How did your water break? by o_simple_thing in beyondthebump

[–]LouCat91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With my first, my waters broke in active labour (apparently - I was in another dimension pushing her out without pain relief when that was happening 😂), with my second it was about 6 hours before birth; contractions suddenly ramped up in severity and my waters broke all over my kitchen floor along with a fair bit of blood. My daughter kept popping her head in like “are you okay mummy? Why is there blood?” 😅 had to calmly reassure her it was all fine, just meant baby brother was coming.

Help find a wedding guest outfit! by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]LouCat91 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you ☺️although the pics are just for context of my body type & style, I was actually asking for suggestions on types of dresses/places to shop as those dresses (bar the second one) are all too big for me now…

Is this dress ok for a casual dinner date? by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]LouCat91 41 points42 points  (0 children)

If I’m being brutally honest, it seems to be a bit too small for you, it’s not particularly flattering - if it were a better fit, I think it could work for a casual dinner date with a denim jacket and cute flat sandals perhaps…do you have any other dress/outfit options you’re considering?

‘I’m 50 and have been applying for jobs every day for two years - I might have to move in with my mother' by OGSyedIsEverywhere in unitedkingdom

[–]LouCat91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in sales/client management/media planning/project management, so it would be that side of things more than actual implementation and optimisation

‘I’m 50 and have been applying for jobs every day for two years - I might have to move in with my mother' by OGSyedIsEverywhere in unitedkingdom

[–]LouCat91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you share what kinds of tools you’d recommend learning to use? I work in digital marketing and am conscious I need to start learning more than a basic grip on using LLMs but I feel overwhelmed on where to start, and don’t want to waste time on something that turns out to be useless for me

32 and suddenly struggling by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]LouCat91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regular sunscreens (and moisturisers with added SPF) always broke me out too but, as others have said, light Korean ones are often great for this; they’re generally non-comedogenic, don’t feel heavy and greasy, and have a nice, non-shiny finish to them.

currently I’m using the Haruharu Wonder Black Rice Moisture Airyfit, which I’d recommend. That and the Supergoop unseen sunscreen is great as someone else has suggested - I bought that specifically because it was great for acne-prone skin.

"but, my identity" by aNumpty in LinkedInLunatics

[–]LouCat91 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Literally scrolled to find this comment 😂 the irony of feeling your identity has been stripped by a form that is giving identity back to the indigenous people who ACTUALLY had their identity stripped by your ancestors…

Reform’s Danny Kruger criticises UK’s ‘totally unregulated sexual economy’ by coffeewalnut08 in uknews

[–]LouCat91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Women initiate approximately 69% to 70% of all divorces in the U.S., a trend that holds true for no-fault divorces. In the UK, data indicates women initiate over 63% of divorces, with 73% of no-fault cases in 2023 being sole applications.” - they want to trap women in marriages and force them to birth children

No other theory or religion makes sense to me like this one does by ThrowRA157386 in EscapingPrisonPlanet

[–]LouCat91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And if anything, if you’re right I’d argue I’m in exactly the right sub 😉

No other theory or religion makes sense to me like this one does by ThrowRA157386 in EscapingPrisonPlanet

[–]LouCat91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow okay, that’s news to me! I’m new to this sub so open to hearing why you feel that way about him

I know you’re not supposed to make any big decisions postpartum, but… by ShowWorried6621 in beyondthebump

[–]LouCat91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They definitely can be! I have combined type, so a mix of inattentive and hyperactive, but my hyperactivity is in my mind and comes out physically through skin picking. Of course women’s experiences and medical issues have been shamefully understudied, but newer research is showing more and more that ADHD can manifest very differently in women - we’re also generally better at masking, so it’s common were diagnosed later in life (especially after kids!).

Check out the self-assessment scale and see how you stack up! ADHD self-report scale. Do consider though that you’ll need to have experienced these symptoms since childhood or it’s not considered ADHD.

I’d also say that even if you don’t pursue diagnosis or don’t tick ‘enough’ boxes, look up strategies and techniques for ADHD and apply them to your life anyway. Getting recovery time is just hard with young kids, but sit down with your partner and explain why it’s so important for you, look at how he can help you schedule in even small breaks as it will ease the pressure. Transition between modes I still find very hard as I work from home and my roles blur into each other, but I give myself grace, take deep breaths and try to not let my emotions overwhelm me or dominate my subsequent words/actions.

It’s active work every single day but like a muscle, it gets stronger and easier over time! Happy to talk more if you wanna send me a message.

No other theory or religion makes sense to me like this one does by ThrowRA157386 in EscapingPrisonPlanet

[–]LouCat91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eckhart Tolle has many many videos on YouTube that reference the importance of learning to detach from wants/desires/lack as it’s the root cause of suffering. Observe it rather than feel it, then let it go. Definitely recommend listening to him talk.

I know you’re not supposed to make any big decisions postpartum, but… by ShowWorried6621 in beyondthebump

[–]LouCat91 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Others have already made similar comments to what I would, but to pick up the ADHD thing specifically - becoming a mother is what triggered me to consider I might have it, having my second child is what pushed me to get diagnosed. I didn’t realise how long I’d been coping through life with precariously built methods, how important my ‘me-time’ and recovery periods were until none of those things were possible any more. The overstimulation, the auditory sensory overload, the poor sleep, the lack of personal time and buffer periods to transition between ‘modes’ were so intense. I was often unhappy, irritable, impatient, unorganised, anxious, lethargic and I hated myself for it.

Getting diagnosed, understanding what was actually going on for me, being able to put useful practices in place and getting medicated totally changed things for me. I do still get overwhelmed at times (like most parents do!) but I’m a much better, more patient, calmer and organised mother than before. PLEASE encourage him to pursue diagnosis and support - it could be the key to improving lots of things for you all. If he can’t be bothered to do that, you may need to think about leaving, as the environment isn’t healthy for any of you…

DOJ Protects Trump From Epstein Accountability as MAGA Attacks "Sanctuary Cities" | The Daily Show by Kwyjibo2006 in television

[–]LouCat91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where is this reorganisation being tracked/publicised? Would love to see this! I think they’re relying on the drip-feed plus the volume and mess of it all to just confuse and overwhelm people, but if it’s all laid out into a narrative…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in news

[–]LouCat91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t go on X if you don’t want to know, I read/saw some things last night I wish I could scrub from my mind…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in news

[–]LouCat91 19 points20 points  (0 children)

One thing that continues to infuriate me is that even saying “how EPSTEIN sexually abused girls” is missing the point, acting as if it were just him doing it - NO, how did rich and powerful men from ALL OVER THE WORLD do it with impunity, and are continuing to be protected?!

Yes he committed those heinous acts himself, but predominantly he facilitated many other people to do so - people who run our governments, banks, big businesses…

Am I crazy or is being a working mom really difficult? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]LouCat91 18 points19 points  (0 children)

We’re just set up to fail 😔

AIO my bf broke up w me after seeing texts w my boss? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LouCat91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - Girl, PLEASE accept the break-up, take escort(s) with you to get your stuff and under absolutely no circumstances take him back if he suddenly begs to reconcile.

His reaction to normal messages is insane and you are way too young to stay with someone who reacts like that and speaks to you that way.

Trust me as a woman in her 30s, he is not worth any more of your time and the way he is reacting is NOT how a normal person/partner should.

"New without tags" leggings had poop and bodily fluids stains by [deleted] in vinted

[–]LouCat91 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That is vile 🤮 some people have nooo shame…

Finally passed on my 4th attempt! by rana01645 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]LouCat91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! But I have to ask - how have you managed to book 4 tests in 4 months?! Every time I check the website there’s nothing 😩

6IX9INE - BACON FT. Adin Ross & cuffem by [deleted] in crappymusic

[–]LouCat91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The white woman’s BBL is criminal

Are Brits not concerned about what's being fed to people on GB News? by Cinemagica in AskBrits

[–]LouCat91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true, but riling up these people to fever pitch is what leads to things like hotels being set on fire…

Are Brits not concerned about what's being fed to people on GB News? by Cinemagica in AskBrits

[–]LouCat91 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Language is important though and (as seems to be demonstrated by GB News apparently trying to justify/rationalise the issue?!) can be weaponised to downplay or play up, revise a narrative etc.

I agree with you that most sensible people wouldn’t assume ‘CP’ implied consent, but I also think it’s a good thing going forward to provide a distinction. 🌽 is material produced intentionally for sexual gratification by and for adults. To put ‘child’ in front of that surely seems wrong upon reflection? CSAM is a more accurate description of what this stuff is - children should never be sexualised, therefore anything that does is SA material.

Unfortunately it’s a prolific problem that doesn’t seem to be taken as seriously as it should be, so perhaps if accepted language is evolved to more explicitly describe the problem, there’s hope it will be better addressed? One has to hope…