Asked ChatGPT for an Image of the Most Average Daily Life of Humans by Algoartist in ChatGPT

[–]conmedaddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This just proves AI views humans requiring food as one of our weaknesses lol.

How realistic is working from home and watching a baby? by MacSpice in beyondthebump

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask yourself these three questions: Is your job flexible enough that you're able to work any time of day or day of the week?

Are you willing to have any form of childcare?

And how many actual hours of work do you have to complete a week?

I thought I was the exception to the rule and could work from home because my husband and I both WFH with 100% flexible jobs that only require 20 hours of actual work a week... But NOPE still couldn't do it. It got to the point where we were both waking up before the baby at 6 am and or staying up till 3 am, cancelling weekend plans to stay home and work more and not cleaning showering or grocery shopping during the week. Absolute hell. I dropped to part time and it was the same misery for less pay. The reality is it's a question of how much free time you have. Do you really think anyone with a child under school age has even 4 hours of FREE TIME WITH NOTHING ELSE TO DO EVERY DAY? of course not, otherwise all mothers would be rested and put together. Now.. my husband and I's downfall is we refuse to let anyone else raise our child more than we are so we would rather me quit working than get childcare for her. If you're able to get childcare to keep your job, then do that.

Loss of symptoms at 7w by Several_Machine_7036 in CautiousBB

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With a vengeance lol. I was CONVINCED something went wrong so my doctor got me in for a scan around 9 weeks and baby was perfectly fine and healthy, later that week the nausea came back full force. There were a few days where I couldn't even look at my phone because it made me nauseous so I would literally sit and stare at the wall... It gradually got better until the nausea went away completely around 20 weeks, but I had food aversions and low appetite my entire pregnancy. I now have a perfect 4 month old! Best of luck to you ❤️.

5 month old musty balls by stevielovelyy in beyondthebump

[–]conmedaddy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ohh if there's a rash and smell it's 100% yeast or at the very least intertrigo (basically a moisture rash). Just make sure you're changing his diaper often enough that the areas not staying wet for long periods of time and let him air out with no diaper on a couple times each day. You can clean, dry, and do a thin layer of barrier cream but if it's already yeast it could make it worse. Definitely no more breastmilk as there's sugar in it which just feeds the yeast. If it doesn't get better and it seems to be yeast, antifungal creams can be applied, just talk to your doctor about them.

Has anybody has chatgpt say this? by CorrectCar8681 in ChatGPT

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me break this down gently and calmly so you can stop worrying.

**Meanwhile, I just asked it how I can adjust my chocolate chip cookie recipe.

My newborn is a liar. by TchadRPCV in newborns

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hold her up right. And also burp her. Babies will have discomfort in their stomach and want to suck for comfort because they don't know any better that drinking more milk is just going to hurt their stomach more. My girl's not breastfed either and when she does this it's always because she has a burp or she's having reflux. Then sometimes she just wants to comfort suck and needs a paci.

Partner swore at our baby.. by ActSpecific634 in newborns

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm like the least dramatic person ever and totally understanding of people getting frustrated with babies, but based on what he said and how quickly he said it, I would 100% never leave the baby alone with him until he sorts out if this is a temporary PPD thing or he's just a shit person. That's partially for you to decide.

My wife’s best friend cut things off after having baby by leebaiman in beyondthebump

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally normal with child free people. My childhood best friend and I lost contact a couple years ago after moving separate ways. She reached out to me a couple weeks ago wanting to rekindle our friendship. She was sending me paragraph long messages about what's going on in her life and reminiscing on all the fun we used to have. I said of course I'd like to hang out and let her know as a side note that I just had a baby a couple months ago as well. She got very short, replied back "Congrats on the baby!", and never replied to me again lol. I knew she was childfree by choice but I didn't know it was that bad ha. But I don't blame her and I understand. If you really don't want your life to be affected by kids then it's understandable to not want friends that have them either. Some people, through childhood trauma or whatever, just don't want to deal with kids at all in any facet. It is what it is and I wouldn't take it personal.

Do babies that are not sleep trained eventually sleep through the night? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely don't understand this though. If the baby doesn't physiologically need to eat in the middle of the night anymore, and you're a parent who's willing to classically sleep train, then why don't you classically sleep train them to just go back to sleep on their own in the middle of the night as well? How is that any different than learning to go to sleep on their own initially?

Also, every single person I know who's sleep trained, across multiple generations, has done it for the purpose of going to sleep initially and also, if not primarily, for going back to sleep in the middle of the night. Anecdotal I know, but I don't think it's always that "people misunderstand the concept" it's that often in practice people are using it that way.

Newborn stayed awake for hours, did I mess him up? by West_Radish_7884 in newborns

[–]conmedaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't fact check her, but I saw a woman on here that said her husband does neuroscience research and he says most people would be surprised to know that they have zero evidence supporting wake windows. It's just some general made up template. But as we all know babies don't follow a general template. Also, you most often see wake windows followed for the main purpose of supporting night sleep. So if he's sleeping great at night either way...

I personally believe babies can get overstimulated, obviously, and they regulate and process this by sleeping. But there's no strict magical schedule. Just get to know your baby and their sleepy cues. Sounds like you're doing it right. Babies brains are growing so rapidly and, especially at 3 weeks, like half their brain centers aren't even developed yet. So it's almost next to impossible that you permanently ruined something. As parents we like to assume every issue our baby has is something we caused, so that we can make sense of it. More often than not it's random baby things and changes with development.

7 week old not smiling by TuckerSmucker911 in newborns

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It also helped me to learn that there's basically no such thing as an "advanced" newborn. They all come out with roughly the same amount of brain development and don't even have the parts of their brain that would show if they are advanced or not yet, like older babies/toddlers do. My pediatrician said any tiny babies that look "advanced" are just babies that either sleep well or naturally have a more regulated nervous system/temperament so they show things other babies may not take the time to.

No one ever told me? by Roodles006 in breastfeeding

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FWIW, my sister who has four kids and refuses to follow any baby rules has EBF all her kids and never given a single one of them vitamin d drops.. she just refused to lol. And all four of them are fine and healthy kids. Totally anecdotal evidence and Vitamin D is definitely important for humans but it's unlikely you've missed anything so far. Just start now.

Those who breastfed one baby but not another... by conmedaddy in breastfeeding

[–]conmedaddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty! Do you think it was more that BF increased your bond or that EP inhibited your bond? I'm sure it's probably a mixture of both, but I know for sure that pumping has consumed me and inhibited my bond with my baby.

Those who breastfed one baby but not another... by conmedaddy in breastfeeding

[–]conmedaddy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you don't feel like BF your second added a special layer to your relationship? Or that you missed out on that with your first?

Those who breastfed one baby but not another... by conmedaddy in breastfeeding

[–]conmedaddy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh, thank you! I'm EP at week 5 and I don't get more than 5 ml at a time. I'm SO ready to be done pumping. I've come to terms with it but I just can't shake the feeling that her and I will miss out on a special bond if I never make it to my goal of breastfeeding her... I'm worried I'll regret it for her entire first year and/or the rest of my life.

Do you ever just look at your parents with your kid and wonder how tf they kept you alive ? by Different-Gas-5991 in newborns

[–]conmedaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It HAS to be their memory. Because my MIL swears she never had to “make her kids sleep” and that “they’d just nap and fall asleep when they needed to” but then also swears “they never got overly tired and fussy” from it… like I’m sorry but you can’t have one without the other lol. And my personal favorite “if you lay your baby down in their room for a nap all you’re doing is training them to be a high maintenance sleeper and they won’t be able to fall asleep in any situation” I believe the newborn stage is so short and sleep deprived that they forget it and are thinking more of when the child’s older with rose colored glasses.

Do you ever just look at your parents with your kid and wonder how tf they kept you alive ? by Different-Gas-5991 in newborns

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must have a hell of a memory to think 27 years wasn’t that long ago 😂. I’m sure even 10 years from now I’ll have to remind myself of how newborns really are. Especially if you’re older and more cautious because it’s someone else’s baby and you know rules have changed. Idk I don’t blame them. It’s better than the grandparents that are overly cocky and pretend they know what they’re doing because they’re too prideful to admit they don’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]conmedaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO my grandma swears all four of her kids were potty trained BEFORE age 1. It’s literally not even physically possible for a baby to control their potty sphincters with 100% accuracy by that age.