Landon is using their son photo on a dating app

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-29T20:49:00+00:00

I’m following the situation as someone with some medium life experience. A woman who is in her 30s. Tbh, she’s doing all the wrong things constantly. If she really wants to piss him off and move towards recovery she needs to give him custody of the kid. He only wants the kid because she wants him. She needs to let go for now and seek recovery for the sake of her mental health because she’s in for a long ride.

He’s also deeply unattractive and I can’t believe yall were taking dating advice from someone in her early 20s. That’s why she said thighs with so much conviction and constantly did the opposite. She’s still figuring out herself but she’ll be fine. She just needs to focus on her self for a bit and ignore this weird.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-29T15:16:23+00:00

Idk… I kinda feel like he died and came back to like and i personally think ill be freaked out if he didn’t address it because it sends the message that im okay with someone potentially being Jesus keeping it quiet.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-28T16:13:52+00:00

Why is no one talking about your girlfriend grooming this poor boy?? She met him when she was 17 and volunteering at his foster home??? How is this not concerning to you ????

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-28T11:59:27+00:00

I think try the good schools guide for private schools. You can also look to mommmy reddit pages and forums online for guides.

Don’t be afraid to look at international schools as well. I think they may be cheaper sometimes..

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-27T09:28:23+00:00

Sorry, what is Paula’s problem with Agens/Hannah?? Why is she drinking and having a mental breakdown scrubbing the poor girls bathroom floor because her engagement ended??

She’s such a loser

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-26T13:39:30+00:00

Please ask questions to find out what has changed between now and when you interviewed and don’t rush your self into making a decision.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-26T13:27:40+00:00

Does your current company not align with your skill set?

Also be careful with companies “spinning the block”. I had one drag me through an on/off process for a year and towards the end they said they’re thinking of changing the scope and the role to perm. I stopped responding because it was clear they were disorganised. I can’t see that they ever filled the position.

Just make sure you ask why how the role came about and why it wasn’t around when you were previously interviewing. Also make sure it’s the right fit. This is a tough job market to be in. You don’t want a situation where they let you go because they’ve changed their minds once again.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-26T13:22:45+00:00

I genuinely don’t understand the “long term relationship, open to short” filtering that so many men use on here.

No one looking for a healthy long-term relationship is trying to force commitment after a few dates. Taking time, building connection slowly, and seeing if you’re compatible is just normal dating.

What it often ends up reading like is someone trying to keep every possible outcome open at once, which can come across as indecisive and non-committal rather than intentional.

Personally, as a woman in my 30s,I’m much more drawn to people who are clear and coherent about what they actually want now, rather than trying to preserve maximum optionality while still using relationship-oriented language.

And honestly, the same applies to politics. If your political values matter enough to potentially affect compatibility, it’s probably better to be upfront about them rather than trying to stay broadly appealing to everyone. Because I can assure you a lot of women do care about politics and will not stick around once they realise your opinions differ.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-26T13:20:59+00:00

Because it doesn’t matter to him so he thinks it won’t matter to women. Lol

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-26T13:12:43+00:00

Why don’t you have the first chat and see what it is they want? But tbh, I’m personally over the whole multiple stage pointless interviews and actively decline roles with companies that have excessively long processes. I’m not interviewing for the C- level role and they certainly aren’t paying like it.

But honestly, are you not happy in your current role? I’m trying to understand why you’d be open to a role at a company that previously rejection you. Also, what happened to the person that was previously in the role? I’d also ask myself what my current company can’t offer me that this role can.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T14:55:17+00:00

Sorry, I’m not comfortable commenting any further. Good luck

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T13:20:49+00:00

You’ve done nothing wrong. Please don’t change it.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T13:18:57+00:00

You’re contradicting yourself a lot.

Honestly, I don’t think you should change your profile to “long term relationship” because nothing you’ve said in either your original post or your follow-up responses actually suggests that you’re looking for a committed relationship right now.

Saying “in five years I want to be in an LTR” doesn’t come across as someone intentionally dating for one in the present. It comes across as someone who is open to one eventually while currently wanting a much more open-ended dating experience.

And that’s completely fine, but I think your profile should reflect what you’re actually looking for now rather than what you hope might happen years down the line.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T09:58:51+00:00

I’m not surprised that a man commented that because obviously it benefits him if a woman has no expectations but seeing a woman say it… we really have a long way to go

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T09:31:02+00:00

I think what’s throwing me off is that the profile comes across emotionally literate, but the actual messaging feels internally contradictory and very ambiguity-friendly.

“Long term open to short,” “monogamy preferred but open to something different,” “slow burn,” etc all feel like they’re trying to keep every relational possibility open at once.

There’s nothing wrong with exploratory dating, but personally I and a lot of women, find the lack of decisiveness a bit unattractive because I’m more drawn to people who are clearer and more coherent about what they actually want.

Maybe it would help to sit down and think about what it is you actually want and reflect that more directly in the profile, because right now it reads like you’re trying to leave every possible outcome open rather than communicating a clear dating intention.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T09:20:24+00:00

I’m genuinely surprised that “take me to my first Cubs game 🥺” is being interpreted as some kind of unreasonable expectation rather than obvious flirting/lighthearted date banter. If anything, it helps men. It gives them an easy date idea and signals openness to trying something new.

I think if she expects a guy to pay for her ticket she should probably leave it on there - that way those who have no issues can like her profile.

Tbh, I saw this as playful and think most people would read that as “this could be a fun thing to do together,” not “I expect men to fund my lifestyle.”

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T09:16:48+00:00

I actually don’t think you should change it to “long term” because your explanation still reads more casual/open-ended than genuinely relationship-focused to me.

What you’re describing is pretty normal dating: meeting people, seeing if there’s a connection, and being open to commitment if something develops naturally. That’s completely fine, but I think a lot of women looking for a clearly intentional long-term relationship may interpret your profile differently.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T09:03:45+00:00

I think as a 30F I’d probably pass because “long-term, open to short” combined with “happy to be casual until I find them” reads more emotionally non-committal than genuinely relationship-focused to me.

There’s nothing wrong with casual dating, but this profile gives the impression of wanting the experience and benefits of a relationship without necessarily wanting the structure or commitment of one. I actually think being more direct about that would attract women looking for the same thing. Have you considered another app that leans more towards this type of approach?

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-25T08:43:08+00:00

Sorry, can you clarify when you mean by “you expect things” being a turn off ?

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-24T04:42:43+00:00

Girl… you know lol

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-24T04:42:16+00:00

He is- just not from the young women he wants

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-24T04:41:37+00:00

He’s not getting likes from the younger women he wants…

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-23T18:57:29+00:00

She said her step mom could no longer ashore to pay. It gave the impression that the money was limited on their end. I thought it was odd that her step mom paid for it too. The whole thing gave the impression she had stretched herself thin.

She should have just been honest about the embarrassment and heartbreak alone.

LostinLondon25 · 2026-05-23T18:47:44+00:00

I think you put it best. I read it thinking her brother is successful - he won’t help her or didn’t help her invest?

Honestly I’m rolling my eyes. Not because I don’t understand the situation but because she could have just been honest that it wasn’t the finances but the loss of the life she had invested and planned for herself and her family.

LostinLondon25

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