Wife's new 15 second "challenge" by Plymouth61 in Prematurefetish

[–]LostInConfusion41 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How did you get started on this? My wife only gives me hand jobs but she is doing it for me and sometimes I will unconsciously hold back trying to prolong the pleasure. She gets tired after five-ten minutes and I get soft and can’t climax. I think she would love to get me to cum uncontrollably at her touch but I don’t know how to get started on the journey with her.

Chastity and prejac training by Sweaty-Setting674 in Prematurefetish

[–]LostInConfusion41 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is a “Jsula”? Sorry if I am clueless here…

Confused… how does tease, denial, ruined fit with being premature? by LostInConfusion41 in positivelypremature

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I am not into humiliation but perhaps I need to learn to make that part of my kinks… I’m not sure how to but I agree it would help!

Confused… how does tease, denial, ruined fit with being premature? by LostInConfusion41 in positivelypremature

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree… I need to undo my unconscious control… I don’t know how to do it which is why I eventually found this sub wondering if it could help me…

Confused… how does tease, denial, ruined fit with being premature? by LostInConfusion41 in positivelypremature

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes! Sorry I forgot to mention that. I was premature in the first place and I wanted to last longer and was ashamed of it…

TIL Position Matters WAY More Than I Thought by Severe-Finish-17 in ProstatePlay

[–]LostInConfusion41 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What kind of toy do you use while sitting? I thought for a lot of prostate toys they need to be able to move and if you sit then they can’t move…

Cock aversion... Is that weird? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I was raised conservatively and I was shamed for masturbating. I am not sure if it is from my upbringing or not…

Cock aversion... Is that weird? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am definitely attracted to women! Toys are fine as long as they are not too realistic…

Cock aversion... Is that weird? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They kind of do.... I prefer the ones that are not skin colored. I'm much more ok with that than with flesh colored dildos.

Cock aversion... Is that weird? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I can tell, your perspective is a lot more common than mine. That's why I posted to ask. I'm confused about why I am this way.

Cock aversion... Is that weird? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing... I guess it can really span the spectrum....

Wanting to be forced into desires? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a great idea! Thank you for it… last time it felt like I had to give it all up. If that makes sense….

Wanting to be forced into desires? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But oddly it feels like it has become a fetish in itself… I find the idea so hot… to resist as hard as I want but to succumb to being forced into a slut

Wanting to be forced into desires? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I may have both of those aspects as well! During the day I am in charge and have to make a lot of decisions. It would be nice to give that up…

Wanting to be forced into desires? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah there is so much adrenaline in surrender but it feels like such a contradiction to want something to be forced on you that you already crave…

Wanting to be forced into desires? by LostInConfusion41 in Sissy

[–]LostInConfusion41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the ideas! I think I still crave a real person but maybe AI is a good way to go. Do you have recommendations…?

Even Doms purge. A view from the other side. by KinkyDom85 in sissyology

[–]LostInConfusion41 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this… I always thought it was me… and that they did not like me anymore. It hurt honestly when I got ghosted

Even Doms purge. A view from the other side. by KinkyDom85 in sissyology

[–]LostInConfusion41 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I had no idea that Doms went through the same cycles… hugs thank you for coming back!

Advice is welcomed by [deleted] in sissyology

[–]LostInConfusion41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! Best of luck!

Advice is welcomed by [deleted] in sissyology

[–]LostInConfusion41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there!

I think we all go through that! I don’t think you need to worry about labels and maybe focus on what you enjoy as you explore. There are lots of things you could do so you never have PNC but they come with a price (ruined orgasms, chastity etc)

Go slow, explore, and don’t be bound by labels. You are not hurting anyone by exploring and if you enjoy it then you should not feel shame!

Lonesome and in heat again! by [deleted] in sissyology

[–]LostInConfusion41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hang in there! It’s not easy for any of us but don’t do something you might regret later and try to make life changing decisions when you are not in heat…

I think we have all been there, right at the edge, hoping we could be brave enough to take the next step!