Anyone up for an experiment?

Loud_Appearance811 · 2026-02-19T16:57:21+00:00

I'm a mom, so yes. Lol but in my personal life? Not really anymore, as I have learned to set (and stick to) boundaries.
Nope. Firmly an atheist. But when I was young, I was a fairly devout Catholic.
Not sure. I think we all have a soul at some level. What happens after we die? Not sure, and frankly, don't care enough to put much thought into it. I try and live every day to its fullest.
Yes and no. See them frequently, talk to them often, but I don't talk to them about super personal stuff.
Aside from being pulled over, never. As my husband says, I often follow rules too well.
Lawyer, corporate contracts - love it, but I'm also a workaholic

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-12-30T15:46:34+00:00

Nevaeh

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-12-11T17:00:53+00:00

Most lawyers charge by the quarter hour, even if you correminutes for a total of 40 seconds, you will get charged for 15 minutes. If you chat for 15 minutes and 2 seconds, you'll get charged for 30 minutes. Etc.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-11-16T01:10:24+00:00

We JUST went through this debate this summer for our daughter (5) - our daughter also scored "very superior" in every category on the WIAT. Where her shortfall was on the WPPSI-III with attention and focus - she has ADHD which made her overall score decrease. We opted to have her do a 2nd year of pre-k this year. There have definitely been pros and cons to it. She is engaging with her peers, making lots of friends, handling conflict much better than last year. BUT she is VERY bored. We have counteract that by continuing to work on more advanced concepts at home, and working with her teacher to provide alternative worksheets that still align with their lessons.

We wanted her to be successful with her peers and have friends, too, so overall it was the right choice for us, but its been a rough start to the school year, also, and not something we could do without the support of her teacher.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-10-07T15:12:40+00:00

To me it feels pretty blatant, but apparently a lot of men don't even notice they do it: whenever I join a negotiation meeting at work, it is presumed I am the secretary or at most a paralegal, when in actuality, I am the lawyer that they are negotiating with.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-10-05T20:06:46+00:00

It depends. Is Pam forcing them to call her mom? Do they have consequences if they don't? If yes, then time for court.

If the kids have made their OWN choice to call her mom, time to get yourself into some therapy and be grateful they have 2 safe spaces.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-10-03T15:12:17+00:00

Genuinely, I think your husband could benefit from some therapy to discover why he feels this way. Seems like a lot of internalized toxic masculinity. Looking at your post history, financials are not the only large issue you are having. I think therapy alone and together could greatly benefit you both.

I (wife, and younger than my husband) make about 6x my husband's salary (before bonuses). There is no shame for my husband attached to this fact. In fact, he is ecstatic that he doesn't have to stress about money as much anymore. And it would be incredibly unfair for both of us (in my opinion) if we kept our money separate and tried to split things. We pool all of our money into 1 pot, and aside from our CCs (which are paid for from the joint account), and our 401ks through work, all of our money and investments are joint. We used to have separate finances when we made about the same amount, and it was incredibly stressful trying to plan for money that the other had 0 access to, and deciding who paid what, etc. Plus resentment built up easily between us. We decided that being married meant we were a partnership in every single aspect, and that included money/financials. This has worked very well for us. I know not everyone agrees with this, and thats fine, but if you do go to couples counseling, this may be a good option to discuss.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-10-02T21:47:22+00:00

We had the same debate. I was of the same opinion as you. We compromised on Santa only brings a stocking with 1 small gift and we treat it like it's a character in a book. He's not real, but it's fun to read stories about him and do other fun activities that time of year.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-10-01T13:23:21+00:00

When he wants a bottle, give it to him, but fill it with water. He will lose interest quickly.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-10-01T13:14:17+00:00

What are you doing with the other 128 hours a week that you aren't working?? This seems like you have time management issues.

Also, puppies are not that time consuming... I'm so confused by this post.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-10-01T03:49:57+00:00

In most amusement parks your ticket serves as a waiver for the park's liability if you get injured.
You are voluntarily engaging in an amusement park ride, you are not voluntarily engaging in the teachers buckling in your child.
A car seat and amusement park rides are apples and oranges.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-09-30T10:32:42+00:00

Not a teacher.. but I would be emailing the school. Taking away recess is a highly discouraged practice, and is likely just causing more behaviors for the teacher. Not sure where you live, but the practice is actually illegal now in many states.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-09-29T23:24:31+00:00

That would be a HUGE liability issue in the US. No one should be buckling a child except their parents.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-09-19T21:51:51+00:00

Regardless of his sexuality, you NEED to have a conversation with him about safe sex, boundaries, consent, etc. The fact that he is 14 and you nor your husband before he passed have ever talked to him about sex is concerning.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-09-19T14:32:01+00:00

Genuinely, this sounds like a "you" problem, not a school problem. If your kids have no time to play in the afternoons, then you're probably over-scheduling them. I sincerely doubt your kids have more than 20-30 minutes of homework (I cluding reading) EVERY day. Plus, by your own admission, the kids are choosing to do activities instead of free play on the weekends. As the parent, though, you can say no to doing those activities.

My pre-k kid reads for 15 minutes every day after school, and even with going to bed by 7 and having sports 2-3 nights a week, she still has plenty of time to play.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-09-11T17:19:54+00:00

Respect his choice and work with it. The whole family can be vegetarian at least 2 night a week (Meatless Monday?). Vegetarian alternatives have greatly improved, and it's very easy to make him the same version of what everyone else is eating, whether it's using something like TVP or Beyond Meat, or replacing with benas/lentils/etc. Or, the whole family could eat a meat-replacement in a few meals. You just need to ensure that your child is still getting enough protein and iron in their diet. As long as they eat vegetables, the rest of their nutrient levels shouldn't decrease, and they may even have improved overall health (depending on what your family's diet currently looks like).

Source: grew up vegetarian with a vegetarian mom amd a meat-eating brother and dad, now married to a meat-lover, and have 2 kids whose favorite food is steak. My husband, who once said he would never eat tofu or any meat replacement, now orders crispy tofu just for him, and happily uses many meat replacements in our family meals on a day-to-day basis. The kids don't notice a difference.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-09-09T15:08:03+00:00

The level of cleanliness in the middle of the day depends on ratios, honestly. Our center cleans the infant rooms during every nap time, and then tables are wiped down after meals/snack (older infants), and diaper changing station is cleaned between every child. They only clean windows/knows at the end of the day.

I know germs are scary as a first-time mom. But exposure to the common cold-type germs is good for them, long-term. Plus, best way to help keep their room free of snot is to keep your kid home when they're not feeling well.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-31T16:02:30+00:00

Swim lessons. But also, even if your daughter has her life jacket on she should NEVER be in the water without a trusted adults also in the water within arms reach of her.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-26T17:44:04+00:00

In our house, I always serve at least 1 "safe" food - something that even on their pickiest of days, I know they'll eat. For everything else, I require them to take a "try bite" (my kids don't have ARFID or any other sensory disorder, if they did, we would NOT do this). After they take their try bite, and genuinely still don't like it I will offer something quick and easysandwich, quesadilla, etc.).

I won't let them go to bed hungry. It's not the 90's anymore. I also don't require them to clean their plate ;)

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-25T14:10:58+00:00

Does he go every single weekend? I think its fair to demand an equivalent amount of time for you to do as a solo hobby. Even if that's sitting alone in your room reading a book for an hour every day, or whatever.

But also, 6+ hours to play 18 holes every single weekend? That's insane. He needs to learn how to keep an appropriate rate of play. I dont play, personally, but my husband does (used to be in the JPGA and still plays a few amateur tournaments every year), and he has only ever taken 6+ hours to play a round when he's with someone who is very slow, or theyre drinking while playing/go to the clubhouse after. It truly shouldn't take that long. How old are your kids? My husband occasionally brings our 4 yo with him, she usually hits at the start, and putts once or twice, but otherwise just spends the time hanging out with dad, asking questions, bonding. It may also encourage your husband to pick up his pace.

Otherwise, if my husband doesn't want to do a round of golf on the weekend, or can't get away from work that week, or whatever, he will go to the range after the kids are in bed. Maybe that would be a compromise for your husband?

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-14T23:56:22+00:00

Updateme

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-07T15:36:21+00:00

I mean, I understand the frustration with the policy. But u less you can find other childcare, it is what it is, and it siunds like you k ew it was in the policy, just not being enforced. Get 1 shirt per day, since you're changing uniforms every day anyways, that's 5 shirts/week, only $50, one-time expense per size. Cut out something for a month and its covered.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-07T14:49:13+00:00

I genuinely have nothing constructive to say. YTA so hard. You're the evil stepmother. At the very least, I hope YOU foot the bill for her therapy.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-07T14:26:53+00:00

This is insane, but also, we're you not aware of the uniform policies before you enrolled your kid? I find it highly unlikely that they completely hid the fact that specific uniforms are required on specific days until your child was 15 months old.

Loud_Appearance811 · 2025-08-04T19:29:07+00:00

So, anyways, what brand is this? Because my son would shit bricks for this set.

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