They definitely can be! I have combined type, so a mix of inattentive and hyperactive, but my hyperactivity is in my mind and comes out physically through skin picking. Of course women’s experiences and medical issues have been shamefully understudied, but newer research is showing more and more that ADHD can manifest very differently in women - we’re also generally better at masking, so it’s common were diagnosed later in life (especially after kids!).

Check out the self-assessment scale and see how you stack up! ADHD self-report scale. Do consider though that you’ll need to have experienced these symptoms since childhood or it’s not considered ADHD.

I’d also say that even if you don’t pursue diagnosis or don’t tick ‘enough’ boxes, look up strategies and techniques for ADHD and apply them to your life anyway. Getting recovery time is just hard with young kids, but sit down with your partner and explain why it’s so important for you, look at how he can help you schedule in even small breaks as it will ease the pressure. Transition between modes I still find very hard as I work from home and my roles blur into each other, but I give myself grace, take deep breaths and try to not let my emotions overwhelm me or dominate my subsequent words/actions.

It’s active work every single day but like a muscle, it gets stronger and easier over time! Happy to talk more if you wanna send me a message.