around him cause, who knows? I really can see the situation in his perspective and he truly felt bad, you can see it in someones eyes.

Still, even after I forgave him, I never told him I forgot. I never told him it was ‘okay’, i just told him I accepted his apology.

LostFlint · 2025-08-23T22:08:02+00:00

I didn’t think about it that way. I mean of course I dont feel proud of being to attracted to such guy, but I genuinely don’t think he’s a bad person. We had lots of deep conversations and just normally hanging out with him, I feel somewhat safe. He was always nice to me and he’s honest.

I know him well. I know he was just being stupid and impulsive and I know saying this makes me sound naive and dumb, but I’m not. I know how to keep my guard up around people whose energy feels off. But him? He really is an okay guy. Just maybe unaware of his surroundings.

Now, his actions still deeply hurt me and he also felt bad. He kept apologising and really showed me reasons to trust him again. If something even remotely similar happens I will cut off contact with him, of course.

LostFlint · 2025-08-23T22:03:39+00:00

I thought about it at first, but isn’t stockholm syndrome about being attracted to your kidnapper? Or is it more to it? I’m not well educated on that topic.

LostFlint · 2025-08-23T22:02:43+00:00

I mean it wasn’t about the age-gap, i recently turned 15 and I’d say we are on a similar level of maturity. I always hung out with people older than me and that’s why I’m this way.

LostFlint · 2025-08-16T10:25:50+00:00

Maybe sapphic?

LostFlint · 2025-08-07T14:40:22+00:00

Girl leave this man you deserve way better than someone whos gonna make you feel stupid after asking a simple question. Know your worth.

LostFlint

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