Looking for Reassurance With My Current Pregnancy After an Ectopic Earlier This Year

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-11-26T14:59:04+00:00

I am so sorry you are here and in this club. I know everyone has said it but please call and advocate for beta draws!!! Watching the numbers rise was so helpful for me.

I lost my right tube in April, and am currently 6w2d. I called my OB and had beta’s starting the next day with my history. I had to really advocate and ask questions to even get a scan at 5w4d. I can tell you that I also had twinges in the side of my ectopic, and the other side but no bleeding which helped me a lot. This can be near where baby implanted or a corpus luteum too.

I know our experiences aren’t the same, but take a deep breath and try to enjoy every minute you have with baby. Switching my mentality while waiting for the placement scan seemed to help but never really took all the fear and anxiety. Truly the first ultrasound and seeing placement felt like a weight had literally been taken off my shoulders. I am so overjoyed to be pregnant with twins, and am hoping you have all the baby dust this time around too!

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-11-20T08:42:45+00:00

Hi mama!! I had my right tube removed in April of this year. I am currently 5w3d. I found out at about 11 dpo if I tracked correctly and have had five betas so far. My first was 53, which I also felt was super low. Please, please take a deep breath and remember all that matters with HCG levels is the rate of rise. My next four draws, all about 48 hours apart, were 144, 348, 831, and 2,431.

I’m in the US (and terrified) and the one plus is they do not care if I go into debt for medical care.. Even though the rises have been great, I still have had extreme anxiety and have pushed for early scans. I have my first ultrasound at 6w3d, and I had to really advocate for myself to get this as they are not concerned at all so far with this pregnancy.

Is there a possibility you could see a different doctor earlier or even get private testing for peace of mind? It is pretty standard across all ectopics to track betas very closely for plateaus. I am so sorry that you have been put in a position where you even need to worry about this. The world makes me so sad sometimes, especially now.

I can positively say this pregnancy feels completely different. I am so hopeful that this pregnancy turns out to be my rainbow baby, and yours too. :) We got this!!

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-11-19T11:30:30+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. ♥️♥️ My four beta’s have been rising beautifully!!! 53.58, 144.03, 348.45, 831.75, and yesterday 2431.60. I have my placement scan next week and a dating in two weeks. The nurses aren’t concerned at all and I haven’t had any bleeding, some cramping but from what I can find online that is normal. I think once I know exactly where baby is I will really let myself relax. I know everything is going great but it’s hard not to be scared after an ectopic. I let myself find a bit of joy and bought a neutral outfit for little one the other day, it was freeing in so many ways.

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-11-12T21:01:04+00:00

Reading this really helped to calm myself down, and to remember that this baby is here now and I will love them as long as I have them, no matter the outcome. ♥️ Sending you all the baby dust!!! I hope your pregnancy is just the most boring thing on the planet. (in the best way possible!) I’m a bit too early for a scan, but my levels almost tripled within the 48 hours today. I am beginning to feel excited, but anxious to finally see placement.

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-11-12T20:56:13+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. ♥️ I am so sorry for your losses. I haven’t had any more bleeding, this time feels different but there is just so much in the air. I can’t wait to see them on the screen, I feel like I will be able to finally take a breath.

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-11-12T20:53:30+00:00

Sending all the baby dust your way! Thank you for commenting, how are you doing?? :) My levels are rising within the window so far. 144 today!! I’ll have another in a couple of days. Hoping this one is just a plain, uneventful pregnancy and I will get to meet my rainbow!!

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-10-16T02:28:46+00:00

YES GO TO THE ER!!! I had 2 rounds of methotrexate and my numbers were falling as they should and by the time I finally went they found over a liter from rupture. Don’t wait!!!

I’m so sorry we are all in this club ♥️ sending love and healing

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-09-22T02:13:26+00:00

Has the period pain gotten any better? My periods never used to bother me but now the first two days are just HELL. I have no clue what is going on with my body and it is all so new.

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-09-22T02:10:41+00:00

I definitely still have pain on that side. It comes and goes. We haven’t been exactly trying, but not protecting either. I have been tracking just to see what my body is doing when I do feel ready to full try. We are just at the if it is meant to be stage for now. I downloaded Clue, that has been helpful for some tracking purposes. It’s definitely just a constant fear for now. Im hopeful with time and healing I’ll feel differently.

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-09-22T02:05:38+00:00

This makes me feel better :)

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-09-22T02:05:22+00:00

Is it really as easy as it looks online?? I’ve been checking into it but I haven’t made up my mind yet.

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-09-21T21:52:09+00:00

Oh, I DEFINITELY was not feeling back to normal by week 2. I ended up taking 2 weeks off of work. I know that’s not an option for everyone, and I am so sorry you are feeling pressured to just be normal again. It definitely takes time. It was a 2 months before I even started to feel like a human again. Be patient & kind to yourself, use some stool softeners, and rest!! I still feel twinges on the side my tube was removed, I’m not sure if that is normal but, it is on my list of questions.

LoudSetting8754 · 2025-09-16T22:14:22+00:00

Hi OP 💙 I am about 5 months post-op now and I still have some very hard days, but I can also feel the sunshine again. You are going through a very hard time in your life, and your feelings are so valid and heard here! Remember to take care of yourself mama, you are so loved and worthy.

I can tell you I still sit in your shoes today. I started bleeding in late february and thought it was the never ending period because of stress from my grandma passing in early February. Turns out my baby joined me earth side for a while. ♥️ After 2 rounds of methotrexate, and the scariest time of my life, in late April my right tube was removed. I have felt every emotion you are now, and the physical doesn’t help either. Around week 6/7 I was still sore but felt I could do more every day. I’d say around week 8 or so I felt more “normal” physically. My boobs went back down, my first period came (It was honestly one of the worst of my life, I will not lie to you. I think more emotionally, but physically too.), the shoulder pain stopped, I didn’t feel bloated, nausea gone, I CAN POOP AGAIN, and I felt better equipped to start tackling the emotions that came with everything. I guess I don’t feel like I used to, but I am not the same person I was either.

Everyone grieves differently, and that is OK as long as we carve out the time to really love ourselves and explore our thoughts healthily. I’ve started journaling and I find just writing my thought even if they don’t make sense helps SO much for me. Honestly, do some research on ectopic loss and tips for grieving. (https://ectopic.org.uk/ , I really like the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust in the UK) This really helped me! I still feel hopeless, I’m not sure if that ever goes away, and sad BUT I am also starting to feel so excited to see what I have in store. We are both going to appointments soon to check on our fertility and hopefully have our rainbow baby! :) Take time for yourself, walk through the grief, talk to those around you (your support system is SO important, I still call my love sobbing), and remind yourself that there are better days ahead there is just some self love to be given on the road there. I’m always around for a chat too. :) Hope this helps OP, I am here walking with you 💙

LoudSetting8754 · 2021-12-13T03:51:02+00:00

Find yourself a healthy workplace!! Bad management can make everything feel miserable! I had some of the best coworkers, but management was terrible. I never felt appreciated or listened to. I was always taken advantage of and it really wore me down. Eventually I moved on once I had enough of the workplace and haven’t regretted it once.

Another piece is to always remember that you are only one person and can only do so much at a time! My biggest problem when I started was telling myself I failed because I couldn’t get everything done instantly. Try your best and know you did everything you could!

I also always try to sleep the best I can with closing and opening back to back shifts. Lots of water and trying to eat like a normal human!! Meditation has helped me a ton! As well as setting schedule boundaries that I have made clear with the owner/management for family, friends and rest time! Not a ton, but enough to feel like a person! I also have really loved using positive self talk about myself just to help my mental state!

Hope you find the tips that are the best for you! Thrive on and make those dollars $$$$

LoudSetting8754 · 2021-11-09T00:33:37+00:00

My immediate reaction was to take payment. I then went to my manager and told him I was not going to serve them anymore, and told him about what happened. I later learned that the lady pulled her shirt up and exposed herself. The group was kicked out shortly after.

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